“Stop gaslighting yourself into thinking you’re lazy, when you’re really exhausted AF from the trauma and grief you’ve endured.”
Dr. Jen via Twitter
Rest. Buy yourself flowers. Eat fresh fruit (the brain runs on glucose). Take a walk. Focus on taking in only those things which awaken your soul. Soak in a tub filled with flower petals, essential oils and mineral salts. Have a weekend blackout on all things media. Surround yourself with the provocation of all things sensual; soft, decadent fabrics, whatever moves your Spirit; music that you love, scents that enthrall you, books that feed your enthusiasm, beautiful art.
Just for this weekend, be the bee settling on all of the best flowers.
Love yourself deeply, and remember who and what you really are.
✨Expected Death ~ When someone dies, the first thing to do is nothing. Don’t run out and call the nurse. Don’t pick up the phone. Take a deep breath and be present to the magnitude of the moment.
There’s a grace to being at the bedside of someone you love as they make their transition out of this world. At the moment they take their last breath, there’s an incredible sacredness in the space. The veil between the worlds opens.
We’re so unprepared and untrained in how to deal with death that sometimes a kind of panic response kicks in. “They’re dead!”
We knew they were going to die, so their being dead is not a surprise. It’s not a problem to be solved. It’s very sad, but it’s not cause to panic.
If anything, their death is cause to take a deep breath, to stop, and be really present to what’s happening. If you’re at home, maybe put on the kettle and make a cup of tea.
Sit at the bedside and just be present to the experience in the room. What’s happening for you? What might be happening for them? What other presences are here that might be supporting them on their way? Tune into all the beauty and magic.
Pausing gives your soul a chance to adjust, because no matter how prepared we are, a death is still a shock. If we kick right into “do” mode, and call 911, or call the hospice, we never get a chance to absorb the enormity of the event.
Give yourself five minutes or 10 minutes, or 15 minutes just to be. You’ll never get that time back again if you don’t take it now.
After that, do the smallest thing you can. Call the one person who needs to be called. Engage whatever systems need to be engaged, but engage them at the very most minimal level. Move really, really, really, slowly, because this is a period where it’s easy for body and soul to get separated.
Our bodies can gallop forwards, but sometimes our souls haven’t caught up. If you have an opportunity to be quiet and be present, take it. Accept and acclimatize and adjust to what’s happening. Then, as the train starts rolling, and all the things that happen after a death kick in, you’ll be better prepared.
You won’t get a chance to catch your breath later on. You need to do it now.
Being present in the moments after death is an incredible gift to yourself, it’s a gift to the people you’re with, and it’s a gift to the person who’s just died. They’re just a hair’s breath away. They’re just starting their new journey in the world without a body. If you keep a calm space around their body, and in the room, they’re launched in a more beautiful way. It’s a service to both sides of the veil.
Credit for the beautiful words ~ Sarah Kerr, Ritual Healing Practitioner and Death Doula , Death doula Beautiful art by Columbus Community Deathcare
There are many ways we traumatically dissociate. Most are involuntary (feeling removed from your own body or the world, memory gaps, shifting into different identity states especially if you are triggered by memories or flashbacks) and some are “semi” voluntary in the sense that we partake in activities excessively as a distraction to numb ourselves out. ❤️ What brings some relief to dissociation is (with the help of a trauma informed therapist) mindful awareness + reorienting yourself to what is happening both within you and around you, as well as achieving some integration when it comes to fragmented memories and identity states. Remember, dissociation can be a trauma response and survival instinct – it may have served to protect your brain in the past while the trauma was happening. You can appreciate its purpose while still working toward healing. #trauma #cptsd #ptsd #complextrauma #narcissisticabuse #shahidaarabi #dissociation
Make peace with your body today my friend, for it has toiled for many years just to keep you alive. It has grown, weathered virus and disease, healed countless wounds and fought many unseen battles, to keep your soul intact for its journey through this life.
Yes it has changed but it has been changing since the day you were born. And it will continue to change until the day you die. Make peace with this.
Striving against this change, is like trying to blow away the wind. Futile, pointless, misery-making. Your body has served you well and done so with your daily hate and disapproval.
It has suffered years of daily, hourly negativity, pulsing its way from your brain to your cells… Not good enough, not attractive enough, not perfect. And every day you thought it wasn’t perfect, it really, truly was.
It was keeping you alive, supporting your rash decisions, counteracting your foolish mistakes, doing everything in its power to stay in the game. For you.
Make peace with your body today, my friend, say your apologies, right your wrongs and move on with appreciation. You are blessed.
Look around you, not everyone is so blessed. Not every one is breathing, walking, thriving. And whilst you are looking around, see that nobody is perfect. The way a body looks, says nothing about its strength, its longevity, its endurance.
This is not a rehearsal, this is your one shot at a life well-lived.
Complex trauma when you are a perfectionist is very much like having a thousand tabs open and trying to cater to all of them at once, only to focus on the ones that are not necessarily “high priority” yet somehow seem more emotionally important. Who else can relate? 😂 If trauma has affected your executive functioning – your ability to plan, judge, make decisions, etc. you are certainly not alone. #cptsd #complextrauma #narcissisticabuse #toxicpeople #toxicrelationships
We just had a solar explosion go off. It has hurled a CME towards us. We have an unstable sunspot that will be turning to face Earth later this week. Venus happened to be passing the Sun at the same time that latest blast went off. That means we are feeling these energies extra. That also means more are coming. We are also feeling the energies of the 1/11 Portal. This portal is shining a light on our love life and finances. We are very much feeling the influence of that Venus blast right now. We are in such a heightened space energetically. We are instant manifesting right now like never before. Anything your thinking of will materialize. The energies of the 1/11 Portal are helping us to anchor into 2022. This is the space where you get excited about your year ahead. You have so much space and potential to create something new. This week we also have a powerful alignment happening with our Milky Way. Jan 13th- 16th the Moon will cross the Winter Hexagon and the Milky Way. The Winter Circle is made up of six stars, each of it’s own constellation. We have Sirius, Rigel, Aldebaran, Capella, Castor & Pollux, and Procyon shining down on us. That means we are going to continue to be having extra Galactic Energies pouring in this week as the constellations of Canis Major, Orion, Taurus, Auriga, Gemini, and Canis Minor align. The Milky Way also cuts through the winter hexagon as well. That makes this week an amazing time to check out the stars, you may be able to see our whole Milky Way Galaxy. Jan 17th we have a Cancer Full Moon. This is the Wolf Moon. This Full Moon will help take our intuition to new heights. It’s a great time to be tapping into your inner guidance right now. It’s also a great time to be brave and to forge a new path. Many of you are Indigo Souls. You came here to break the karmic chains for humanity. You are wayshowers for humanity. If your feeling guided to make a new path, or a new way, forge or follow it. This Full Moon is bringing extra light so it will make your path more clear…
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