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Truth

Truth is liberating and does shatter illusions, and my life long experiences have intensified my efforts towards truth .

The truth is freedom and it will piss you off , often enrage you . Tempering that was major for me as I continued in my efforts to heal myself and grow ( no way to catch up , grieve lost time , lost children , lost health ) and after years of, decades I have been rewarded with healing and truths that often have knocked me down, had me walk back my progress . But I did not , could not , not pull it together .

Defiantly worse for wear but holding faith that all wrongs are righted ; Thy Will Be Done .

@resting

In more esoteric circles, these illusions are called Maya. There are many truths that get revealed on the ascension path but in a nutshell it’s simply this:

We are cosmic, energetic beings having a human experience, all at once.

This means we’re all many manifestations of one single entity, all that is.

Narcissist Relationships

When you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, there will always be another secret life going on behind your back.

This is because these people are very empty, and they need stimulation from multiple sources just to face existence. They’ll be doing drugs or pornography. They’ll be stringing multiple partners through flirting and emotional affairs. They will be chasing financial intrigue that occasionally gets them into scams and trouble.

The reason they must flirt with other people is also because they’re seeking to move on to other people who don’t know the games they play.

They know they’ll get bored with you eventually, or you’ll learn to resist their shenanigans. And since being alone would kill them, they begin to groom possible replacements among anyone whom they can charm.

You’ll also notice this habit of making promises to you and then using those promises as a dangling carrot to get compliance from you. If you don’t do what they want, they’ll withdraw the promise.

Sometimes, they’ll deny having promised at all, or they postpone it until you give up. The truth is that they never intended to fulfill it in the first place.

Narcissists have lost all sense of right and wrong. Everything is about satisfying themselves.

When you finally leave, they’ll circle back to you, pretending to be checking on you when actually they’re checking if they still have access.

If you have a child with them, they would weaponise that child to torture you until you cut them off totally or you manage to enforce boundaries with the help of the law.

But the child will be scarred or wasted by the counter parenting and objectification from the narcissist.

Society knows very little about narcissists.

Sometimes, you stay because you fear the pain of letting go until you realize the pain you’re already taking for holding on.

Other times, you think you’re staying for the children until you realize that the narcissist is turning all of them into other small narcissists and broken empaths.

Your solution is to recognize that this person is incapable of peace. They’re only excellent at pretending and confusing you.

You will never have a life until you detach from them and direct your life towards wholeness and emotional stability.

#karmasays

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Narcissistic: Masked Predators

A TRUTH THAT YOU ARE MISSING

You didn’t lose the love of your life, you’ve lost the parasite that was draining your life.

Narcissists are not soul mates. They are masked predators, and understanding this is critical to your healing.

The person you see at the end of the relationship is the person who actually is.

Their true nature was hidden behind a facade of magic, charisma and manipulation.

You’ve been lured in false promises, false feelings and masked behavior.

Even though it was feeding your emotional energy, crushing your self esteem, and leading to eating your sense of self.

What I went through wasn’t love; it was a toxic cycle of abuse where every day seemed like a battle for survival.

Gaslighting, their emotional blackmail and constant criticism were not signs of affection. They were instruments of control and domination.

Their betrayal, deceit, and lack of empathy were not simple mistakes; they were deliberate actions to exploit your weaknesses.

You didn’t just lose a family member, you escaped a toxic nightmare

Breaking free from the cycle of abuse, takes incredible courage, strength and resilience. Narcissists are incapable of true love; they just imitate it to get what they want.

To heal, you have to accept the truth: you weren’t loved, you were used.

You’ve been a source of supply, a means of purpose, and a pawn in your manipulation game.

Although you are now free to rediscover yourself and embrace truelove and live a life filled with purpose, joy and authenticity.

You deserve real love, real connection & healthy relationships

You deserve to be seen, heard, and understood. You deserve to be appreciated, respected and appreciated. Never settle for anything less.

You deserve love, and it will find you when you least expect it.

#karmasays

#cttowner

Walking Away

Stop testing the limits of my patience and my love. I’ve given you my trust, my loyalty, and my heart…but even I have boundaries. If you continue to deceive, manipulate, and betray me, don’t expect me to stay.

I’ve stood by you time and again, forgiving your mistakes, overlooking your flaws, and believing in the person I hoped you could become. I’ve poured everything into this relationship…my love, my energy, and my faith…even when it hurt me, even when you didn’t deserve it. That’s what love is: showing up, holding on, and believing in someone, even when it’s hard.

But love and loyalty are not infinite. They have limits, and they come with expectations. Cheating is not an accident; it’s a choice. Narcissism is not just a flaw; it’s a refusal to see anyone but yourself. If you keep exploiting my forgiveness, testing my understanding, and shattering my trust, there will come a moment when I no longer have the strength or desire to repair what you’ve broken.

And when that moment comes, don’t act surprised. Don’t play the victim. Don’t accuse me of walking away too easily. I’ve given you every opportunity to change, to grow, and to prove that this relationship is worth saving. But if you continue to take me for granted, you can’t be shocked when I finally choose to walk away.

When I leave, it won’t be out of anger or hate…it will be out of self-respect. And when you finally realize what you’ve lost, remember: it wasn’t me who gave up…it was you who pushed me away.

#karmasays

Control over every inch of your life – Narcissist Domination

“Suffocation doesn’t always look like hands around your neck. Sometimes, it looks like control over every inch of your life.”

Being with a narcissist was one of the most suffocating experiences of my life. I had no idea one person could demand so much while giving so little.

I wasn’t allowed to talk to people without their permission. I couldn’t be away from their side unless it was “approved.” I had to wake up and go to bed on their schedule, and the life I once loved—the career, hobbies, and even decorating my own home—was stolen from me.

I’ll never forget the phrase that still haunts me:

“That’s not a part of your life anymore.”

Those words were a declaration. My voice, my choices, and my freedom were stripped away by someone who thought my life was theirs to control.

In every photo of us together, people now tell me they notice it—the grip. His hand always on my neck, pulling me in, always holding me close as if to say, “She’s mine. I own her.” But here’s what they didn’t see: behind the fake smiles was a woman who couldn’t breathe. A woman who had lost her identity. A woman who had no right to question anything or speak up for herself.

But let me tell you something: there is hope.

I broke free.

I stopped being his “yes babe.” I spoke up. I sought counseling. And slowly, I began to stand up for myself. The more I reclaimed my voice, the angrier he got, and the more he started searching for his next victim—someone easier to control. Narcissists don’t like being questioned, and the moment you stand tall, they start looking for their Plan B.

Today, I’m stronger. I’m wiser. And I’m here to tell you:

You don’t have to stay suffocated.

You are not alone. Your voice matters. And the freedom waiting for you on the other side is worth every hard step you’ll take to get there.

#WordsOfSteele #RadiantResilience #ShatteredSilence #PureHeartPower #BoldAndUnbreakable #WinningInTheEnd #RelentlessStrength #ResilientHeart #StayStrong #TruthPrevails #GivingItAllMyMight #MomOf7 #CoachSandi #ShatteredSilence

The silent wife of Narcissist

It is true .

Growing old is mandatory, Growing up is optional

Mental Midget , emotionally immature

Years of knowing his cycles , his denial that change and healing were crucial .

His non response mode

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Your voice tone matters

I was guilty of this , and I think it still triggers some who were receiving my communication while drugged .

I’m sure as a single married Mom of 3 , stress and frustration created a less than ideal communication.

Deeply regret the harm done .

When we speak to someone, our tone of voice carries more weight than we might think. Even if our intentions are good, the way we say things can linger in someone’s heart long after the words have been spoken. A harsh or careless tone can echo in their mind, replaying moments that may hurt more than we ever intended. Those moments can be jarring, leaving behind an emotional bruise that’s hard to forget.

It’s so important to be mindful of not just what we say, but how we say it. The tone we use, the approach we take, and the words we choose can either lift someone up or tear them down. Everyone you meet is carrying something within them-struggles, fears, hopes-things we might never see.

So, in every conversation, choose to be kind. Speak with empathy and warmth, because your words have the power to heal, to comfort, and to show that you care. After all, the way we make others feel is often what they remember the most.