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Communication with a Narcissist

After recent business conversations , including meetings , I have decided no contact is a must …

TO US, LANGUAGE IS A TOOL OF COMMUNICATION….to a narc, language is a tool of deception, abuse, manipulation, and control. That’s why you have to listen carefully and decode what a narc says. (He or She)

Annie Kaszina says: “Narcissists win you with their – lying, falsely loving – words and then destroy you with their – abusive – words.

That doesn’t happen by chance. They are master manipulators. Whether they are academically bright or educationally challenged, they use language, quite deliberately, to make you fear and obey them.

Often they say that they are not good with language. They use that and other similar ploys because they know how easy it is to dupe you.

They know that you will be slow to believe who they truly are – not least because you don’t want to believe that people like that not only exist but share your home and your bed.

You have to listen to What a Narcissist says and get confident about translating it correctly so that you discern their true agenda.

Whatever they say to you is only ever about safeguarding their best interests at your expense.

When did you realize what the narcissist was saying was manipulation?

For me, the light bulb first went on when I saw the Narcissist planning what he would say to the couples’ counselor… and what a fabulous victim story that was.”

Wishing you enough

Recently overheard was a father and daughter in their last moments together at the airport. They had announced the departure.
Standing near the security gate, they hugged and the father said, ‘I love you, and I wish you enough.’
The daughter replied, ‘Dad, our life together has been more than enough. Your love is all I ever needed. I wish you enough, too, Dad.’
They kissed and the daughter left. The Father walked over to the window where I was seated. Standing there I could see he wanted and needed to cry. I tried not to intrude on his privacy, but he welcomed me in by asking, ‘Did you ever say good-bye to someone knowing it would be forever?’
‘Yes, I have,’ I replied. ‘Forgive me for asking, but why is this a forever good-bye?’..
‘I am old, and she lives so far away. I have challenges ahead and the reality is – the next trip back will be for my funeral,’ he said.
‘When you were saying good-bye, I heard you say, ‘I wish you enough..’ May I ask what that means?’
He began to smile. ‘That’s a wish that has been handed down from other generations. My parents used to say it to everyone…’
He paused a moment and looked up as if trying to remember it in detail, and he smiled even more. ‘When we said, ‘I wish you enough,’ we were wanting the other person to have a life filled with just enough good things to sustain them.’ Then turning toward me, he shared the following as if he were reciting it from memory.
I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude bright no matter how gray the day may appear.
I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun even more.
I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive and everlasting.
I wish you enough pain so that even the smallest of joys in life may appear bigger.
I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.
I wish you enough loss to appreciate all that you possess.
I wish you enough hellos to get you through the final good-bye.
He then began to cry and walked away.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them; but then an entire life to forget them.
Only if you wish, send this to the people you will never forget. If you don’t send it to anyone it may mean that you are in such a hurry that you have forgotten your friends.
TAKE TIME TO LIVE….
To all my Friends and Family – I WISH YOU ENOUGH

Sharing an abduction attempt story, please share

****ATTENTION PLEASE READ****

Last night I was downtown stopped at a stoplight. Suddenly the vehicle in front of me began backing up. I blared my horn but before I could do anything else the vehicle tapped the front end of my car. I stayed where I was. The man quickly jumped out of his car and approached my window. I cracked it just enough to talk to him. I asked for his insurance which he quickly flashed to me and said, “no damage come look.” I firmly said, “No I need a copy of your insurance.” The man just kept saying, “come out and look there’s no damage.” I stayed put. I asked once more for his insurance assuring him that I would call the cops and then took a picture of his license plate. Next thing I knew the man darted off, got into his car and drove away.

All I could think was that I had just gotten into a hit and run and hoped there really wasn’t any damage— it didn’t occur to me that this was an attempt to do so much more.

I called my dad to tell him what happened and ask for advice. I explained the situation and that I hadn’t got out yet to look when he said, “Don’t get out and go somewhere well lit.” I didn’t understand but I listened. I got out and looked sure enough there was no damage. My dad explained that this was likely a scheme to try to get me out of the car to possibly take me. I was instantly horrified at the idea. He asked me if the guy was in a van—he was. I’m sharing this to help make others aware of this scheme. Had I gotten out of the car I might not be here writing this post. PLEASE, PLEASE be cautious as this could happen to anyone. In other scenarios there could be another car behind you for a more aggressive attempt to take you or even multiple men getting out at once to approach your car. If you are at all unsure of a situation CALL THE POLICE.

I STILL DO NOT KNOW WHY I DIDNT GET OUT OF THE CAR BUT I’M REALIZING NOW THAT NOT DOING SO MAY HAVE SAVED MY LIFE.

I have reported the license plate/description of the vehicle to the police.

This post was written to be shared/to help warn others about a real life situation that happened/could happen to anyone.

Not Interested\

To The Ascension LightWorker Collective :The Ascension Process : As we clear out the dense layers of millions of lifetimes, we will move into experiencing ourselves as multidimensional beings who co-exist with many other beings and forces on earth and beyond.

Ascension triggers very deep layers of past trauma, false conditioning and programming, energetic implants, dense energy, shadows, past life and present life karma and all negative energy is to be purged and cleared out . This purging process will result in varied physical and emotional symptoms as well as dormant spiritual abilities being activated. The ascension process shifts the cells into higher frequency patterns so we may embody more light.

Ascension goes beyond just spiritual, physical, or mental shifting. What the ascension process opens us to is our entire being going through a complete transformation and as a result a shift in how we perceive, interact, and relate to the external world because of the inner shifting. This process is about realigning with divine Love which will shift us into the frequency of New Earth, our actual original and organic state of being.

As we go through the ascension process we are shifting consciousness from one reality to another and it is much like a radio channel we tune into. Currently many are shifting from experiencing a third dimensional reality to a fifth dimensional reality and through this process all ascending souls must go through the fourth dimension also.

These different realities are dimensions and we are experiencing a complete dimensional shift into this different kind of reality that has a Completely different energy and frequency.

Dimensional realities are held in place vibrationally by a complex layer of encoded energy , this creates an illusion of time and space that consciousness perceives and also participates in as experience.

When these dimensional grids begin to shift in frequency, there is a change in the magnetic attribute. Absolutely everything within the broadband will also shift and transform. There are natural laws that govern time and space, and because this shifting is occurring, these will alter also . What this ultimately means is that there is very dramatic changes in the perception of our spatial awareness as well as the relationship we have with time and space.

Over time, the weariness and exhaustion of the Ascension journey may take its toll, Temporarily leading us to a point of being completely drained. We encounter numerous challenges like dark nights of the soul, intense ascension symptoms, and strange experiences that defy our human understanding.

These experiences can trigger lower consciousness ego patterns, such as resentment, martyrdom, anger, frustration , blaming and grief. We may even feel the urge to isolate ourselves and escape from it all for a time . In these moments, it is wise to acknowledge and address these lower consciousness patterns. In self It becomes necessary to temporarily disengage from the Ascension process at times and prioritise self-care, health , nurturing the inner child and seeking healing in solace.

This respite allows rejuvenation and renewal, granting us the opportunity to approach the purpose from a higher plane once again, with the knowledge that other Starseeds are holding the energies in our absence. Ascension is about Deep Transmutation on All Levels of Being As we go through the ascension process, we are flooded with higher frequencies and light coming from the cosmos and this may trigger many kinds of ascension symptoms.

This will affect one on all levels of being including physically, mentally, emotionally and the spiritual in energetic layers. This ascension process also activates the twelve strand DNA which means that we are able to reach our higher potential and become fully empowered as multidimensional beings.

Transmutation symptoms can be moderate to extreme also as literally feeling at times like one is dying as the old sweeps away in tower moments. This has a great deal to do with the inner Ego death and surrender . It will always put up great inner resistance as it makes its way out From the control over the mind it once had .

To truly confront the darkness in the external world, we must first confront the so called Monsters within ourselves, as they are the source of all external darkness. Only by Authentically doing the inner work can we hope to bring lasting change and light into this world .

A significant shift in earth energy is now imminent, with noticeable effects already being felt. Prepare for the blessings as unexpected forces of light usher in change to remove individuals and circumstances that do not align with the Ascending purpose and journey.

Starseeds , moving forward we are approaching a very new and transformative energetic phase. with the expanding light of your soul you are illuminating the darkness of this world

Channeled with Love for The Ascending Collective . By Ascension LightWorkers

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When to let go of fake relationships with children?

I left my ex a few years ago. We have 4 kids ages 23,21 and 17 year old twins. I was a stay at home mom for 21 years. My ex throughly alienated my kids, my family and my friends. It was brutal. The worst time of my life. I was alone with everyone I loved on my exes side.

Fast forward a year later and my kids and my family came back to me. They started sharing stories and what my ex was saying didn’t add up. I was beyond thrilled to have my kids and my family back.

It feels fake. We have some great times and have taken weekends away that were so much fun. But it feels fake sometimes. I always feel like I’m walking a fine line, and I am. It’s an ebb and flow sometimes the contact goes for months at a time. Sometimes they pull away. My oldest daughter seems to be the ring leader of when they talk to me and when they don’t. They all come to me when shit hits the fan with their dad and that happens often. Usually involving money.
I’ve set no boundaries because I’m terrified of them leaving again. And they did leave.

A couple of weeks ago my oldest daughter called me in a panic. Her dad bought a dog for her after our divorce and I have never seen the dog before. My ex apparently gave the dog something to eat that it shouldn’t have eaten and the dog began throwing up and wouldn’t stop. She asked her dad yo go to an emergency vet with her and he of course said no, the dog would be fine. She called me and I said I would go with her. The emergency vet bill was over $500 and she made no move to pay for it so I did. I became frustrated and told her that it’s her dad who should pay the bill since he’s the one that made her dog sick. Probably shouldn’t have said that but I did. I am the go to person and provide them with all their clothes, medical appts, school stuff and they don’t live with me. I’m am asked often to buy food for them because there isn’t food in the house they like. I ask myself often why am I buying food for them for their dads house???

Anyway I set some boundaries and tried to explain in a loving way without ever bad mouthing their dad that since they live with him maybe they should ask him to buy food they like and I wasn’t really in a financial position to pay $500 vet bills. (I’m a teacher and my ex makes a ridiculous amount of money) that didn’t go over well and they all stopped talking to me.

My twins birthday was in July and I didn’t get to see them. My mom sent money and gifts and my son who is 17 returned the money and gifts to my mom. My mom didn’t deserve this!

I know for a lot of you, you would love to have any contact and I get that. For me this is almost worse than not having contact. I never know when they will pull away again. It’s a constant roller coaster and every time they leave again it ruins me a little bit more. I’m tired of being the one texting them and telling them I’m sorry and basically begging for them to
come back. This time I haven’t done any of that. I set boundaries that my oldest daughter didn’t like and she (they) walked away.

When does it get better? Should I continue to be a door mat and let them treat me badly so they will be in my life? My therapist said boundaries are great but it sure didn’t work for me. I’m angry. I walked away from their narcissistic dad, I didn’t walk away from them.