Category: Parential Alienation-Child Abuse

Last Breath

When you take your last breath and your heart beats no more. It will not matter anymore the problems you had in this life, your pain and your sadness will have no more meaning. What you have gained outside of yourself that you value will mean nothing to you, and what you have gained within you will mean everything as you now take your place in the Spirit world. The future to the Lakota ancestors was not about obtaining riches or power but it was to prepare ourselves in this short life to enter into the next world. For the truest reward you could give yourself is to acheive a closer relationship with Wakan Tanka within you and this you will truly take with you when you pass. For the closer you become to the divine source the better your spirit will experience in the next world, for what was most important and valued by the Ancestors was only what you could take with you from this short life and what you could not take had much less importance. Leaving your children with a more close and loving relationship with Wakan Tanka and Unci Maka is a much better gift than leaving them with money and physical possessions.

Friends

REAL FRIENDS CAN’T BE LOST

You cannot lose real friends.
You just can’t.
They won’t go, no matter how hard you push them away when you are not yourself.
They will wait
and wait
and wait,
until they see a tiny glimmer of your light breaking through
and back they will come, with open arms.
Your real friends are still there.

And if they feel lost to you right now,
perhaps it’s because they are lost to themselves.
Just wait
and wait
and wait,
then knock on that door,
reach in, just in case they can’t reach out.
And do it again until they answer.

If you are feeling sad about the people you have ‘lost’ along the way my friend,
don’t.
They were never yours to keep.
Real friends don’t need to be earned, or appeased, or coaxed.
They are in it for the long haul and for all the right reasons.

And each of those friends is worth a dozen fair-weather,
so count your lucky stars if you have even one.

Keep your circle small but let its light be mighty.

You can’t lose real friends,
they just won’t go.

By Donna Ashworth
From ‘the right words’

Donna Ashworth Words

Easy Detox Method

ONION

It’s hard to believe, but it works to cleanse your body effortlessly. You don’t need to drink tasteless drinks and take various medicines that would help strengthen your immune system. All you have to do is take an onion in the kitchen, cut it into colobars and put it in a sock. Your blood circulation will repair itself after just one night and remove harmful bacteria and germs from your body.

Chinese doctors made a map of reflex points on feet and palms 5000 years ago and invented foot massage. If you combine reflex massage with onion work, you will get one of the most healing tricks of the last few years.

TOP 11 characteristics of onion:

1. Your blood will be cleaned and your blood circulation will improve

2. It may sound unusual to you but it helps with unpleasant feet odor

3. Your liver will be cleaned out

4. Do you have high cholesterol? What are you waiting for! Put socks on and put onions in them

5. Onion will prevent dangerous and insidious blood clots from appearing in your body

6. It will relieve bronchitis symptoms and even asthma

7. It will remove all the bacteria and germs out of you

8. Do you have a weak immune system? Well from now on this wont be an issue either

9. Even your sleep will improve. Do you have a doubt? Then try it and check it out

10. Do you have pain in your legs, do your knees hurt and you have cramps? The onion is the answer.

11. Your digestion will improve and tension will no longer be a problem

What do you need to do?

In the evening, cut onions into about half a centimeter thick colobars and place them on your foot. Then put your socks on and have them on all night.

Try – it’s not a sin to try!

Red onion helps the most!

Ending all narcissistic research is close for me

Dissecting and investigating the narcissist’s behaviors and relationship crimes may help you feel validated and to understand that it’s not you…but you don’t want to waste years of your life in that space.

No one has ever cracked the narcissistic code and went on to have a healed relationship with a narcissist.⁠

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I feel so sorrowful for folks when I see they’ve been out of their toxic relationships for 5, 10, 15 years, or more and they are still lamenting the relationship. ⁠

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This tells me they are still internalizing the false blame for the relationship ending; that they are still seeking answers; that they are addicted to researching narcissism and staying stuck in heartbreak and trauma.⁠

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Toxic relationships cause a biochemical addiction (also known as peptide addiction). It’s no different from an addiction to drugs, alcohol, or smoking…or any type of addiction.⁠

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Just as a smoker may quit smoking yet get addicted to nicotine gum, a narcissistic abuse survivor can quit the narcissist, but become addicted to researching narcissism.⁠

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Case in point – a few times each year, I put out surveys asking my followers and email subscribers what kind of material they want me to publish. Most people say they want more healing material. So, I put out more healing material and it barely receives any views or engagement. But if I put out anything with the word “narcissist” in it, it is consumed like mad.⁠

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That’s not to say you shouldn’t be in support groups designed for forward movement and healing, but that the hours-a-day binge-watching YouTube videos and reading material on narcissism will keep you stuck indefinitely if you don’t put an expiration date on it. ⁠

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Part of recovery is learning to take care of your psyche. You will eventually need to stop consuming information about narcissists and turn toward information, treatment, and programs that will help you finally heal and move forward. ⁠

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Otherwise, you could be stuck for life. ⁠

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💪 If you’d like gentle guidance on taking your power back from the narcissist, join me and other wonderful thrivers in my therapist-approved resources. ⁠

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Your Body Instrument

“Your body is not your masterpiece — your life is.

It is suggested to us a million times a day that our BODIES are PROJECTS. They aren’t. Our lives are. Our spirituality is. Our relationships are. Our work is.

Stop spending all day obsessing, cursing, perfecting your body like it’s all you’ve got to offer the world. Your body is not your art, it’s your paintbrush. Whether your paintbrush is a tall paintbrush or a thin paintbrush or a stocky paintbrush or a scratched up paintbrush is completely irrelevant. What is relevant is that YOU HAVE A PAINTBRUSH which can be used to transfer your insides onto the canvas of your life — where others can see it and be inspired and comforted by it.

Your body is not your offering. It’s just a really amazing instrument which you can use to create your offering each day. Don’t curse your paintbrush. Don’t sit in a corner wishing you had a different paintbrush. You’re wasting time. You’ve got the one you got. Be grateful, because without it you’d have nothing with which to paint your life’s work. Your life’s work is the love you give and receive — and your body is the instrument you use to accept and offer love on your soul’s behalf. It’s a system.

We are encouraged to obsess over our instrument’s SHAPE — but our body’s shape has no effect on it’s ability to accept and offer love for us. Just none. Maybe we continue to obsess because as long we keep wringing our hands about our paintbrush shape, we don’t have to get to work painting our lives. Stop fretting. The truth is that all paintbrush shapes work just fine — and anybody who tells you different is trying to sell you something. Don’t buy. Just paint.

No wait — first, stop what you are doing and say THANK YOU to your body — right now. Say THANK YOU to your eyes for taking in the beauty of sunsets and storms and children blowing out birthday candles and say THANK YOU to your hands for writing love letters and opening doors and stirring soup and waving to strangers and say THANK YOU to your legs for walking you from danger to safety and climbing so many mountains for you.

Then pick up your instrument and start painting this day beautiful and bold and wild and free and YOU. Paint this day beautiful, bold, wild & free.”~

~Glenan Doyle, Momastary

art: Francien Krieg