Category: Parential Alienation-Child Abuse

Mother’s Day thoughts

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I was told early on that I may not be able to have children. 4 years later I miscarried twins…
I really believed children were not in my future.

Fade in fade out…

We had been married 8 years when we found out we were going to have a son. It was such a polar mix of emotion… Shock, elation, fear and excitement were included.

As I visualized my son in my body… growing… I knew I was providing a cocoon for another human life to grow in. I will say, those later months of pregnancy brought such a deeper appreciation of my own mother…
I began thinking about the cocoon I had been formed in. I realized I had been in a cocoon of “mourning”, as her father had passed right before she was pregnant with me. Then of course,
The question …. What was my mothers cocoon like? My grandmother had to have surgery while pregnant with my mother.

Makes you think about the “cocoon” you were in for months too …right? And maybe that helps to give your mother a break… because this DNA, ancestral lineage thread is real!

It all made more sense to me as I experienced the knowing that my baby was a literal piece of me, and all past generations, and this DNA was being carried into another human who could potentially some day pass it on to another.

I don’t think I realized how much my own emotion affected the cocoon I provided for my sons until 25 years later in a “medicine ceremony”. I saw that my second son was created in a cocoon of anxiety. (He has the “anxiety rings” in his eyes to prove it. Look up Iridology… you’ll be mind blown at what they can see in your eyes alone)

Anyway… circling back I realize that for me personally, being a mother hasn’t been so much about the fact I had another human growing inside me, but another human who is my own dna … a piece of me… a reflection of me and my former generations and their fathers former generations all carried down into another human to be included in the life of others. After that life form passed from my body any one could mother them.

That made it easier to be grateful for their “step
mother” because she was so wonderful and truly cared for them and included them in her life.

So maybe your mother wasn’t your biological birth mother. But, if you are on this planet, a “mother” included you in her life for at least the months she was your cocoon! Let that soak in. You were included in her life, her body, and that was a gift.

In my opinion, Mother’s Day is a more inclusive term for all those who mothered.

Be sure to give a “HAPPY Mother’s Day” to the person/persons who cared enough about you to include you in their life, the ones who made you a part of their world, the ones who nurtured you… The ones who know your struggles and your wins. The ones who cheered you on …the ones who cared for you more than they cared for themselves. The ones who put you first.
The ones who gave you cash before spending it on themselves… the ones who gave you the center of the cinnamon roll so you could have the better taste. The ones who gave you the “unrusted” lettuce, and made your broccoli into trees so you’d eat your vegetables. The one who made sure you made it to school, or expected more of you because they knew you were a special divine human. The one who made your senior night poster.… the one who still to this day prays for you before they go to sleep.

We are all loved more than we know… and it’s a day to appreciate that.

Happy Mother’s Day …

Abby Parker Moneyhan

~am💛🦋🌸

Happy Mothers Day

Happy Mother’s Day to all!!!

I honor the women who are aching for a child of their own.
I honor the women who are grieving the loss of a child.
I honor the women who are mothering another’s child.
I honor the women who are mothering their mothers.
I honor the women who are mothering each other.
I honor the women who are mothering themselves.
I honor all Mothers from past lives, this life and all lives after.

And ultimately I Honor, Love and Respect our “All-Mother” who made the existence of this day of celebration and honor possible.

Happy Mothers Day

Happy Mother’s Day moms.

It may not seem happy, but this one is different. This year it’s just another day – because we’re on active rescue now – we’re not accepting it – we’re actively fighting back against the bad people doing bad things to make them stop.

I know it hurts. We’ll figure it out and get your kids back to you and protect them.

It may be slow-going for a bit, one-by-one as we turn the tide against your foes and against your adversaries – but we’re here – and we’re not stopping until we’re successful.

You’re mom. Let’s get your kids back and protected. Not today exactly maybe, but we’re working on it, you’re working on it, it’s coming – that’s for certain.

Never doubt for a moment the unbreakable bond. Dorcy’s right, listen to Dorcy, she’ll help get things right.

I’m the stick – she’s the carrot. I get the fun part. I get to whack your ignorant mental health people and get them into line.

I know it’s weird and awkward – it’s spousal abuse using the child as a weapon… pretty effective too.

No worries. You did nothing wrong. It’s not your fault, bad people are doing bad things, we are going to make them stop – now – today.

Or know the reason why. I’m stone-cold serious, I’m going after their licenses one-by-one each time – happy Mother’s Day (and Father’s Day coming up) – whack – whack – whack = I get the fun part.

Talk to Dorcy, listen to Dorcy, don’t doubt for a second your unbreakable bond. They’re just confused. You’d be confused too if you had a parent like that.

Your child is giving you the problem because your child knows you can solve it – and you can. You just need support. You have support. Let’s go get your kids back.

So this Mom’s Day, we’re in active battle – Dad’s Day too this year – and for as long as it takes – today – now – it stops – or we know the reason why.

This is not a child custody issue. It’s a child protection issue. It’s a spousal protection issue. They have duty to protect obligations – whack – whack – whack – it is fun, I must admit – whack – then need to know what they’re doing when the life of your child is on the line.

You be kind, always be kind – you have a different role – you’re more powerful than you know – it’s just your triggers, your insecurities in your patterns from the past.

Dorcy will help you let those go, get rid of the triggers and buttons that get you spinning this way and that – respond don’t react.

I’m here. Dorcy’s here. We’re not going anywhere and we’re both on active recovery now – whack – met too now.

Happy Mother’s Day – a whack from me to you for all those nonsense people who are currently here but not for long – we’re not accepting anything any longer – I get the fun part – you get the best part – you be kind – let’s go get your kids.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

My friend Erica nails it

By Erica Joy Olsen

Fellow Pisces

Very proud of and for her

My latest addition to my compassion toolbox. I have a new found appreciation for the masculine struggle. We live in a world where a concerted effort was made to replace the wild man with the savage man. Becoming civilized and christianized (I’m not talking about Jesus’ teachings. I’m talking about how it was manipulated to subjugate people), being told to blindly follow orders, to turn the other cheek, being told that in order to receive spiritual enlightenment one had to turn away from sensuality…. The women became evil temptresses…. Some men even castrated themselves.
Over the years boys stopped seeing their fathers working a trade with their hands that would be handed down to them. They saw their fathers distantly, exhausted from having to comply and work to make someone else rich.
As necessary as feminism was and still is, men were asked by women to tame themselves, but by other men to blindly follow orders, turning warriors into soldiers, making them capable of committing atrocities… but some fights are still worth fighting, yet it’s hard to tell which ones, and whatever you choose it can feel like damned if you do, damned if you don’t.
We were all separated from our ancestors, deprived of important initiations. Men’s left(Feminine) sides withered. Women’s right(masculine) sides withered. I mean, regardless of gender we weren’t even allowed to hold a pen in our left hands!
Men were ostracized for expressing feelings, necessary for them to make informed compassionate decisions that could actually protect and serve. Women were robbed of their ability to make decisions for themselves and became mere objects.
This isn’t a man vs woman issue to me anymore. This is an US issue. Because we are all imbalanced and need to reclaim what we lost! But i will say that men still have the upper hand in making these long overdue changes, in standing up against the abuse of patriarchy, and they need help from the feminine to do this.
Whatever issues you have with androgeny, gender fluidity, trans, my take is that it’s the necessary evolutionary response to what has become of us.
I could go on but let me finish by saying that I SEE YOU AND LOVE YOU!!!

Narcissist Discard Their Children

DO NARCISSISTS DISCARD THEIR CHILDREN?

Narcissists discard their children when they’ve been exposed for who they really are. In my experience outward appearances count for everything in the life of a narcissist. Narcissistic parents expect (in fact insist on) absolute loyalty from their children. A child may be well aware of his/her parents’ lying, cheating, and manipulative ways, but he/she is expected to remain “on side,” always. If the children dare to cross to the “other side,” and take a principled stand, they should be prepared for the inevitable outcome; alienation. A child will be treated with the same (or greater) contempt as anyone else outside the family who has dared to cross them. They will be made to suffer the consequences of exposure. After the perceived “injury,” narcissistic parents will set a deliberate course to rally as many “flying monkeys” as possible to their side, adeptly portraying themselves as victims of their children’s ungrateful, self-serving treatment of them. Their attempts to discredit their children to preserve their image will know no bounds. Accept that those who really know you will not be convinced, and those that don’t, simply don’t matter in the grand scheme of things. Supporting one another in our decision to go “no contact” with our parents has not only strengthened our relationship, but has also allowed us to heal together.

  • Joanne Hill, Hon B.A., B.Ed Psychology & Sociology (1984)