Trauma seeks out innocent victims

Something about the idea that trauma causes people to seek out innocent people to harm never sat well with me. 1) Trauma survivors tend to self-isolate due to their overwhelming emotions and rarely have the energy to go out of their way to sabotage others in the first place. If they do become reactive, it’s usually in response to their abusers who’ve been chronically mistreating them, or in response to a violation from someone who is being cruel or insensitive. If they lash out accidentally, they usually apologize and look within to take steps to get help. 2) Studies show that those with psychopathic traits tend to get a special sadistic thrill out of provoking others, and research also shows that those who are “primary” psychopaths (born, not made) are less likely to have traumatic backgrounds. Neuroscientific research also seems to support this (see for example article on Insider about researcher Dr. Abigail Marsh, who has done neuroscience research on psychopathy for 15+ years and says she doesn’t think childhood trauma is the driving factor of psychopathy) 3) Sabotaging innocent people who’ve never done anything to you – and this includes strangers who did nothing but exist – takes a certain lack of empathy and a certain level of envy/sadism. Trauma survivors who have empathy simply do not even think about doing these things to others. #narcissisticabuse #toxicpeople #victimshaming #toxicrelationships #shahidaarabi #mythsabouttrauma

Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser .. View all posts by GreatCosmicMothersUnited