“A person who laughs at his own weaknesses and faults realizes and recognizes his own ignorance.
He can easily evolve and rise to the supreme state of blissful laughter.
He can soon laugh, watching the whole universe as a play of God.”
-Amma ❤️
Tag: wisdoms
You are more than pathology – Craig Childress PsyD
Don’t let the pathology consume you.
You are more than the pathology. You had a life. You have a life. You have a lifetime to come.
You are faced with a challenge. The other parent is pathological – problematic. The other parent is creating attachment pathology in the child toward you for advantages and secondary gain to the pathological parent.
You will need to lead your family into a post-divorce solution of a healthy and successful separated family structure. The child is giving you a problem because the child knows you can solve it. You’re the healthier parent.
The other parent is collapsing into their pathology. It is up to you to lead the family into a solution. You just need support. You want a written treatment plan to fix things.
The pathology wants to drive this into the legal system and make it about custody. You want to move this into the healthcare system and make it about treatment.
Then you must become an informed consumer of mental health services to effectively advocate for yourself and your child. Be kind, always be kind. Be relentless in protecting your child.
The pathogen will try everything it can to destabilize you. Remain in your center-place of confidence. Don’t trigger into your fears. Use your executive functions of linear-logical reasoning and planning ahead.
Shift the focus from custody to treatment, make the pathogen argue against treatment – this will expose it. You want a written treatment plan, for that you’ll need a diagnosis.
Understand the approach. Understand the diagnosis.
In all cases of severe attachment pathology surrounding court-involved custody conflict, a proper risk assessment for possible child abuse needs to be conducted to the appropriate differential diagnosis for each parent.
Patients should NEVER have to explain the pathology to the doctor… but you do. That is a highly concerning professional problem. We will be working to fix it.
The doctors should know as least as much as you do – more. They should know all about cross-generational coalitions and shared persecutory delusions, and they should be explaining the child abuse and spousal abuse pathology to you.
They’re not. You will need to navigate their ignorance.
You remain stable. You remain in your authenticity. You did nothing wrong. It’s not your fault. Bad people are doing bad things, we are going to make them stop.
Don’t let the pathology (problem) consume who you are. You have a challenge, there is a pathology in your family. It’s an attachment pathology, a problem in the love-and-bonding system of the brain. The source of the problem (pathology) is in the unresolved childhood trauma of the pathological (problematic) parent.
This is a pathology of lies. Everything about the pathology is a lie. It is a delusion – a false belief – a delusion is a fixed and false belief maintained despite contrary evidence. No amount of contrary evidence will ever change a delusion because that’s the definition of delusional.
The type of delusion (created in unresolved childhood trauma) is called a “persecutory delusion” – it is a fixed and false belief in supposed victimization.
The American Psychiatric Association provides the following definition of a persecutory delusion:
From the APA: “Persecutory Type: delusions that the person (or someone to whom the person is close) is being malevolently treated in some way.”
The differential diagnosis for severe attachment pathology is child abuse by one parent or the other;
Either the targeted parent is abusing the child, thereby creating the child’s attachment pathology toward that parent,
Or the allied parent is psychologically abusing the child by creating a shared persecutory delusion and false attachment pathology in the child.
One way or the other, the differential diagnosis for severe attachment pathology (i.e., a child rejecting a parent) is child abuse. The only question is, which parent?
In all cases of severe attachment pathology surrounding court-involved custody conflict, a proper risk assessment for possible child abuse needs to be conducted to the appropriate differential diagnosis for each parent.
You have a problem. You need to fix the problem. You need a written treatment plan to fix your problem. That requires a diagnosis. Diagnosis guides treatment. The treatment for cancer is different than the treatment for diabetes.
The treatment for child abuse by the targeted parent is different than the treatment of psychological child abuse by the allied parent. Is there a persecutory delusion present?
Does the child have a fixed and false belief that the child is being “malevolently treated in some way” by the parenting of the targeted parent? Does the allied parent share the child’s fixed and false belief that the child is being malevolently treated in some way by the parenting of the targeted parent?
Is there a shared persecutory delusion?
You don’t want an assessment (you do, but don’t start there). You want a treatment plan (google WikiHow mental health treatment plans). For a treatment plan you will need a diagnosis (diagnosis guides treatment). For a diagnosis, you will need a proper clinical diagnostic risk assessment for possible child abuse to the appropriate differential diagnosis for each parent.
Start with the written treatment plan and don’t let go of that. Hang on and don’t let them shake you loose from treatment – you want things fixed.
That ends with obtaining a proper risk assessment for the proper diagnostic issues of concern. Are you abusing your child? Is the other parent psychologically abusing the child? We need an accurate diagnosis to guide the development of an effective treatment plan.
If we treat cancer with insulin, the patient dies from the misdiagnosed and mistreated cancer.
You need support. You are the protective parent. The mental health professionals should be accurately diagnosing the pathology (problem). They should be providing you with support. They should be your allies in generating a solution – i.e., the successful treatment of the child’s attachment pathology toward a parent.
Diagnosis = identify
Pathology = problem
Treatment = fix it
You have a problem. There is a pathology in your family. It is an attachment pathology, a problem in love-and-bonding. You need to fix it. You want a written treatment plan to fix the problem (pathology) in your family.
The differential diagnoses of concern are:
1) Possible Child Psychological Abuse (DSM-5 V995,51) by the allied parent who is creating a shared persecutory delusion and false attachment pathology in the child,
2) Possible Spouse or Partner Abuse, Psychological (DSM-5 V995.82) of the targeted parent by the allied parent using the child as the weapon.
In all cases of severe attachment pathology surrounding court-involved custody conflict, a proper risk assessment for possible child abuse and possible spousal abuse using the child as the weapon needs to be conducted.
They have duty to protect obligations. They have competence requirements – Standards 2.01, 2.03, 2.04.
Don’t destabilize, don’t trigger into your fears and insecurities. You’re fine, you did nothing wrong. There is a pathology (problem) in your family surrounding love-and-bonding. You’ll need to fix it.
You’ll need help from the mental health professionals in fixing your problem. Be kind. Be resolute. Become an informed consumer of mental health services and the pathology in your family.
It is NOT your obligation to educate the doctor about the pathology they are treating – they should already know. Unfortunately, you do have to educate the forensic psychology people in the family courts.
That speaks to the immensely low quality of professional services in the family courts when the patients are educating the doctors about the nature and treatment of the pathology.
The other parent creates chaos. You remain grounded. You remain authentic to what you know. Develop a plan. Execute the plan. You are the protective parent.
You are the healthier parent. The task ahead is for you to lead your family into a successful post-divorce separated family structure. You just need support.
Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857
Sheltered Path
“I have not always chosen the safest path. I’ve made my mistakes, plenty of them. I sometimes jump too soon and fail to appreciate the consequences. But I’ve learned something important along the way: I’ve learned to heed the call of my heart. I’ve learned that the safest path is not always the best path and I’ve learned that the voice of fear is not always to be trusted.”
Steve Goodier
Claude Monet – The Sheltered Path, 1873.
March 2nd Venus conjunct Jupiter
Childress PsyD – Update
If you are following me on my Facebook page, you are at the tip of the spear.
I am not posting to my blog. Nor am I writing articles. Those things will follow. I’m busy. I’m working.
I’m changing systems. Do you know how to do that? I do. It’s difficult, it’s complex.
I’m going dormant now. In that way I become more active. I’m entering the family courts. You don’t see what I do there, the work of clinical psychologists is confidential to the matter.
My role in the courts is to review the reports of the forensic psychologists. You can imagine what I say. I’m a clinical psychologist – treatment not custody – we do different things.
This is an attachment pathology. The attorney in the matter believes that the application of established knowledge from clinical psychology will be helpful to the court in making its decisions surrounding the child.
I review the material I’m asked to review and I provide an opinion based on the application of the established scientific and professional knowledge from clinical psychology – treatment not custody – regarding the material I’m asked to review.
I’ll write journal articles later. I’ll write blogs when I need them.
I don’t need them right now. Everything will unfold to its ends. We have entered a new phase. When I left your world out there and moved here to the Emerald City in the Pacific Northwest, to my Isle of Avalon off the western shores, things changed.
I moved away from my blog to Facebook because things are moving quickly. Facebook moves quickly – then vanishes – or seems to. Everything on the Internet is documented.
Facebook is the most ephemeral of the media. It communicates quickly the information of most note. I’m a clinical psychologist and I’m working. If you’re here, it’s for a reason.
This is active child abuse. This is active spousal abuse using the child as the weapon. I’ll write journal articles once the child and parent are protected. We’re still in the Safety Plan phase.
As I work doing what I do, the treatment goal has been to empower you parents to protect yourselves and protect your children from emotional and psychological abuse by a narcissistic-borderline-dark personality ex-spouse and parent.
I have given you all the information you need to protect yourself and your child as quickly as I could make it available to you. If you can use it while I’m working – that’s my goal.
If you can’t use the information because the systems surrounding you remain broken… I’ll be coming to fix the systems. That takes time because the powers-that-be don’t want to fix anything.
They don’t want a solution. That is the ONLY problem. The moment they want a solution… there’s a solution.
I’m only one lone clinical psychologist working all by myself. They are many and strong. They don’t want to change. Everyone in the systems want things to remain exactly as they are. It’s called “homeostatic balance” of a dysfunctional system.
The dysfunctional system is stable WITH the symptom present. If we take the symptom away, the dysfunctional system will collapse into chaos. The dysfunctional system NEEDS the symptom. We can’t take the symptom away – the system won’t let us remove the symptom that it needs to remain stable.
The symptom of dysfunction in the family courts is the ignorance and incompetence of the psychologists – the betrayers – the ones who should protect… and don’t. Instead, they financially exploit and feed on the vulnerability of parents caught in the family courts.
The dysfunctional legal and mental health systems are stable WITH the symptom present – the symptom of their ignorance and incompetence stabilizes the dysfunctional systems.
homeo = the same
static = never changing
Homeostatic balance = a same that never changes – it’s stuck
The thing that’s keeping it stuck in never-changing dysfunctional balance is the symptom – their ignorance and incompetence.
How do you break free? The APA ethics code. Doctors are not allowed to be ignorant and incompetent – Standard 2.01 of the APA ethics code. Doctors MUST apply the “established scientific and professional knowledge of the discipline” as the bases for their professional judgments – Standard 2.04 of the APA ethics code.
The established scientific and professional knowledge of the discipline is:
Attachment – Bowlby & others
Family systems – Minuchin & others
Personality disorders – Beck & others
Complex trauma – van der Kolk & others
Child development – Tronick & others
Self psychology – Kohut & others
Delusional thought disorders – APA & DSM-5
I have helped you to become informed consumers of mental health services surrounding your child so that you are empowered to protect yourself and protect your child from the spousal emotional abuse of you using the child as the weapon, and from psychological abuse of the child by the allied parent.
Some of you may be able to use the professional knowledge and your rights to achieve the goal of protecting your child and protecting yourselves from abuse by a pathological ex-spouse and parent. Some of you will still encounter the barriers of the broken systems – broken by professional ignorance and incompetence.
There are four roles in trauma – abusive parent – victimized child – protective parent – bystander.
In clinical practice, the bystander role is often called the “betrayer” – the one who should protect… and doesn’t. Typically it’s the mother in sex abuse cases who sacrifices the child to the step-father to save the marriage – she knew, she just didn’t want to know. She was the bystander, the one who should protect… and doesn’t.
In the child abuse and spousal abuse occurring in the family courts, the “betrayer” role is filled by the forensic psychologists. The targeted parent is in the protective parent role, the allied parent is in the abusive parent role. The child is being abused.
You are the protective parent. They are the abusive parent. This is a delusional pathology – it is a pathology of lies. A delusion is a false belief – they are delusional – it’s called a persecutory delusion created by the pathology of the allied narcissistic-borderline-dark personality parent.
The pathological narcissistic-borderline-dark personality is presenting a false narrative to others – it is not true – it is a lie. You are not the abusive parent… they are. It’s called a projection.
The pathological parent is deceptively trying to claim the role as “protective” parent, and they are trying to assign the “abusive” parent role to the targeted parent.
That is a false narrative. It is a lie. This is a pathology of lies. The pathology of concern is a persecutory delusion. The allegations made toward others are a projection.
A persecutory delusion is a false belief. It’s important to know where you are – this is a pathology of lies.
The allied parent is the abusive parent who is creating a shared persecutory delusion and FALSE attachment pathology in the child for secondary gain to the pathological parent – a DSM-5 diagnosis of V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse.
In ALL cases of severe attachment pathology displayed by a child surrounding court-involved custody conflict, a proper risk assessment for possible child abuse needs to be conducted to the appropriate differential diagnosis for each parent.
1) Is the targeted parent abusing the child, thereby creating the child’s attachment pathology toward that parent (a 2-person attribution of causality)?
2) Or is the allied parent psychologically abusing the child by creating a shared persecutory delusion and false attachment pathology in the child (a 3-person triangle attribution of causality)?
Is there a shared peresecutory delusion? The American Psychiatric Association provides the definition of a persecutory delusion:
From the APA: “Persecutory Type: delusions that the person (or someone to whom the person is close) is being malevolently treated in some way.” (American Psychiatric Association, 2000).
Does the child have a fixed and false belief that is maintained despite contrary evidence that the child is being “malevolently treated in some way” by the normal-range parenting of the targeted parent?
Does the allied parent SHARE the child’s fixed and false belief in malevolent treatment by the targeted parent? Do the allied parent and child SHARE the persecutory delusion that the child (someone to whom the allied parent is close) is being malevolently treated in some way?
You are the protective parent. You have rights granted you by the APA ethics code. You have the right to expect competence from your doctors. They have obligations.
All mental health professionals have duty to protect obligations. You are the protective parent. They should be accurately diagnosing the pathology in your family, and they should be taking steps to protect you and your child from abuse.
The DSM-5 diagnosis for creating a shared persecutory delusion in the child that then destroys the child’s attachment bond to the other parent is V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse. The DSM-5 diagnosis for using the child as a weapon of spousal emotional and psychological abuse is V995..82 Spouse or Partner Abuse, Psychological.
Is there a shared persecutory delusion?
If they try to blame you – ask them to complete the Parenting Practices Rating Scale for your parenting – make them tell you what you are doing to abuse your child.
You’re not doing anything. It’s not your fault. The other parent, the allied parent, has formed a “cross-generational coalition” with the child against you, resulting in an “emotional cutoff” in the child’s attachment bond to you – EXACTLY like the structural family diagram from Minuchin depicts.
Do you want me to draw you a picture of the pathology? Okay. There. Minuchin & Nichols, 1993.
Family Systems: The child is being “triangulated” into the spousal conflict through the formation of a “cross-generational coalition” with the allied parent against the targeted parent, resulting in an “emotional cutoff” in the child’s attachment bond to the targeted parent.
Is there an “inverted hierarchy” present in which the child is empowered by the allied parent to judge the adequacy of the targeted parent, as if the child is the parent and the parent is the child?
The differential diagnosis for severe attachment pathology displayed by the child is child abuse by one parent or the other. In all cases of severe attachment pathology displayed by the child, a proper risk assessment for possible child abuse needs to be conducted to the appropriate differential diagnosis for each parent.
I’m in the family courts as a consultant and expert witness in clinical psychology – treatment not custody. I’m reviewing mental health reports line-by-line.
The professor is grading papers.
I’m one, you’re many. You are the protective parent. I have empowered you with the knowledge you need to protect your children.
To say that you are abusing your child is a lie. To say that you are abusing your child is delusional.
Yep. That’s exactly what it is. It’s a shared persecutory delusion created by the psychological collapse of a narcissistic-borderline-dark personality parent surrounding the psychological stress of the divorce.
This is a pathology of lies. It is a delusional disorder. The delusion is from unresolved trauma origin in the pathological parent, which has led to their narcissistic-borderline-dark personality traits.
It’s unresolved trauma – unresolved attachment trauma in the pathological parent transmitted to the child through the aberrant and distorted parenting that the unresolved trauma creates.
The pathology is the trans-generational transmission of trauma, mediated by the narcissistic-borderline-dark personality pathology of the parent.
You are the protective parent. They are the abusive parent. I’m a trauma psychologist out of foster care. This is exactly my pathology of specialization – child abuse. I know exactly where I am.
This is active child abuse. This is active spousal emotional and psychological abuse using the child as the weapon. I’m a clinical psychologist and I’m working.
The abusive parent is pathological. The forensic psychologists are just incompetent – and they are ignorant, lazy, and unethical. They have duty to protect obligations – they are failing in their obligations.
I’m in the family courts as an expert consultant and witness. You’re in the family courts as the protective parent seeking to restore to your child their normal-range and healthy development.
The psychologists are in the bystander role – they have obligations – mandatory ethical obligations for competence (Standards 2.01 & 2.04) and mandatory duty to protect obligations.
Doctors are not allowed to be ignorant and incompetent.
Patients should NEVER have to explain the pathology to the doctor, they should already know what the pathology is – Standard 2.03.
2.03 Maintaining Competence
Psychologists undertake ongoing efforts to develop and maintain their competence.
They have obligations. You have rights. You are the protective parent. You are trying to protect your child from the distorted and psychologically abusive parenting of the other parent.
My goal is to provide you with the professional-level information you need to protect yourself from psychological spousal abuse and your child from psychological child abuse by your ex-spouse and other parent.
There are four roles in trauma – abusive parent – victimized child – protective parent – bystander (the “betrayer” – the one who should protect… but doesn’t).
If you’re here on my Facebook page, you have the most current information. Here, however, is just the start. We are on a linear path. This information is not going away. It will only build in force and power because it is the truth.
I will be going after their licenses for their collaboration in child abuse because of their negligent and unethical malpractice. They will be coming after my license to try to stop me from helping you protect your children.
Dr. Childress vs. the pathogen’s allies
They’ll need to stop me or else they will need to become competent in the pathology they’re working with. If you’re a mental health professional and you don’t know as much as Dr. Childress, why not? Are you just lazy? Must be.
I’m the floor, not the ceiling.
I’m in my world doing my thing. You’re in your world doing yours. Good luck. Be kind, always be kind, and be relentless in protecting your children. The universe has this.
Do the right thing and let outcomes take care of themselves.
What’s the right thing to do? Look inside and listen.
Craig Childress,Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857
Mother’s Wound
Some of us were blessed with wonderful mothers. Some of us were blessed with challenging mothers. For some of us it’s a mix of both. Sometimes the best thing they could do for us was to show us all the examples of what kind of person we don’t want to be. Guidance can come in many different forms. But the important thing to remember is that you picked your parents for a very good reason. ❤️ – admin Lara
Ancestral Ferries
“Through the depths
Into the shallows
To put ourselves upon the gallows
The past rewinds
A path resides
A self then dies
The One reminds
The pain is older
Than this life
A burdened shoulder
Leaves only strife
Though we may carry
On ancestral ferries
The grief of all that’s been
It’s built on love
And never done
The stories now lived thru us
Give it back or take it with
It brings me to my knees
To live a life that feels lived
It’s death we have to grieve
For those before
Ours to come
Nothing new under the sun
In the end into the One
We do dissolve
Taking All
And None
With Us”
~ Derek Graziano
Photo credit: Lauren Nova (Instagram)
Passiflora alata ~ winged-stem passionflower remix
Waiting – Patience is Prayer
Sometimes you have to wait
in the dark
For what seems like forever
Stuck
Certain no progress is being made,
not even a little growth
Nothing seems alive
You, least of all
It doesn’t even feel like waiting, truth be told,
Since waiting implies an end in sight —
and you haven’t seen one of those
in ages.
You’re sure you’ve been abandoned
Forgotten
It seems as though your own soul may have deserted you
But then one day
A day you didn’t think would come —
The smallest of cracks appears
Then the crack turns into an opening
Then the opening a breaking free.
Maybe it was the way the sun hit,
or how the rain fell
or the planets aligned
or maybe something deep within you simply knew: NOW.
But it’s not just that you’ve come back to life
You’re different.
The life within you feels humbler, since you know you know less now.
And more grounded, since your roots were growing deep all this time.
There was something happening, you understand now
something profound
in that slow and tedious germination.
It’s a miracle, isn’t it?
How even in the longest and most brutal of winters
thousands of seeds are plotting
a most magnificent spring.
Author ~Leyla Aylin
🌀Nicole
Sacred Wild Woman Medicine
Artist~ Shanna Trumbly
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Keep ‘em talking ; Listen ( suicide )
I am proud to have listened when folks were suicidal and those folks are vital today for having dodged the urge to die
Viktor Frankl, one of the great psychiatrists of the twentieth century, survived the death camps of Nazi Germany. His little book, Man’s Search for Meaning, is one of those life-changing books that everyone should read.
Frankl once told the story of a woman who called him in the middle of the night to calmly inform him she was about to commit suicide. Frankl kept her on the phone and talked her through her depression, giving her reason after reason to carry on living. Finally she promised she would not take her life, and she kept her word.
When they later met, Frankl asked which reason had persuaded her to live?
“None of them”, she told him.
What then influenced her to go on living, he pressed?
Her answer was simple, it was Frankl’s willingness to listen to her in the middle of the night. A world in which there was someone ready to listen to another’s pain seemed to her a world in which it was worthwhile to live.
Often, it is not the brilliant argument that makes the difference. Sometimes the small act of listening is the greatest gift we can give.
The New World
“Things Are Not What They Seem”
A message from the Angels,
through Ann Albers
Things are not as they seem.
We are not talking about people fooling or trying to exploit you. We are talking about the massive stream of Love flowing and growing despite all appearances.
In the unseen realms, your human race is taking a gigantic leap in its evolution. Love is flowing as never before.
You might say, energetically speaking, that the baby has been pushed out of the birth canal after a long period of contractions. Humanity and your Mother Earth have given birth to a new torrent of love by calling for it in your prayers and intense desires these past few years. You have collectively prayed as never before, and love is answering the call. It doesn’t look like love in many ways right now, but things are not always as they seem.
You bear witness to the disruption on your planet. We see the evolution.
You are grieving the physical transition of so many dear souls who have left the earth suddenly. We greet them as they expand back into an unbounded love. You feel pain in your body. We see streams of love flowing into you that sometimes push up against areas of tension or physical blockage. You feel antsy and anxious about change. We see you in the eternal dance between head and heart, striving to drop into your hearts and trust the journey.
You are having a human experience, seeing through human eyes, and evaluating through your human conditioning. This can be very painful at times. As you learn to see beyond the world of appearances into a world where invisible loves streams unceasingly, you learn to dance in harmony with this flow in a way that feels better, creates better, and allows better into your life.
Many of you feel far less tolerant of bad behaviors and situations you’ve endured up until now. Your soul is calling you to better – either an improved attitude and/or an improved situation. We never want you to suffer through something you don’t enjoy. We would instead advise you to look for the good here and now and, as well, focus on your heart’s true desires. For example, suppose you have put up with someone yelling at you for years, and it still bothers you. You can start to focus away from the destructive behaviors by looking at their good points or your own. Or you can completely ignore the bad behaviors as if they didn’t exist.
You shift your vibration as you give less attention to what bothers you and more attention to what pleases you. You’ll be more open to guidance and ideas for improvement in this new and improved vibration. You may receive the courage to walk away from something that doesn’t work. You may be inspired to speak in a way that encourages a kinder response. You may receive an inspiration to ignore unkindness and see only good.
The inspirations will vary from one person and situation to the next. Nonetheless, when you find a vibration that is either neutral or more loving than the previous annoyance, you become open to receiving guidance. The actions you are inspired to take will be tailored to guide you on your path of least resistance and to lead you in the kindest way to what you desire. Your guidance will have nothing to do with changing the other and everything to do with empowering yourself.
Some of you are feeling new passions, new directions, new interests, or renewed interests. You feel your soul beckoning you forward with joy. Listen. Learn what you are interested in learning. Follow up on the ideas that feel good to you, even if they seem illogical. Spiritual logic involves doing what gives you true delight and expecting life to work as you continue to listen to your guidance dynamically.
Some of you are finally admitting to yourself that you need rest. In your silence and downtime, you will reconnect with your heart and soul and find those new directions emerging naturally as you stop trying to force yourself through life.
Be gentle with yourselves. As you move through this period of incredible expansion, sit, breathe, and receive our love. We never waver from love. We are aware of your circumstances and feelings but intentionally focus on the greater you, the greater life, and the life you wish to experience.
An example might be helpful. Imagine you have a young child screaming and angry because they want a cookie. You know that a cookie on an empty stomach will give them a sugar high and then a low, and based on prior experience, they’ll become tired and cranky before dinner. You know that they want to feel good. They want nourishment for their body, love for their soul, and tastes to delight the senses. They want to feel energized and happy. That is their more profound truth, although right now, at this moment, they perceive all these wishes as a strong desire for the cookie!
If you give in to the screaming demands, you will teach them that they can manipulate life and others through lower-vibrational behaviors resulting from feeling powerless. This might work temporarily, but as you can imagine, such behaviors will not serve them as adults! You love them. You want more for them. You want them to know the universe wants to meet their needs and desires in a better way than the seeming superficial solution. You want them to feel empowered, loved, and satisfied.
So you pick them up and hug them. You acknowledge that they want a cookie. You tell them you understand, and you have something even better. You tell them about the wonderful meal that you know they will love. You talk about making their favorite dessert! You let them know in every way possible that while you love them and understand their need for the cookie, you have all they want and more coming to them very soon.
If they are willing, they will listen, anticipate the meal, and release you to cook it! If they insist on the very understandable childish demands that things go their way now – if they don’t believe you love them and want them to have an even better experience – they will delay their glorious dinner and delicious dessert!
So too, your soul, your guardian angels, and the Divine hear your cries, but we also know the totality of all you desire. Sometimes we can give you the “cookie,” and it will satisfy all you want in that arena of life. Sometimes we see so much better. In all cases, we witness and have compassion for your feelings.
We know where you are now. We hold our focus steadily on the future in which you will have all you want and experience levels of love beyond what you’d ask for. We look for openings to guide you on the path of your least resistance. Like a wise parent, we will comfort, love, and soothe you as much as you allow. By our very design, however, we cannot respond to lower vibrational demands when you are asking for a higher vibrational outcome. We hold the frequency of the outcome and guide you toward that.
We don’t dance in the density, dear ones. We invite you into your own light.
If you want to heal your body or emotions, we are here to help. Stop focusing on the pain or grief for just a few minutes each day. Sit, breathe, and receive our love while you dream of relief first and ultimately feeling wonderful.
If you want abundance, stop the ongoing worry and focus on lack. Handle what you must now, then intentionally shift your focus towards something better. Count your blessings, and remind yourself of prior “miracles.” Let yourself sit in silence each day. Think about how abundance would feel and trust the ideas that will come quickly.
Many tell us they can’t stop worrying, but we lovingly disagree. You stop worrying every time you watch a good movie. You stop worrying every time you have a fun conversation with a friend. You stop worrying when you kiss your dog. You stop worrying when you focus on your grocery list. Whenever you focus elsewhere on something better, you stop worrying. You simply have to make that choice…often over and over again.
If you want more love, stop talking about how you were not loved, are not loved, and cannot find love. We understand you want human companionship and love. Of course! You are designed to connect and enjoy the radiant Divinity of one another shining upon you! You are designed to shine that light upon another. We want this for you if you want this for you.
You were not designed, however, to expect another to make up for what you perceive is lacking in yourself. Another person is not responsible for making you feel safe, beautiful, and good, alleviating your fears, or ridding you of loneliness or boredom. Dear ones, would you want someone else to ask this of you? If you wish to love, then focus on love – loving life, receiving the love of the grass under your feet and the warmth of the sunshine. Receive the love anywhere and everywhere that it is given freely. Give the love where you authentically can. In that stream, you cannot help but rendezvous with more and more love! A person in love with life is loved by lovely others who are too.
We desire that you have all that you want for yourself and more. We will not waver from that frequency of love you wish to experience. We will not sway from our understanding of the love beneath all things. We serve you best by holding the highest vision for your life and guiding it to you as best we can and as much as you will allow.
Your world is in a considerable state of transition now. It looks chaotic, and from the human perspective, it is. But whether your world is rearranging, you’re cleaning your closets, emptying your pockets, or dumping out the contents of your purse, it is a fact that chaos often precedes greater order.
Things are not as they seem. The world of energy is loving and impartial. It responds to your every loving vibration with as much as you will allow into your life. As you become more authentic with yourselves and life, you allow more love to flow. As you accept where you are, you allow more love to flow. As you dream of more loving realities, you allow love to flow. As you allow others to experience according to their choices, you allow love to flow. This can only elevate your experience of life, the experience of those who wish to benefit from it, and the experience of love upon your earth.
It really is quite simple. You are encouraged to seek soothing and good-feeling thoughts and activities, even if that means ignoring destructive behaviors, turning away from doomsayers, and flowing love to those who insist on being negative. Even if you must be in uncomfortable situations and around unpleasant people, you can focus on the flow of love to you and outward through you, silently observing the conditions and behaviors while flowing love.
As you do this, you begin to witness life through the eyes of your soul. You start to live in love and be open to love and release more love into your own life and world. Things are not as they seem. Only love is beneath things, in the core of all hearts, and in all situations. You allow or resist it, but it lives, breathes, and flows unceasingly whether you experience it or not. You can experience it whenever you look within, look to the unseen, or even look around you and notice the good.
God Bless You!
We love you so very much.
~ The Angels
(Posted by Pam Younghans )
https://www.visionsofheaven.com/AAngels/newsletter_2023_0225.html
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