Tag: trauma

Narcissist: Accusations: “ Living in the Past “

When someone with controlling or narcissistic tendencies, such as an alienating parent, accuses you of dwelling in the past and not moving forward, it’s often a strategic move to deflect accountability for their own hurtful actions. By making such accusations, they aim to avoid facing the consequences of their past (and present) abusive behaviour while simultaneously perpetuating their harmful actions. This tactic allows them to shift the focus away from their wrongdoing and maintain control over the narrative. In reality, these accusations mask their unwillingness to acknowledge the pain they’ve caused and their ongoing psychologically manipulative abuse that continues to harm you, the children, and the family dynamic.⁠

I’ve been through this myself. Reach out if I can help you with the coaching I offer.

This is all I have heard for decades !

Lifted to A Higher Octave 🤩💯🙏

I know we have been experiencing profound energies, but Prepare yourselves–– Ground , look about you and consciously recognize all the Beauty around you, the innumerable things to be grateful for, and look inward and Feel the Divine Love you are. We are about to receive even more infusions of intense uplifting energies — Can you feel it?

All day , I’ve moved against a background of something truly significant and spectacular about to occur.

I’m usually a few days ahead of significant energetic shifts these last few months, so know it’s coming–and it’s beautiful. I know others will speak of the significance of the Parade of Planets occurring shortly, and many have spoken of the solar flares , geomagnetic activity, and more , but I am guided to say , ‘It’s Larger than all this…’

If you are willing to receive ,

willing to embrace the New ,

We are about to be and are being lifted to an entirely new octave of Energetics. Latent fears stored deep in the physical vessel will be shaken loose and allowed to surface to be acknowledged, felt, and transformed. Once more fear is being purged a deeper levels to bring into expression greater love.

This is a lifting to the Higher Heart and an alignment of speech , so don’t be surprised if you find yourself being even more authentic in speech , aligning your words more clearly to heart and soul urges. And expect any number of symptoms related to the throat chakra, neck, head, shoulders, and high heart.

You may experience sudden burst of love or compassion that literally makes you weep , an intense desire to live your own truth , authenticity , coming even more sharply into focus , or, an awareness of those areas in your life, or in you, where you have resisted love out of fear–fear of the vulnerability it can make you feel to loss, hurt, grief, pain.

And remember , even those open to receive may find themselves suddenly and momentarily in the emotion of a past fear, anxiousness, momentary darkness. This is the moment you remind yourself:

‘This too shall pass,

and I am grateful for its uplifting

end results as I look to the light.

I am grateful for this

clearing, for the embodied wisdom it is bringing me in

this Now moment of fear, pain, anxiousness, etc.. I hold

myself in love. I allow myself to receive. I welcome

change..’

And then shake your body out–

literally get up and shake your entire body vigorously to help the energies to move through.

We can be grateful in the pain.

We can hold the pain and not suffer into victimhood, blame, anger. Even in our difficulty, we can compassionate ourselves: pause, breathe, drink a glass of water, allow ourselves to weep and laugh at the joy or immensity of the emotions, the dense energies being transmuted into higher light, love, when we know this is all part of the process of transitioning to the New, of evolving consciously.

We can share our experience from a place of observation rather than being caught in it and projecting it outward unkindly. And remember, allow others their own journey, whatever it looks like. Know they are on it.

‘Ask and you shall receive.’

Give voice to your request for assistance to hold with compassion whatever it is you are experiencing. Ask aloud for any assistance You might need to help transform anything you might be holding, experiencing. There are so many guides, spirits, ancestors, angels, masters wiling to assist, support us, if we would only allow ourselves to ask in truth, in voice.

And know too, you will and probably already are going to experience real moments of living in higher truth, awareness , consciousness –– where grace , kindness , care , unity give you a felt vision of where we are headed. And allow yourself to trust the moments of expanded intuition, telepathy, knowing, or memories of other lives, etc.. Allow in the sense of your infinite Being to shine through your physical vessel, your Heart.

We are so blessed, even as it looks like at moments the world around us is dismantling. Ask, what lies behind the failing structures? What is it making room for us to create, envision, in new ways? What do You truly desire in your heart for the Highest Good of all? Go there. Be there. Experience that in your body, allow it in. Welcome the vision of can be for you will be contributing to the energies of the New to be brought forth into expression.

We Are this creative, this powerful,

this Loved…

Blessings to us all.

Allannah Capwell

You did not loose

This knowledge years ago was a soul saver

You didn’t lose the love of your life—you lost a parasite that was draining the life out of you. Narcissists aren’t soulmates; they are predators in disguise, and understanding this is crucial to your healing. The person you saw at the end of the relationship is who they truly are.

Their true nature was hidden behind a facade of charm, charisma, and manipulation. They lured you in with false promises, fake emotions, and a convincing act. But underneath it all, they were feeding off your emotional energy, chipping away at your self-worth, and eroding your sense of self.

What you experienced wasn’t love; it was a toxic cycle of abuse where each day felt like a battle for survival. Their gaslighting, emotional blackmail, and constant criticism weren’t signs of affection; they were tools of control and domination. Their infidelity, deceit, and lack of empathy weren’t mere mistakes; they were deliberate actions to exploit your vulnerabilities.

You didn’t lose a loved one—you escaped a toxic nightmare. You broke free from a cycle of abuse, and that takes incredible courage, strength, and resilience. Narcissists are incapable of genuine love; they only mimic it to get what they want.

To heal, you must accept the truth: you were not loved, you were used. You were a source of supply, a means to an end, and a pawn in their manipulative game. But now, you are free to rediscover yourself, embrace true love, and live a life filled with purpose, joy, and authenticity.

You deserve real love, genuine connection, and healthy relationships. You deserve to be seen, heard and understood. You deserve to be valued, respected, and cherished. Never settle for anything less. You are worthy of love, and it will find you when you least expect it.

✍️ Alan Sinott