Tag: abuse narcissistic behavior

Trauma seeks out innocent victims

Something about the idea that trauma causes people to seek out innocent people to harm never sat well with me. 1) Trauma survivors tend to self-isolate due to their overwhelming emotions and rarely have the energy to go out of their way to sabotage others in the first place. If they do become reactive, it’s usually in response to their abusers who’ve been chronically mistreating them, or in response to a violation from someone who is being cruel or insensitive. If they lash out accidentally, they usually apologize and look within to take steps to get help. 2) Studies show that those with psychopathic traits tend to get a special sadistic thrill out of provoking others, and research also shows that those who are “primary” psychopaths (born, not made) are less likely to have traumatic backgrounds. Neuroscientific research also seems to support this (see for example article on Insider about researcher Dr. Abigail Marsh, who has done neuroscience research on psychopathy for 15+ years and says she doesn’t think childhood trauma is the driving factor of psychopathy) 3) Sabotaging innocent people who’ve never done anything to you – and this includes strangers who did nothing but exist – takes a certain lack of empathy and a certain level of envy/sadism. Trauma survivors who have empathy simply do not even think about doing these things to others. #narcissisticabuse #toxicpeople #victimshaming #toxicrelationships #shahidaarabi #mythsabouttrauma

Smear Campaign of the Narcissist

The narcissists smear campaign is when the narcissist wants to get others to question your behaviour or reputation, where they want to distract others from the truth of the very things the narcissist is doing or has done, by the narcissist playing the victim, so the narcissist can gain enablers and flying monkeys to support the narcissist in their attacks against you, as the narcissist sees you as a threat, they feel envious of you, criticised by you, or fear you might expose the narcissist for who they indeed are. Therefore the narcissist embarks on a mass smear campaign, often without you knowing, so they can isolate you from support. At the same time, they gain unwitting enablers to support the narcissist in destroying you.
The narcissists smear campaign is an intentional campaign to undermine someone’s reputation, credibility, state of mind, character. The narcissist lies to mislead people into feeling sorry for, supporting, enabling and helping the narcissist destroy those the narcissist can no longer control.
The narcissist will tell half-truths, twisted stories, exaggerated stories. They will lie, spread rumours often to those who will gossip more. They will slander peoples names.
The smear campaign is done to divert attention away from what the narcissist has done, to point the finger at someone the narcissist can no longer control, to destroy the other person. In contrast, the narcissist escapes consequences for their actions.
The smear campaign is the narcissist self-defence. It’s their protection.
For further information on the narcissists smear campaigns click the link below. 
https://wasitme.blog/2020/04/20/narcissist-their-smear-campain-against-you-what-they-do-how-you-can-handle-it/

NPD do not co parent

😝 Narcissists don’t co-parent. They don’t want to fall in line and do the right thing. They don’t want to be held accountable, follow the rules and regulations, and don’t want to be harmonious. They don’t want to play on a team.

The only thing a narcissist is interested in – is narcissistic supply. This means, “I can affect other people significantly enough to know that I exist.” It’s the attention they crave more than anything else.

So, when you are attempting to co-parent with a narcissist, they are going to trigger you. They’re going to be uncooperative. They’re going to say one thing and do another. They will use the children as pawns, absolutely to trigger you to get a reaction, which means – I’m significant enough to affect you.

A narcissist wants to play games and use all of these tactics to punish you. How dare you leave them? Or how dare you try and get on with your life? Or how dare you tell other people what they are or how they behave? How dare you?

The false self can’t deal with that. So, punishing you by using the children as pawns is a very, very common tactic.

For an answer to all this – have a look at these resources –

Parallel Parenting – https://bit.ly/3bmz9ZO.

All People Co-Parenting With A Narcissist Needs These Tools – https://bit.ly/3k1maRd.

The Thriver’s Guide To Co-Parenting With A Narcissist – https://bit.ly/3k1HWnT.

Like so many other Thrivers – use the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program (NARP) to detox from the narcissist to give you the strength and empowerment to give yourself and your children a brighter future.

Full details of NARP can be found here – https://bit.ly/33bIGyY.

Much love xo ❤️

Watch “Fatal Attraction” on YouTube

Thy will was done , in as this movie revealed

relationship lessons of infidelity, breeching the

Contract of Spirit and Universal Law , which profits

the industry of laws that do much harm to families .

A very extreme and harsh lesson, I have heard and read

such horrors of traumatic experiences .

Unnoticed , Unheard ,Unhealed

That healing is happening in mass 🐸🙏💯❤️💜💖✌️🌟☮️

Blessings & Much Peace 😘

Dona Luna