Tag: Men

Masculine Avoidance

“Man goes from one woman to another, goes on changing. People think he is a great lover; he is not a lover at all. He is avoiding, he is trying to avoid any deep involvement because with deep involvement problems have to be faced, and much pain has to be gone through. So one simply plays safe; one makes it a point never to go too deeply into somebody.

If you go too deep you may not be able to come back easily. And if you go deeply into somebody, somebody else will go deeply into you also; it is always proportionate. If I go very deep in you the only way is to allow you also to go that deep in me. It is a give and take, it is a sharing. Then one may get entangled too much, and it will be difficult to escape and the pain may be much. So people learn how to play safe: just let surfaces meet — hit-and-run love affairs. Before you are caught, run.

This is what is happening in the modern world. People have become so juvenile, so childish; they are losing all maturity.

Maturity comes only when you are ready to face the pain of your being; maturity comes only when you are ready to take the challenge. And there is no greater challenge than love.”~

~Osho

Y Chromosome is Disappearing

The Y Chromosome is Disappearing — A New Sex Gene May Be The Future of Men

The human Y chromosome, which determines male sex, is slowly disappearing, potentially spelling extinction for humans unless a new sex-determining gene evolves.

But there’s hope, as some rodents have already lost their Y chromosomes and found alternative ways to survive.

The Y chromosome contains the SRY gene, which initiates male development in human embryos. However, over millions of years, the Y has been shedding genes. If this trend continues, the last of its remaining 55 genes could vanish in 11 million years.

Rodents like mole voles in Eastern Europe and spiny rats in Japan have lost their Y chromosomes entirely, yet they continue to reproduce. In spiny rats, researchers identified a new sex-determining gene near SOX9 on chromosome 3, which appears to have replaced SRY.

This discovery provides optimism that humans could also evolve a new sex-determining gene. However, this evolutionary process comes with risks. If different sex-determining systems evolve in separate populations, it could lead to reproductive isolation and the emergence of new human species.

In 11 million years, visitors to Earth might find no humans at all—or a world inhabited by multiple human species, each with its own unique way of determining sex.

Collective Expansion 👨‍🦳👩🏻‍🦳

I see more and more men doing “the work”, going into their shadows, looking actively and compassionately at their trauma.

They are coming to terms with their suppressed emotions, without losing their masculine edge, their leadership, the connection to their King energy.

They’re stepping up, leaning in, diving deep, and surfacing with new-found energy and embodied power.

It’s glorious to witness.

I also see more and more women applauding that, being (their) man’s biggest cheerleaders, and expressing how grateful they are about him finally catching up.

I see their posts, their beautiful appraisals, their happiness and sighs of relief that they finally can lean back into their feminine.

So far so good.

Make no mistake, though, that “doing the work” and healing often goes in waves and takes turns.

Not always, though. But often.

Women challenged men to grow because of all the work they did. And men chose to take this challenge and are catching up.

And now, as men rise from their dark night or even dark years of the soul, their new brightness will shine a light on the shadows that women have avoided, denied, bypassed, deflected and ran from and this will be the next level of growth, if they choose to take the challenge and catch up.

Women call for men to grow, and then men demand from women to grow again…

It’s the process of co-creation, the universal law of cyclic evolution.

The ultimate expression of teamwork.

We only have to honor each other’s cycles and paces, be patient, and trust in each other’s abilities.

That’s how we expand, individually and as a collective.

~ Bas Waijers Baumann

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A good man # 17 a must for him

HERE ARE SOME CHARACTERITICS OF A GOOD MAN. ♥️

1. VISION AND PURPOSE: 🏅

Ask a man about his vision and purpose for his life. If he can’t answer gets offended, he’s not ready. A man doesn’t need a partner without a purpose or assignment. Women might try to give men a vision, but it’s something he must possess on his own. Only when he has a clear vision should he seek a woman to help him realize it.

2. COMMITMENT READINESS: ♥️

If a man says he wants a committed relationship, believe him. No matter how well you cook, clean, pamper, or please him, if he’s not ready for a relationship, nothing you do will change that. If he says he’s only looking for friends, take his word for it.

3. RESPECT FOR WOMEN: 🫂

Ask him about the women in his life—his mother, sisters, and exes. If he uses derogatory terms like “bitch,” it’s a red flag. If his mother’s opinion will always outweigh yours, that’s another warning sign. He must be willing to leave the past behind to truly commit to you.

4. PATIENCE WITH INTIMACY: 💋💞

A good man won’t pressure you for s*x when you first meet. You are not a car to be test-driven. If a man wants to test your body, emotions, and feelings upfront, it’s a sign to walk away.

5. ROLE MODELS: 💯

Every good man has someone he looks up to, someone he fears disappointing. If he says “no one,” be cautious—he might be too proud to be a good leader. The person he admires speaks volumes about his character.

6. SEEING YOUR TRUE WORTH: 💏

When asked what he sees in you, it’s okay if his first answer is about your appearance, men are visual. But he should also recognize the deeper qualities that make you who you are. He won’t protect what he doesn’t value, so he must see and appreciate your true worth.

7. KEEPING PROMISES: 🗣

A good man keeps his promises. If he consistently fails to call when he says he will, cancels dates, shows up late, or plays emotional games, take note. These are clear signs he doesn’t value, love, or care about you.

8. PROUD INTRODUCTIONS: 👫

How a man introduces you reveals a lot about the relationship. Steve Harvey says if a man introduces you without a title or just as a friend, you likely have nothing substantial. A man who loves you will give you a title, his lady, woman, fiancée, or wife.

9. AVOIDING DEROGATORY LANGUAGE: 🚦

A good man doesn’t frequently use terms like “bitch,” “hoe,” “nagging,” or “golddigger.” Men often use these terms to lower a woman’s expectations of them. If he constantly calls women “golddiggers,” he may be unwilling to provide much in the relationship.

10. PRIORITIZING YOUR HAPPINESS: 🥰😍

A good man puts you first. He cares about your concerns and wants to address them. He strives to make you happy and values your opinion. Providing for those he loves is in his DNA, and if he loves and cares for you, he’ll provide without limits.

11. FINANCIAL RESPONSIBILITY: 🚨

A good man takes pride in paying for dinner, movie tickets, or other outings. If he insists on paying, it’s a sign he values and respects you. When a man genuinely cares, he’ll go the extra mile to impress and do right by you.

12. SELF-AWARENESS: 🎪

A good man knows who he is, his job title, and his financial standing. He must have a clear understanding of these things to focus on a relationship and provide the love and support his partner needs.

13. MORAL INTEGRITY: 🎆🎉

Being a man of God doesn’t automatically make him a good mate, but having strong morals does. If he’s patient, kind, unselfish, and righteous, he has the potential to be a good partner. A man with a quick temper or frustration issues may not make the best mate.

14. TRUTHFULNESS: 💯

A good man lives in truth, both with himself and others. He’s in tune with a higher spirit and believes in accountability for his actions. This type of man is responsible and holds himself to a high standard.

15. COMMITMENT TO MARRIAGE: 👬👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩

A good man doesn’t keep his partner as a girlfriend or “baby mama” for years on end. He marries his woman and takes pride in making her a proper lady in the eyes of society. He loves and respects her too much to do otherwise.

16. PRIDE IN BEING A GOOD MAN: 💪🦾

When you meet a good man, he takes pride in his role as a partner and as a role model for others. He knows he’s unique and valuable, so when you find Mr. Good Man, treat him accordingly. Remember, you must also be fruitful to capture and keep a good man.

17. SELF-LOVE: ❣️❤️💞

Finally, self-love is crucial. If you don’t love yourself, no man—no matter how great—can ever love you fully. Without self-love, everything else becomes pointless.

This is the essence of a good man. Recognize these traits, and when you find them, appreciate and nurture the relationship you have with such a man coming your way most of the time. Pray for wisdom to recognize good man. 😍🥰

“ Good “ Woman

My ex taught me a lesson:

no matter how good of a woman you are, you will never be enough for a guy who isn’t ready to be a man. I don’t matter how much love, care, and effort they give in, if one is not mature or willing enough to become a man, nothing shall work in that relationship.

Being a “good woman” means being kind, supportive, and loving. But if the guy doesn’t value those qualities, it’s not your fault. You can’t make him appreciate you or grow up when he’s not ready. A real man understands responsibility, respects your worth, and works with you to build a solid relationship.

Sometimes, we hold on hoping the other person will change. Fact is, change happens from within, and you cannot make someone change. When the man does not want to be one-to commit, communicate, and care-then end.

This lesson is not one of bitterness. It’s about knowing your value and not settling for anything less. You deserve someone who is willing to be the partner you need, who appreciates the phenomenal woman you are. Don’t waste your love on some bum who’s unwilling to grow up.

Neena Gupta.

ⓒ Love Is An Emotion of Strong Affection

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Love “ correction “

“Men Only Correct the Women They Love” – A Harsh Truth

Listen up, men. If you’re letting a woman spiral into chaos without stepping in, you don’t love her—you’re just playing along for your own convenience. Real love isn’t about passive acceptance; it’s about stepping up, holding her accountable, and guiding her toward becoming her best self. If you can’t do that, you’re either afraid or uninterested in her future.

A man who has no long-term plans for a woman will let her “do anyhow.” He’ll let her dress half-naked, smoke, drink recklessly, and act wild because he doesn’t care about her future—he’s just there for the short-term thrill. He’s not investing in her as a partner; he’s exploiting her. And the worst part? Many women prefer this. They mistake his silence for love, not realizing that a man who doesn’t correct them doesn’t respect them.

Contrast this with a man who truly loves a woman. He won’t sit back and let her ruin herself. He’ll tell her the hard truths, even if it stings. If she’s dressing inappropriately or engaging in self-destructive habits, he’ll confront her because he cares. He’s not controlling her—he’s protecting her. Real love involves discipline and correction because he sees her potential and wants to build a future together.

But here’s the problem: many women can’t handle being corrected. They’d rather soak in their emotions, complain to friends, and hear lies like, “You deserve better, babe.” They confuse guidance with control, rejecting the very men who care enough to hold them accountable. Meanwhile, they cling to men who let them do whatever they want—men who don’t care about their future. The cycle is predictable, and the outcome is always the same: regret.

Men, stop enabling chaos. If a woman rejects correction, she’s not worth your time. A woman who truly values you will respect your guidance, not resent it. Correction isn’t about control—it’s an act of love. If you love her, you want her to be the best version of herself. But if she can’t handle accountability, she’s not ready for a real relationship.

And women, understand this: a man who corrects you isn’t your enemy—he’s your ally. The man who stays silent doesn’t care about you; he’s just passing time. The one who calls you out is investing in your future. Don’t confuse his discipline with criticism. He’s building you up, not tearing you down.

The bottom line? Real love isn’t about letting someone “do whatever they want.” It’s about setting standards, holding each other accountable, and building a solid future together. If you’re not willing to correct the woman you’re with, you don’t truly love her. And if she can’t handle correction, she doesn’t love or respect you either.

Stay strong, stay sharp, and demand accountability in every relationship. A woman worth keeping will value your guidance and respect your leadership. Anything less is a waste of time.

Aklahyel Goni

Broken Men

The truth is. He is a broken man. And honestly, you’re not meant to fix him. You’re not meant to save him. Change him or even force him to get his shit together. No. If he doesn’t want those things for himself to begin with, then why should you exhaust yourself trying to help him. You can’t make someone care. You’re not his mother. And your love is not meant to be drained by redirecting careless grown men towards their glory. You’re better than that. You have your own problems to deal with. And honestly, you have better shit to do.

-R. M. DRAKE