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How does a child cope with ALIENATION from a parent they LOVE?

A child who has been induced into aligning with one parent against another has to survive this trauma however they can. Often they ‘split’ and this is to almost become a different person. It has been described as a ‘false persona’ while the true self is in itself alienated and hidden behind a false facade. This makes it ‘easier’ to cope with having to take on the false persecutory beliefs of the alienating parent who they feel they must align with (to survive). In this way, we could see the child’s anger, criticism, disdain, and rejection of the ‘other’ parent, as coping mechanisms too. They just can’t deal with it all. They’re dealing with coercive control, lies, enmeshment … they have been weaponised against a previously loved parent (they still do love). But at some point, when the child/ren has that ‘lightbulb moment’ and starts to see things different/more independently, it is extraordinarily difficult for them/their ego to accept how they’ve been played. The shame and guilt is huge. The false persona has to be replaced with the true, authentic self. They have to deal with feelings of anger towards the alienating parent, and learn to forgive and understand why they did what they did. They have to find a way to forgive the mental health and legal system that supported their continued alienation from a loving parent – from the healthy-minded parent. This child needs to reconnect, not only with their alienated parent but also their true self who split off in order to cope. This is why the target/alienated parent must do all they can to empower themselves with an understanding of the pathology, and emotional and mental resilience, despite a shocking lack of support out there, and the anti-PA campaigners. Strive to be happy. Stay strong. And please see more of my posts on Instagram. I post 2-6 each day to spread awareness about parental alienation, to inform and to uplift. I hope they help. https://www.instagram.com/charliemccready1/

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