Tag: relationships

“Black Sheep”

The so-called black sheep of the family are, in fact, hunters born of paths of liberation into the family tree.

The members of a tree who do not conform to the norms or traditions of the family system, those who since childhood have constantly sought to revolutionise beliefs, going against the paths marked by family traditions, those criticised, judged and even rejected, these are usually called to free the tree of repetitive stories that frustrate entire generations.

The black sheep, those who do not adapt, those who cry rebelliously, play a basic role within each family system, they repair, pick up and create new and unfold branches in the family tree.

Thanks to these members, our trees renew their roots. Its rebellion is fertile soil, its madness is water that nourishes, its stubbornness is new air, its passion is fire that re-ignites the light of the heart of the ancestors.

Uncountable repressed desires, unfulfilled dreams, the frustrated talents of our ancestors are manifested in the rebelliousness of these black sheep seeking fulfilment. The genealogical tree, by inertia will want to continue to maintain the castrating and toxic course of its trunk, which makes the task of our sheep a difficult and conflicting work.

However, who would bring new flowers to our tree if it were not for them? Who would create new branches? Without them, the unfulfilled dreams of those who support the tree generations ago would die buried beneath their own roots.

Let no one cause you to doubt, take care of your rarity as the most precious flower of your tree.

You are the dream of all your ancestors.

– Bert Hellinger

Find his books, and books on Family Constellations, here: https://amzn.to/4dDJX49

art | Monica Fernandez

https://www.instagram.com/monicafernandezb/?hl=en

#midwivesofthesoul #berthellinger #monicafernandez #blacksheep

Narcissist Reality

Pathological narcissists FEEL that they are entitled and superior. They perceive life, interactions, relationships, and all happenings through a lens in which they believe that **** what they FEEL is truth.
Their sense of entitlement and superiority allow them to believe that they own the sole rights to reality, truth. As they function from a place of a false self, they believe that what they FEEL dictates reality. What does this mean, though?
It means, that, if a pathological narcissist FEELS that you have hurt them, even if all actual evidence points to the fact you have not hurt them, they perceive their FEELINGS to be all the evidence that they need to make what they FEEL to be true. You cannot argue real facts or evidence to plead your case. AS SOON AS the pathological narcissist FELT like you hurt them, they believed it to be truth.
This goes into the scope of ANY and ALL FEELINGS that the narc may experience. They will accuse you of lying, deceiving, and manipulating them if they FEEL like you have. They will accuse victims of acts, behaviors, and intentions that have no grounding in actual reality, yet, if they FEEL that the victim has committed the act, behaved in a certain way, or intended something negative, then, to the narc, it automatically becomes the truth to them.
For the rest of us, we realize that feelings are feelings. Feelings are separate from actual facts, evidence, or proof. For narcs, they PERCEIVE their FEELINGS TO BE facts, evidence, and to them, irrefutable proof. If they FEEL hurt, then they conclude that you hurt them. How did you hurt them? Where is the proof that you hurt them? The narcissist = “The proof is that I feel hurt.” If they feel that you lied to them (when you know that you did not). How did I lie to you? Where is the evidence? The narc= “The proof is that I feel that you lied to me.” If they feel that you cheated on them. Why do you think this? Where is the proof? The narc = ” The proof is that I feel that you cheated on me.”
Pathological narcissists are living in a world of magical thinking (the thought process that allows them to see themselves as perfect/flawless/superior) and a world that denies a shared, accepted reality. They create their reality. To them, their reality is the reigning reality. The victim becomes trapped in their false reality. When the victim attempts to argue facts, evidence, and actual proof, the narcissist views this, itself as a threat, because according to them, what they FEEL is the be all end all of it. They perceive that the victim is trying to manipulate them when they are presenting facts and actual evidence. To them, they have already scripted their version of reality in accordance to their FEELINGS. Their delusional thinking is deeply ingrained. ©️2022 Holding The Space: A Path of Insight for Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse

Family Cut off … promoting family estrangement

I challenge everyone to contact this man Partick Teahan he is promoting

courses on how and when to cut off family!

Go to his site ask him to listen to our stories and what he is doing to our

children

I will post a picture of one of his slides in the comments. Please help stop this

madness ! And maybe how to teach our children communication. Ty

https://membership.patrickteahantherapy.com/c/contact-us/

Council for targeted parents : NO complaining

The following is from a parent who is throwing in

the towel on her estrangement from children , being

advised by professionals to say nothing ..

“On counselors telling parents they cant complain, they must accept their child’s terms and fairness doesnt matter if you want a relationship and you must remain silent no matter how unfair parental alienation!
You all remind me of the pastor who told me if I was nicer to my husband he wouldn’t beat me! He told me I should be ashamed of myself for showing up at church with bruises on my body! And if I wanted a happy life I need to learn to walk softer on egg shells.
🤮 There comes a time you don’t even want a relationship with them anymore! I’m disgusted by them! Good riddance to cruel people!”

Sudden Death & Trauma

A few weeks ago , I received a call from a gal whom I’ve bonded with for

varied reasons , several years ago.

She has had a rough life , married legally but separated from a man whose

goal in life was to abuse and torture her .

He even snuck onto her property and syphoned her automobile gas !

She is also n very bad health and her home is unhealthy as well , and there

was a threat of her loosing her home.

Still she does charity work and try’s her best .

And that’s a lot .

So this beautiful surviving earth angel , received the news that her husband

had died in his sleep . He did not live with anyone, they had no children

and so she will be entitled to his Social Security , and more .

Her abuser is deceased.

No one got in touch with her , no one who could have warned her , and

that’s sad .

Of course , she deserves all she can receive , after the shaming , character

assignation, etc that he has slammed her with for decades . She is a beautiful

Earth Angel , who serves our community, and thankfully her days of abuse

and lack are over.

When she called with this news, I reminded her that lower energies ,

who have done much harm will be exiting , during these days ..

It was an affirmation , and though death is final , and she is released

he had a choice ..He chose to continue the abusive tactics , and he was forced

to receive his spiritual judgement .

youtube.com/watch