Tag: trauma

Christmas 🎄 and Family Estrangement

‘Twas the night before Christmas, when all through the house not a creature was stirring, not even a mouse …’ But for us, alienated parents, that silence isn’t peaceful—it’s unnatural. It’s not supposed to be this way. Our children have been unjustifiably, most cruelly, denied a relationship with us, and the quiet reminds us of their absence. The pain is real and heightened on nights like this. I know from personal experience that Christmas can be an extremely tough time for an alienated parent. The sense of loss is heightened, and you can easily get caught in an emotional loop. You have to deal with not seeing the children and maybe even having your presents rejected or returned. Whilst I cannot make your children come back during the festive season or cure the absence of their presence and laughter, I’m here to help you manage these feelings and find your inner strength. I help many parents, like you, cope far better with the challenges that we face. You can learn to re-frame the way that you experience alienation, changing the way you think, feel and act. I will be working on this with my current clients and anyone else who wants to join my program or coaching. You can shift your perspective and regain a sense of peace, not just for the holidays but moving forward. Reach out for support. If not me, then those close to you who can support you when you need it. Take care, Charlie.

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The Fallacy of Modern Psychiatry: Treating Symptoms, Ignoring Causes – Mad In America

To truly understand a person’s actions and behaviors, one must ask: What was this person exposed to? What did they experience?
— Read on www.madinamerica.com/2024/12/fallacy-modern-psychiatry/

Exadus Project

The soul of a woman, a mother who has been emotionally tortured by a depraved narcissistic abuser, cannot be explained in simple terms. Being stabbed from the inside out, in front of your children, in front of God, takes a special kind of demon, the kind that many are convinced only exist in the movies. If only that were true.

We see this ugliness up close and in person every month. Mothers with broken teeth, mothers with scars over their whole body, mothers with children who have been severely abused, mothers so severely traumatized that they can barely talk. This year, our abuse advocacy program has helped over 500 mothers and their children (over 1,100) escape homelessness, as the result of fleeing abusive relationships of every kind. We’ve stepped in and bailed mothers out of jail who were falsely accused by their abuser to manipulate the family court system into taking their children, and helped to reunite those mothers with their children by providing assistance to secure permanent housing. 51 of the mothers had to be relocated to undisclosed locations with permanent housing to escape abusers hell bent on violating restraining orders and taking children the courts awarded full custody to the mother. One mother, one too many, was sadly murdered by her abuser in front of her children, just 2 days before we were set to move her into her new permanent housing.

We end each year with a drive, a push to help 125 abused mothers and their children secure permanent housing. This December, we’ve helped 87 mothers and their children secure permanent housing with rent/utility deposit, household furnishings, food and personal necessities. We have 38 mothers remaining and I am personally asking friends and supporters to help us help these mothers end the nightmare of homelessness with a year-end donation to The Exodus Project. I am asking those who can to make a generous donation of $10 or whatever God puts on your heart. Please visit The Exodus Project today to lend your support by following to link below and in my comment to this post. Bless you and thank you!

Website: http://www.theexodusproject.com/helping-homeless-abuse-victims/

Alienating Parents & the Damage Done

Parental alienation occurs when one parent, typically after separation or divorce, actively and deliberately attempts to distance the child from the other parent. It’s not uncommon for an alienating parent to have shown far less interest in the child’s life before separation, only to suddenly become intensely involved once the other parent is no longer in the picture. It can be even more so when they remarry.

The alienating parent may use manipulative tactics to undermine the relationship between the child and the other parent. This can involve making negative comments about the other parent, falsely accusing them of wrongdoing, or deliberately preventing the child from spending time with the other parent. The goal is often to erase the other parent’s influence from the child’s life, creating a sense of loyalty and dependence solely on the alienating parent. This behaviour is widely considered harmful to the child’s well-being, as it can lead to emotional distress, confusion, and strained relationships with both parents.

The alienated parent might wonder how alienating behaviours impact the relationship between the alienating parent and the alienated child (a convoluted sentence, but I want to be clear). Some (though not nearly enough yet) may view alienating behaviours as a form of psychological child abuse, especially given there are allegations without proof that the child is better off without one of their parents in their life. It may lead to legal consequences such as changes in custody arrangements or supervised visitation for the alienating parent. We do hear of these stories (again, they are few and far between) as the courts tend to take the lead from the ‘voice of the (indoctrinated/alienated) child’. But, also, and more generally, the alienating parent is not easy to live with. They are highly manipulative, and the child may come to realise this. Their love is conditional. After-all, this is a parent who requires the child to cut the other loved/loving parent out of their life. This is NOT loving behaviour. Deep down, the child knows even if they make excuses and align with this parent.

NB: A father can be a biological parent. A biological parent is someone who is genetically related to a child and participated in the child’s conception. Both the mother and father of a child are considered biological parents.

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Narcissist: No resolution ðŸ˜œ

A narcissist isn’t interested in owning up to their actions—they’re focused on provoking your reactions. Why? Because your reactions become the perfect distraction from their behavior.

Let that sink in for a moment. 🤯 All this time, while you thought you were working toward a resolution, defending yourself against their accusations, or explaining your side, you were being set up. It was never about resolving anything—it was about control.

Wow.

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