“The black sheep are the artists, visionaries and healers of our culture, because they are the ones willing to call into question those places which feel stale, obsolete, or without integrity. The black sheep stirs up the good kind of trouble. Her very life is a confrontation with all that has been assumed as tradition. Her being different serves to bring the family or group to consciousness where it has been living too long in the dark. As the idiom implies, she is the wayward one in the flock. Her life’s destiny is to stand apart. But paradoxically, it’s only when she honors that apartness that she finally fits in. The world needs your rebellion and the true song of your exile. In what has been banned from your life, you find a medicine to heal all that has been kept from our world. We must find the place within where things have been muted and give that a voice. Until those things are spoken, no truth can find its way forward. The world needs your unbelonging. It needs your disagreements, your exclusion, your ache to tear the false constructions down, to find the world behind this one.” ~Toko-pa Turner “The Prophetess” • 2017/2020
Isn’t it ironic? Once you’ve caught the narcissist cheating, THEY won’t trust YOU again. It’s like they consider it a betrayal that you discovered THEIR betrayal and will often successfully make YOU feel like the one in the wrong. Thus begins the endurance test of blame-shifting and finger-pointing, with you as the accused. Once you discover the true character of the narcissist, you will be hard-pressed to make it through a single day where you aren’t accused of all kinds of wrongdoings… many of which are utterly absurd, but more importantly, entirely false. Suffering from narcissistic abuse when everything you’ve tried just isn’t working can leave you feeling hopeless. The one thing we all face after suffering through narcissistic abuse: that endless feeling of being hopelessly alone…that no one understands our struggles or heartache. I know how you feel — I’ve been there myself – and there is almost no worse feeling in the world. The feeling that you’re in a never-ending nightmare. But life doesn’t have to be that way. I dug my way out of the nightmare, and you can, too, with the nurturing and transformative Essential Break Free Bootcamp – the narcissistic abuse recovery program that’s so effective, therapists are referring their own clients to it! ♡ ♥💕 Link in bio or https://bit.ly/3aPxo7N
I’m all about the energy. I’m all about energetic boundaries. I’m all about spending “energy bucks” wisely. I’m all about energy mastery. It’s doesn’t get more fundamental than this. Don’t lose another ounce of your energy to a narcissistic person. It only perpetuates a dysfunction of energy that keeps you distracted from your destiny and impairs your ability to sustain mental and physical activity. It literally KILLS your vitality and eats at your soul.
Never saw him as the package that included our sons .
Business of old , irregular , illegal is finally going to be resolved .
Surprised at the hold out ? Not I, I heard complaints over a $2 bank charge for him to automatically deposit my Spousal Support .. Of course he was relived of that , though judgements brought up his many car payments etc
Mentioned that he was to be responsible , however that varied ..the energy shifted and outcomes varied until the last hearing .
My words , he will never have enough of my money . It’s endless. I do not wish to question him due to his lying .
Initiate Partner Violence
Malignant
High Conflict
Very few lawyers know this , and it’s not merely Domestic Violence when a marriage is obtained when the other is targeted as the abuser .
It has delayed the liberation of our 3 children and their children until recent events , allow that his WAR is HIS and I release him to that eternal war within .
Clearing this took so much effort and resistance, but upon my ancestors revelations and history I learned I had the honor of clearing this , and added to my vow to create a safe world for Harper Ann who will never have the abusive experiences of her ancestors.
Of course that applies to 5 grandsons too
His kids
There’s lots to heal and I know that’s imposing but the rising out of that trauma has a universal theme ..a drum beat and one just need surrender to their highest power and ask to be gentle in the release ..knowing I was ready to leap forward and end the never ending narrative of an abuser who is a victim and owns his power in money and has spent plenty to thwart my truths .
My healing has been tested these past 7 months intensely but my faith remains .
I was told early on that I may not be able to have children. 4 years later I miscarried twins… I really believed children were not in my future.
Fade in fade out…
We had been married 8 years when we found out we were going to have a son. It was such a polar mix of emotion… Shock, elation, fear and excitement were included.
As I visualized my son in my body… growing… I knew I was providing a cocoon for another human life to grow in. I will say, those later months of pregnancy brought such a deeper appreciation of my own mother… I began thinking about the cocoon I had been formed in. I realized I had been in a cocoon of “mourning”, as her father had passed right before she was pregnant with me. Then of course, The question …. What was my mothers cocoon like? My grandmother had to have surgery while pregnant with my mother.
Makes you think about the “cocoon” you were in for months too …right? And maybe that helps to give your mother a break… because this DNA, ancestral lineage thread is real!
It all made more sense to me as I experienced the knowing that my baby was a literal piece of me, and all past generations, and this DNA was being carried into another human who could potentially some day pass it on to another.
I don’t think I realized how much my own emotion affected the cocoon I provided for my sons until 25 years later in a “medicine ceremony”. I saw that my second son was created in a cocoon of anxiety. (He has the “anxiety rings” in his eyes to prove it. Look up Iridology… you’ll be mind blown at what they can see in your eyes alone)
Anyway… circling back I realize that for me personally, being a mother hasn’t been so much about the fact I had another human growing inside me, but another human who is my own dna … a piece of me… a reflection of me and my former generations and their fathers former generations all carried down into another human to be included in the life of others. After that life form passed from my body any one could mother them.
That made it easier to be grateful for their “step mother” because she was so wonderful and truly cared for them and included them in her life.
So maybe your mother wasn’t your biological birth mother. But, if you are on this planet, a “mother” included you in her life for at least the months she was your cocoon! Let that soak in. You were included in her life, her body, and that was a gift.
In my opinion, Mother’s Day is a more inclusive term for all those who mothered.
Be sure to give a “HAPPY Mother’s Day” to the person/persons who cared enough about you to include you in their life, the ones who made you a part of their world, the ones who nurtured you… The ones who know your struggles and your wins. The ones who cheered you on …the ones who cared for you more than they cared for themselves. The ones who put you first. The ones who gave you cash before spending it on themselves… the ones who gave you the center of the cinnamon roll so you could have the better taste. The ones who gave you the “unrusted” lettuce, and made your broccoli into trees so you’d eat your vegetables. The one who made sure you made it to school, or expected more of you because they knew you were a special divine human. The one who made your senior night poster.… the one who still to this day prays for you before they go to sleep.
We are all loved more than we know… and it’s a day to appreciate that.
I honor the women who are aching for a child of their own. I honor the women who are grieving the loss of a child. I honor the women who are mothering another’s child. I honor the women who are mothering their mothers. I honor the women who are mothering each other. I honor the women who are mothering themselves. I honor all Mothers from past lives, this life and all lives after.
And ultimately I Honor, Love and Respect our “All-Mother” who made the existence of this day of celebration and honor possible.
It may not seem happy, but this one is different. This year it’s just another day – because we’re on active rescue now – we’re not accepting it – we’re actively fighting back against the bad people doing bad things to make them stop.
I know it hurts. We’ll figure it out and get your kids back to you and protect them.
It may be slow-going for a bit, one-by-one as we turn the tide against your foes and against your adversaries – but we’re here – and we’re not stopping until we’re successful.
You’re mom. Let’s get your kids back and protected. Not today exactly maybe, but we’re working on it, you’re working on it, it’s coming – that’s for certain.
Never doubt for a moment the unbreakable bond. Dorcy’s right, listen to Dorcy, she’ll help get things right.
I’m the stick – she’s the carrot. I get the fun part. I get to whack your ignorant mental health people and get them into line.
I know it’s weird and awkward – it’s spousal abuse using the child as a weapon… pretty effective too.
No worries. You did nothing wrong. It’s not your fault, bad people are doing bad things, we are going to make them stop – now – today.
Or know the reason why. I’m stone-cold serious, I’m going after their licenses one-by-one each time – happy Mother’s Day (and Father’s Day coming up) – whack – whack – whack = I get the fun part.
Talk to Dorcy, listen to Dorcy, don’t doubt for a second your unbreakable bond. They’re just confused. You’d be confused too if you had a parent like that.
Your child is giving you the problem because your child knows you can solve it – and you can. You just need support. You have support. Let’s go get your kids back.
So this Mom’s Day, we’re in active battle – Dad’s Day too this year – and for as long as it takes – today – now – it stops – or we know the reason why.
This is not a child custody issue. It’s a child protection issue. It’s a spousal protection issue. They have duty to protect obligations – whack – whack – whack – it is fun, I must admit – whack – then need to know what they’re doing when the life of your child is on the line.
You be kind, always be kind – you have a different role – you’re more powerful than you know – it’s just your triggers, your insecurities in your patterns from the past.
Dorcy will help you let those go, get rid of the triggers and buttons that get you spinning this way and that – respond don’t react.
I’m here. Dorcy’s here. We’re not going anywhere and we’re both on active recovery now – whack – met too now.
Happy Mother’s Day – a whack from me to you for all those nonsense people who are currently here but not for long – we’re not accepting anything any longer – I get the fun part – you get the best part – you be kind – let’s go get your kids.
Craig Childress, Psy.D. Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857
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