Tag: child Psychological abuse

Craig Childress PsyD – Petition to the APA

Hey, hey, hey… do you know why I hand-delivered the Petition to the APA signed by 20,000 parents to the APA – to expose the pathogen in the APA… and in you… the targeted parents.

I took two parent advocates with me. Neither parent followed up with the APA. Nothing. They didn’t care about you – just them – “what about me?”

If it’s not directly relevant to them… they don’t care… you don’t care. I know that about you. The Petition to the APA was a “probe” of your motivational networks.

You… the targeted parents… are NOT motivated to solve the pathology in the family courts. You want to solve YOUR family situation… you don’t care about what happens to the other children and parents.

Just you.

I delivered the Petition to the APA for two reasons, 1) to document the APA was told – pursuant to Standard 1.05 – I fulfilled my mandatory (required) obligation. I told them.

What did they do? Nothing. That’s exactly negligent cover-up I wanted to expose in them… so I did. I knew what their motivation was… so I exposed it in the documentation… for now.

I’m solving the pathology in the family courts entirely by myself – goat – I’m a clinical psychologist and I’m working. This is my pathology. I’ve fixing systems to fix the pathology.

Now, in 2025, I’ll be turning into the AFCC to deliver broadside after broadside into their forensic custody evaluations… and once I’m sufficiently satisfied, I’ll turn into the APA with the same devastating cannon fire – I told you.

They gave the Petition to the APA to someone within the APA… I know who… it’s like the permanent paint banks put in bags of money in a robbery. When the robber opens the bag – bam – they’re marked with permanent paint.

The Petition to the APA is like that for all psychologists who read it – we all have mandatory, required, obligations under 1.04 and 1.05. There’s a reason for ethical standards. There’s a reason for Standards 1.04 & 1.05.

Sometimes… people just need to see.

I work two to five years ahead. Covid created a delay in my timing. The Petition to the APA is now beginning to glow. I’ll be re-activating it soon.

And it told me about you. You, the parents, never followed-up. Not exactly the you-parents current here, the you-parents who didn’t care about what happened to you… just to them.

So they parents left the awful-awful forensic psychologists they had… for you. Next.

You’re next. I watched. I documented it. That’s what I’ve been doing, documenting everything that’s there – everything – from minor’s counsels, to custody evaluators, to 4-day workshops, to self-proclaimed “experts” in made-up pathology, to the flying monkeys that harass anyone who tries to help you.

The core is the forensic psychologists – the betrayers – the ones who should protect… and don’t.

They exploited you for you money. That’s the only thing they did. They solved nothing with their experimental approach on you and your children. There’s no quasi-judicial role for doctors… they just made up that role.

Then they made up a new type of assessment for their experimental quasi-judicial role. It failed. Their experimental evaluation is “dangerous” and “harmful to children”, and it “lacks scientific and legal value”.

They are ignorant, incompetent, and unethical… and I’m going after their licenses for their negligently incompetent and unethical malpractice and failure in duty to protect obligations.

If a psychologist participates in child abuse and spousal abuse of their client… they should NOT be a psychologist. They have a duty to protect the child – and the parent – they are failing.

Miserably failing. Their experiment failed – and the lives of thousands of children and their parents were irrevocably destroyed by their failed experiment… these psychologists with names… that I know.

To reveal that which is hidden – The Mirror.

Mirror, Mirror on the wall, are the targeted parents motivated to solve the problem?

No. Only your problem. The targeted parents don’t care what happens to the others. I sent in a probe of their motivational systems… silence from the APA… silence from the parents.

I took two parent advocates with me to hand-deliver the Petition to the APA to the APA offices in Washington, DC… to probe your motivational networks (and to give you a weapon if you wanted one… you don’t want one).

Okay. If you require me to solve everything all by myself… I will. I am. I have. It will take longer. More children and parents of the future will be lost to the pathology.

But you don’t care – they didn’t care – about you – you don’t care about those who follow – “What about me?”

I understand. Your children mean the world to you, you’re afraid, disoriented, and abused – you have a traumatized brain. I understand why.

It’ll just take longer and we’ll lose more children and parents to the pathology. Oh well.

The Petition to the APA is not the only probe I have sent into the motivational networks of the targeted parents. You have the ruby slippers, you can solve this whenever you want… but you don’t – they didn’t.

So you’re here now in exactly the same position they were in… with exactly the same awful-awful doctors and no choice. Go ahead, prove “parental alienation” to a judge at trial just like all the others before you tried to the same outcome… failure and destruction of your lives.

Go ahead… do it over-and-over… try to prove a made-up pathology label rather than rely on the DSM-5. You – don’t – listen.

I have several probes into the parents (and other sectors) to obtain the information I needed… you don’t want to solve the pathology… you want to “prove something to someone”.

What do you want to “prove”? That you “deserve” to be a parent. You don’t believe you do. You question yourself.

Plus you’re abused. You’re an active spousal abuse victim. You have a traumatized brain. The problem isn’t you… it’s my folks, the psychologists… the betrayers.

One group of psychologists exploits you for your money and solves nothing, the forensic psychologists. One group of psychologists abandons you and your children to the pathology, the clinical psychologists.

You have NO competent mental health services in the family courts.

None. Zero.

Let that sink in… you have NO competent mental health services available to you… and professional psychology, the AFCC & APA, and the licensing boards don’t care.

I wonder why that is? I know why that is.

“Dr. Childress, how do I get a diagnosis for my child and family?” A: I don’t know when none of the doctors you have will diagnose pathology.

All the doctors everywhere else in healthcare will diagnose pathology – ADHD – cancer – diabetes – autism – only YOUR doctors, your “forensic” psychologists refuse to diagnose the problem.

And you accept that. They did, the ones before you… so now you have to accept it too. You cannot get a diagnosis for your child and family.

It’s child abuse – Psychological Child Abuse (V995.51) – a shared persecutory delusion and a false (factitious) attachment pathology imposed on the child for secondary gain to the allied parent – but you cannot get a diagnosis for the child abuse from your doctors.

And that will be true for the parents who follow after – because those who came before didn’t care about what happens to you… just them.

Just like you don’t care what happens to them… just you. No one is motivated to solve the pathology… not even you.

Mirror, Mirror, on the wall, show me their motivation.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist

WA 6153848 – CA PSY 18857

The manipulated alienated child – Charlie Mc Cready

It’s painful for the alienated child when they realise they’d put their trust in a parent who didn’t entirely have their best interests in mind, they were mostly thinking of themselves. They were being childish, vengeful and selfish when as a parent they’d have been expected, and trusted to be emotionally mature, mentally balanced, nurturing, and unconditionally loving.

Coming to terms with being manipulated, lied to, and deprived of a relationship with a loving parent can be a challenging process for an alienated child. It often involves recognising and acknowledging what really happened, which can evoke feelings of anger, sadness, and betrayal. Healing and reconciliation requires support from people who understand parental alienation. They can gradually gain insight into the dynamics at play and develop a healthier perspective on the situation. It is essential for the child to separate their own identity and emotions from the alienating parent’s influence, allowing them to reclaim their autonomy and make informed decisions about their relationships. Ultimately, the healing process involves finding ways to rebuild trust, establish boundaries, and create a fulfilling life that includes a sense of love and connection with both parents, regardless of the alienating parent’s actions.

A significant amount of programming of false beliefs and fictions need to be untangled so they can move on with their life as a sovereign, happy, healthy-minded individual who is free to love who they choose, not only who their alienating parent allows them to love.

Alienated children need to be immensely brave and strong to break free, but they can and do. Some cut ties with the alienating parent; some find a way to have both parents in their lives, which was always the best situation for them.

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Estrangement example

There are many professionals who have addressed the alienation and trauma of family estrangement and many are dangerous concepts . Inner healing is individual and should be as long and hard process .

I have statistics that state 1 of 5 kids are affected and that demands better therapies , better treatment, more educated and legal professionals and procedures that are based on truths , on facts and ultimately in the best interest of each family member , Justice , and the child that does not require treatments , prescription medications and life experiences that are more than challenging.

My daughter posted this on her FB page. I’ve never read or heard of this book and I didn’t send it to her. I’ve had no contact with her for over 6 years. They all ghosted me. She is a covert narcissist. When she no longer needed me she discarded me and convinced everyone I abused her. I was in shock. I told her I did everything for her and my now-grown grandchildren. She said every parent does that. No big deal.

I’m mostly healed from the estrangement, but this post angered me due to her total lack of gratitude. I raised my kids alone after finding their father dead from suicide. I was only 22 years old. I had no help and it was not easy. I showered my kids with love constantly. I guess hardship is considered abuse now. There is no abuse worse than an adult child discarding their elderly mother. There is no greater pain.

This is her post.

It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle by Mark Wolynn
It Didn’t Start with You is about how trauma is passed down generationally, and how to heal it.
In my (unpopular, according to reviews) opinion, the reason this book has sold so well is because we, as a society, don’t know why we’re traumatized. It’s easier for us to paint over a dirty fence, attempting to bandage our family problems through “feel good” efforts.
Wolynn suggests that we all have inherited familial trauma that’s passed down through our DNA, and once we become aware of what our parents and grandparents experienced, we can heal all wounds and have happy relationships.
Easy peasy.
Maybe when you’ve had the ideal upbringing. But did you?
He doesn’t address dysfunction or abuse within the family. Instead he suggests being compassionate towards them, as if knowing about their traumas will absolve them from anything they may have done to you when you were growing up, or even as an adult.
Learned behaviors, beliefs, and feelings that have formed as a result of one’s experiences within the family—Wolynn attributes these to genetic generational trauma, subconscious memories from our ancestors. To him, these drive our behavior. He uses this framework for his system of “healing.” He does not address poverty, hardship, or emotional, verbal, physical, or sexual abuse.
He shares stories about his patients’ sense of relief and healing, but their underlying challenges have not been addressed, their relationships not truly changed. If none of the reader’s personal circumstances are looked at, all of this “generational trauma” is conjecture. The fence is still dirty and the paint peels sooner or later.
“We must first repair our broken relationships with our parents.”
How does he suggest that we do this? He suggests we take responsibility for our parents. He doesn’t suggest how to seek a relationship with them where they do the same. If they took responsibility for their past grievances, they would change their behavior, not in the short term, but for the long haul.
The onus falls on the adult child.
If your parents experienced past traumas, it doesn’t mean they win a “get out of jail free card.”
Wolynn states, “You can’t change what was, but you can change what is, as long as you don’t expect your parents to change or be different from who they are. It is you who must hold the relationship differently. That’s your work. Not your parent’s work. The question is are you willing?”
You can be compassionate and understand your parents’ pain, but that doesn’t mean you must acquiesce to dysfunction or abuse.
Here are a couple of my favorite “healing sentences” he suggests using if you’ve “rejected” a parent:
“I’m sorry for how difficult I’ve been.”
“I’ll take your love as you give it, not as I expect it.”
“I’m sorry that I pulled away. I promise, for the remaining time we have together, I’ll be closer.”
People think this is helping them, but it’s putting them through the same pain their parents did.
It Didn’t Start with You is dysfunctional therapy. I’m concerned for any vulnerable person who seeks out this type of “therapy”, or for any therapist who employs its ideas. It’s better suited to line a bird cage.
In fact, this book did line my bird’s cage. That’s because my abusive mother sent it to me after I finally cut contact—to absolve herself from her behavior, and to tell me that it’s my fault.
You can heal even if your parents refuse to.

The Alienated Child -Charlie McCready

It’s painful for the alienated child when they realise they’d put their trust in a parent who didn’t entirely have their best interests in mind, they were mostly thinking of themselves. They were being childish, vengeful and selfish when as a parent they’d have been expected, and trusted to be emotionally mature, mentally balanced, nurturing, and unconditionally loving.

Coming to terms with being manipulated, lied to, and deprived of a relationship with a loving parent can be a challenging process for an alienated child. It often involves recognising and acknowledging what really happened, which can evoke feelings of anger, sadness, and betrayal. Healing and reconciliation requires support from people who understand parental alienation. They can gradually gain insight into the dynamics at play and develop a healthier perspective on the situation. It is essential for the child to separate their own identity and emotions from the alienating parent’s influence, allowing them to reclaim their autonomy and make informed decisions about their relationships. Ultimately, the healing process involves finding ways to rebuild trust, establish boundaries, and create a fulfilling life that includes a sense of love and connection with both parents, regardless of the alienating parent’s actions.

A significant amount of programming of false beliefs and fictions need to be untangled so they can move on with their life as a sovereign, happy, healthy-minded individual who is free to love who they choose, not only who their alienating parent allows them to love.

Alienated children need to be immensely brave and strong to break free, but they can and do. Some cut ties with the alienating parent; some find a way to have both parents in their lives, which was always the best