Tag: Children

Adult Survivors of Child Psychological Abuse

“Through my own healing I’ve learned that “bad behavior“ of a child in a toxic family system is more than likely a healthy, natural reaction to antagonistic emotional games. Unfortunately, when you were a child there was no way for you to conceptualize this. In toxic family systems, emotional games are used in lieu of the time, love, attention, parenting, or bonding required to make children feel healthy and secure. Because of this deep insecurity, you leave childhood inexperienced in love, highly experienced in fear, and feeling deeply ashamed of who you are, with no understanding as to why. It is essential to understand the whys of the person you have become.

Healing core wounds starts with your efforts to rewire the way you think and feel about yourself.

Deprogramming psychological abuse is a critical step in your healing. Brush past this step, and the lies you have been told about who you are will continue to hold you hostage to your feelings of insecurity long after you have separated from your abusers. Deprogramming involves unpacking the trauma that created your core wounds. You must identify your abusers and examine the lies that they programmed you to believe about yourself so you can start telling yourself a more honest narrative.” – Sherrie Campbell, PhD

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Positive Parenting Can Mitigate Effects of Childhood Stress, Study Reveals

When youth report experiencing positive-parenting, they exhibit fewer stress-related behavioral problems and larger hippocampal volumes.
— Read on www.madinamerica.com/2023/06/positive-parenting-can-mitigate-effects-of-childhood-stress-study-reveals/

Self-Labeling with Psychiatric Terminology is Harmful for Youth

A new study shows that self-labeling with mental health diagnoses can be harmful to youth self-esteem.
— Read on www.madinamerica.com/2023/06/self-labeling-with-psychiatric-terminology-may-be-more-harmful-than-helpful-for-youth/

Conflict Communications – Child Psychological Abuse

I regret I spoke truths sons were not ready for.. I regret they carry the anger , hostility, and fears of their Dad that allow them to target me and relay how worthless I am .

I regret I did not have an awareness in 2003 , as I began to wake , eventually understanding the gravity of decisions made when I wasn’t awake, or alert to schemes to separate me from anything normal in so many ways including the rejection of me , so Dad would be happy ..

I regret , but am surrendered after over 2 decades that I remain the monster in their closets , they are happy and secure in the love and family dynamic of a Dad who had to WIN, at everything , disregarding the abuses of each child and myself .

They have families, they have children , and their own destiny which they have allowed me to know doesn’t include me .

Narcissist never co parent , it’s always counter parenting .

Narcissists don’t co-parent!

They don’t want to fall in line and do the right thing!

They don’t want to be held accountable, follow the rules and regulations, and don’t want to be harmonious!

They don’t want to play on a team!

The only thing a narcissist is interested in – is narcissistic supply.

This means, “I can affect other people significantly enough to know that I exist.” It’s the attention they crave more than anything else.

So, when you are attempting to co-parent with a narcissist, he or she is going to trigger you. They’re going to be uncooperative. They’re going to say one thing and do another. They will use the children as pawns, absolutely to trigger you to get a reaction, which means – I’m significant enough to affect you.

A narcissist wants to play games and use all of these tactics to punish you.

How dare you leave them? Or how dare you try and get on with your life? Or how dare you tell other people what they are or how they behave? How dare you?

The false self can’t deal with that.

So, punishing you by using the children as pawns is a very, very common tactic.

Lots of Love,

Mel 🦋

Child Psychological Abuse

When an alienated child comes back around and realizes the alienated parent was the healthy, loving parent and the alienating parent was the unhealthy and abusive parent, they will realize that their whole life was a lie.

They will become ashamed of themselves self and their part in hurting the healthy, loving parent. All of the monumental times in their lives will be something that pains them to talk about in the presence of the alienated parent. It will hurt the child to think about the alienated parent missing out on their recitals, their games, graduations, their wedding and even the birth(s) of their children. They will feel that they cannot speak of these moments or share photos with the alienated parent or others in the alienated parent’s presence.

Alienation steals the memories and incites self loathing in a child that is supposed to be protected and loved, which will carry on through their entire lives!

Child Psychological Abuse

Protection of children

How can you protect children?

Most children are open and vulnerable. Often the masculine energy of their father or an uncle or grandfather will automatically protect them. However, if they do not have a strong male parent or relative they will need extra protection.

Pray for protection for the child and specifically ask for that which you feel will be most helpful. Then visualise it surrounding the child. Many of the new children are psychic, open and ungrounded and they can be helped if you also seal their auras physically. In that case rub your hands together to create energy. Hold them up and ask the angels of protection or Archangel Michael to touch them.

Then run your palms over the child’s aura about 4˝ (10cms) away from their body until you feel their aura has become even and is sealed. If you place a photo of the child on a photo of Archangel Michael they will automatically receive his protection.

Children Are Vulnerable Cogs in the Psychiatric Machine – Mad In America

My guardian decided to seek out “professional” advice about how to diminish my “outbursts.” I was perceived as a problem that needed to be extinguished into a compliant state.
— Read on www.madinamerica.com/2023/06/children-vulnerable-cogs-psychiatric-machine/

Craig Childress PsyD – Pathology of Lies

Devoid of truth or light … know this all too well

This is a pathology of lies. How many times have I told you that?

Countless times – because is is true. Stop reacting like it’s unexpected. It’s not. It’s a symptom feature of the pathogen, it lies all the time. Not some of the time… all of the time.

Even when there is no reason to lie… it lies. This is a pathology of lies, the pathogen lies all the time. All. How do you know when the pathogen is lying? Its lips are moving. All the time, it lies ALL the time.

I wish I had an example from our everyday world I could show you of a narcissistic, psychopathic, manipulative Dark Triad personality who is collapsing into persectuory delusions and constant continual lies.

You know what that’s like. Your pathological ex- lies to the judge in declarations and you spend hours and hours compiling all the evidence to prove the lies. What do they do when you prove their lies are lies?

They lie again. They just don’t stop lying. It’s a symptom feature of the pathology. So are your huge mountains of evidence you’ve compiled trying to prove reality to people.

You don’t need to prove reality to me. I already know reality – you’re fine – you did nothing wrong, it’s not your fault, you’re ex-spouse is psychotic and cruel – the type of psychotic (out of touch with reality) is called a “persecutory delusion” – delusion is the professional term for the big-lie, the one at the core.

The big lie is that the child is being malevolently treated in some way by you. That’s not true, that’s a lie, that’s just crazy… the professional term for “that’s just crazy” is a delusion, in this case it’s a persecutory delusion – a fixed and false belief in supposed victimization.

I wish I had an example from everyday life I could show you. I think a real-life example would make it oh-so-clear… lying is a symptom feature of the pathogen, it lies all the time – all of it. All.

Its lips are moving… it’s lying again.

The pathogen seeks to destabilize you in every way possible. It creates a false reality of lies. You trigger… don’t trigger. Stay grounded. You’re the healthier parent, you’re the protective parent. You have work to do, you’ll need to step-up and step into leading the family.

You will face challenges because the mental health system in the family courts is immensely broken. We’ll need to fly the airplane at the same time as we fix the airplane. That’s a challenge. I’m a certified pilot, I’m here with you and will talk you through it.

We have to obtain an accurate diagnosis for the cause of the attachment pathology with you and your child. You want a treatment plan to fix it. Hold onto that and don’t let go… you want a treatment plan to fix the attachment pathology being displayed by the child.

The pathogen tells lies about you. Of course it does – it lies all the time, not some of the time… ALL the time. Even when it doesn’t have to lie… it lies. It’s the craziest thing to see… it doesn’t need to lie… but it can’t help itself… it lies all the time.

Perhaps if you look around you can find an example from our everyday life of a narcissistic, psychopathic, manipulative Dark Triad personality who lies all the time – all of it – forcing the real-world to generate mountains of detailed evidence proving the lies.

And what’s the pathogen’s response when caught – in detail – in the lie? It lies again. Expect it. Anticipate it. Don’t trigger. Don’t disprove the lies – speak the truth – it’s a shared (induced) persecutory delusion – and get an accurate diagnosis because you’ll need a treatment plan to fix the attachment pathology in your child and family – to fix the problem.

You’re the healthier parent. We need your leadership in times of chaos and collapse. You’re the protective parent. I know that and you know that. So let’s get to work protecting your child.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857