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Alienator Traits

People who alienate their child from a loving parent often exhibit identifiable personality disorders, such as borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. While labelling these individuals as having personality disorders may seem like an attack, it is essential to recognise that they need help rather than pity. Behind their harmful behaviours, such as emotional abuse and coercive control, is an inner core of fear, inadequacy, vulnerability, and worthlessness that drives their actions. Understanding the mental health issues and personality disorders behind parental alienation can guide interventions and support systems to address these issues effectively.⁠

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Statistics on the prevalence of personality disorders among alienating parents can be challenging to obtain, as diagnosing personality disorders often requires in-depth psychological assessments and evaluations. Studies and expert observations indicate a higher prevalence of individuals with borderline and narcissistic personality traits among alienating parents.⁠

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Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is characterised by difficulties managing emotions, unstable relationships, impulsive behaviour, and a fear of abandonment. These traits can manifest in intense and unstable relationships, including the parent-child relationship, contributing to alienation.⁠

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Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) involves a grandiose sense of self-importance, a lack of empathy, and a constant need for admiration and validation. Alienating parents with NPD may manipulate and control their children to maintain a sense of power and control over them, leading to the alienation of the other parent While it is essential to recognise the internal struggles of people with personality disorders, addressing the root causes of their behaviour and the impact it has on the targeted parent and child is equally crucial. Unfortunately, many alienating parents blame the targeted parent, make false allegations, and subject them to psychological abuse, which can be emotionally devastating. Alienating parents typically struggle with self-reflection and are often resistant to seeking help to address their behaviour. As a result, the cycle of harmful and abusive actions towards the targeted parent and the child continues.

Convincing them to seek help can be challenging even though if they could break free from harmful patterns, it would create healthier environments for their children. Simultaneously, interventions should prioritise the well-being of the child and the targeted parent, recognising the pain and distress they experience due to the alienation. Acknowledging the complexities of parental alienation, particularly when personality disorders are involved, is crucial in developing more effective strategies to address this damaging phenomenon and promote healthier family dynamics.

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Secrets of Narcissistic

When you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, there will always be another secret life going on behind your back.

This is because these people are very empty, and they need stimulation from multiple sources just to face existence. They’ll be doing drugs or pornography. They’ll be stringing multiple partners through flirting and emotional affairs. They will be chasing financial intrigue that occasionally gets them into scams and trouble.

The reason they must flirt with other people is also because they’re seeking to move on to other people who don’t know the games they play.

They know they’ll get bored with you eventually, or you’ll learn to resist their shenanigans. And since being alone would kill them, they begin to groom possible replacements among anyone whom they can charm.

You’ll also notice this habit of making promises to you and then using those promises as a dangling carrot to get compliance from you. If you don’t do what they want, they’ll withdraw the promise.

Sometimes, they’ll deny having promised at all, or they postpone it until you give up. The truth is that they never intended to fulfill it in the first place.

Narcissists have lost all sense of right and wrong.

Everything is about satisfying themselves.

When you finally leave, they’ll circle back to you, pretending to be checking on you when actually they’re checking if they still have access.

If you have a child with them, they would weaponise that child to torture you until you cut them off totally or you manage to enforce boundaries with the help of the law.

But the child will be scarred or wasted by the counter parenting and objectification from the narcissist.

Society knows very little about narcissists.

Sometimes, you stay because you fear the pain of letting go until you realize the pain you’re already taking for holding on.

Other times, you think you’re staying for the children until you realise that the narcissist is turning all of them into other small narcissists and broken empaths.

Your solution is to recognize that this person is incapable of peace. They’re only excellent at pretending and confusing you.

You will never have a life until you detach from them and direct your life towards wholeness and emotional stability 💜

Babies feel what their Mom’s feel

I definitely believe this and the anger and neglect present during our first pregnancy did adversely affect me , thus our baby .

I pray there is a healing for our child(ren) for each were subjected to at the least was a disinterested Dad .

Alot of people dont know this, but the baby feels everything the mother feels.

Every heart break, every smile, every single emotional thing. Even touch! When hugging the father and just taking that time to breath the baby can feel that love. That feeling of warmth and security. At 22 weeks the baby has started to learn voices and can tell which voice is peaceful to its mother and which voice hurts the mother. They have become aware of most sounds around them. By 26 weeks the baby can develop emotions for him or herself on feelings the mother feels. By 30 weeks the baby has picked who’s voice it is most favored towards. Needless to say, dont stress yourself. Cause your baby feels it all. ❤️💕

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Alienating Parents believe their own lies /💯🙌

The motivations and psychological processes of alienating parents can vary, making it challenging to generalise their behaviour. In some cases, alienating parents may genuinely believe their lies, deluding themselves into thinking they are protecting their children or acting in their best interest. These individuals might have convinced themselves that the target, alienated parent is a danger or unworthy of the child’s love, and they may genuinely believe the false narrative they have constructed. Their actions may be driven by cognitive dissonance, where they unconsciously justify their behaviour to align with their self-image as a “good” parent, even as their actions cause harm.

On the other hand, some alienating parents may knowingly lie and manipulate the situation to further their agenda and “win” at all costs, even if it means hurting their children in the process. This behaviour can stem from deep-seated resentment, anger, or a desire for revenge against the target parent. These individuals may display narcissistic or sociopathic traits, seeking to control and dominate others, and believe that alienating the child is a way to achieve this control. They may even derive pleasure from causing pain to the target parent and feel powerful when manipulating the child’s

Sometimes, the alienating parent’s behaviour may be a combination of self-delusion and calculated manipulation. They might have started with negative emotions towards the target parent but then become consumed by those feelings, weaving a web of lies and distortions to reinforce their beliefs and justify their actions. This complex mix of cognitive dissonance, narcissism, and calculated manipulation can create a toxic environment for the child, where they are caught in a battle between their parents.

The consequences of parental alienation on the children and the target parent can be severe and have long-lasting emotional and psychological effects. Understanding the dynamics of parental alienation and its impact on all parties involved helps develop effective interventions to address this form of emotional abuse.

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Justifying mistreatment/ Narcissism

A narcissist or toxic person will find every excuse in the book to justify their mistreatment or abuse.

They believe that because they “feel” a certain way about you, were “told” something about you, “heard” something about you, or “think” something negative about you, they are entitled to:

• Disrespect you

• Devalue you

• Bully you

• Try to control you

• Treat you badly

• Take their anger out on you

They will always blame their actions and behaviors on you or someone else. They rarely apologize to those they hurt—unless it benefits them or gets them something they want.

Your worth is not defined by their projections. Refuse to be a part of their cycle and take back your power.

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