Tag: abuse narcissistic behavior

Child Psychological Abuse : I’m the only one who loves you

An alienating parent seeks to control the children to hurt the other parent. They lie, they twist the truth, they misinterpret events wilfully, and they say and do everything and anything to control the narrative so that your truth and your love become something the alienated child no longer trusts. This is why parental alienation is described as abuse (psychological, mental, emotional). What is even harder for you is that other people – even those who could support and protect – all too often do not recognise the lies and false allegations. Saying it rubs salt in the wound is insufficient in describing the injustice, grief pain inflicted. It is not the behaviour of a loving parent, but a fearful, controlling and/or vengeful parent who does this. It is a disordered mentality and yet this person will typically refuse counselling or collaboration. There are so many signs that should be fairly easy to spot. What we need to do is to educate those who can help us about how they can do their job and help us. Please see my red flag warning post and others for more on this.

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Lost Boys: The Violent Narcissism of Angry Young Men – The Atlantic

What to do about the deadly misfits among us? First, recognize the problem.
— Read on www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2023/01/lost-boys-violent-narcissism-angry-young-men/672886/

Minnie Zola, Grandmother

I just discovered , this picture which seems to validate , that my Dad’s Dad, Warner , was a moon shine maker .

The clear liquid in the jar , equals addiction and money , and of abuse that left my beloved Grandmother , homeless, and without support , as the court found in his favor , dismissing her .. Her parents gave them the 120 acres , on which he grew corn, made moonshine , and reports of sacks of high value paper money.

He ran her away with just she could carry , fearing for her life, grieving at having to place her youngest children , and the rupture of her family .

She got nothing , but abuse, and his character assignations ..

While it did not destroy her, and her adult children and their children loved her, it altered each of them as born out in their lives, their health and deaths …

Indoctrination of Alienated / Psychologically Abused Child

These alienated children are so indoctrinated and enmeshed that they lose critical thinking skills when it comes to the ‘target’ parent. They can easily hurt our feelings and provoke a reaction from us by their words and behaviours, and we have to find the strength and calmness of mind to remember not to react in anger, not to make them feel guilty, not to talk about our feelings (hurt, anger, frustration). It only pushes them away, which is often what they’re trying to actualize because cutting off makes it easier for them when they’re under such emotional pressure. Be calm, be loving, be non-reactive. They will come up with the most unbelievable fictions. I was told once: ‘It’s not fair a parent is alone at Christmas’. This was the reason given that they never saw me! Do they forget we are parents too? No. But they ‘split’. They can’t deal with it, so they almost pretend it’s not happening. It gets buried. It is too confusing and too upsetting. That is because they do love us. They’ve been prevented from feeling it’s okay to love us and told all sorts of horror stories to make them reject us which they can perpetuate themselves. But deep down, they know the truth. It’s a matter of them finding it and setting it free.

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