Childress offers response to questions

Prepare your questions for Dr. Childress.

On this New Year, I will be providing an email address here and I’ll ask for your questions. Any question. From anyone.

I’m attending to parents, but attorneys and mental health professionals can ask questions too. Now-adult kids recovering. Anyone. Any question.

There’s no such thing as a dumb question. Well, actually, that’s not true, but that’s okay, ask it anyway. Any question.

Except what’s my favorite color, no trick questions to get me confused.

In January, I’ll ask you to send me your questions to the email address I provide. In February, I’ll start answering your questions on YouTube. All your questions. Even the stupid questions. My favorite color is blue, no wait… red… now look what you’ve done, I’m all confused.

Why not?

You have questions. That likely means more people just like you have the same question. I could answer your questions over-and-over each time one-by-one… or all together on YouTube – whee, don’t you love the Internet. I do. Best thing since fire.

So prepare your questions for Dr. Childress. I don’t need your stories. You think I need your stories to understand your questions, I don’t. I could tell you your stories. I want your questions – I can tell exactly your story by your question – each story has its questions.

I’ll won’t read your stories, I know your stories. I’ll read the sentences that end with this ? thing.

That sentence, the one that ends with that ? thing, is called a question. That’s what I’ll read and answer.

I’ll group your questions sort of, and I’ll start posting YouTube videos in February answering your questions, in 10-15 minute segments until there are no more questions – and a lot of answers on YouTube for everyone now and into the future.

Don’t ‘cha love the Internet. I do. Best thing since fire. Internet gud, and oh my goodness, no one knows your a dog. What’s your question for Dr. Childress? January 2022.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857

My belief was chipped away until 2008..”friendship never was :WAR Within

Too many beautiful, loving folks believe they and the narcissist are soul mates or twin flames. They believe the narcissist is simply fulfilling the “runner” dynamic and will ‘come to their senses’ and return to the relationship sooner or later.⁣⁠
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And they will wait YEARS for this to happen, enduring untold, horrific abuse.⁣⁠
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Please understand that a soul mate will not betray you, stab you in the back, tell you pathological lies, or make it their duty to cause you to feel unworthy of their love. Only sadistic manipulators do that.⁣⁠
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Many writers and content creators are romanticizing emotional abuse and calling it ‘spiritual lessons’ and ‘evolution’.⁣⁠
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This is one of the worst forms of gaslighting.⁣⁠
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The truth is, staying in a relationship with an individual who emotionally abuses you and repeatedly breaks their promises can cause crippling levels of chronic depression due to repeated emotional traumas, the nature of which is made worse by the limiting beliefs we form in response to the narcissist’s degrading verbal assaults.⁣⁠
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Even more alarming, repeated emotional injuries shrink the brain’s hippocampus, which is responsible for memory and learning, while enlarging the amygdala, which houses primitive emotions such as fear, grief, guilt, envy, and shame.⁣⁠

In short, you habitually become hijacked by your freeze response, unable to form rational thoughts or reactions. Over time, this becomes your baseline state of being. It’s a cycle of emotional destruction of the most grievous kind.⁣⁠
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⁣⁠I cannot recommend enough to stop romanticizing abuse and stop self-abandoning.

The Modules of THRIVE are dedicated to helping you evolve into a healed version of yourself so you can say “NO” to continued abuse.

And you will be restored in more incredible ways than you ever believed possible.

Learn more about THRIVE here: https://bit.ly/331a4j7

Much love xo

Kim

Celebrating ” She who moves through space” Day

Happy Dakini Day everybody!

“[the] word for dakini in Tibetan is khandro, which means ‘she who moves through space,’ sometimes called a ‘sky dancer’ or a ‘sky goer’; this refers to the energy that integrates itself with emptiness — not emptiness in the sense of an empty pocket or empty cup, but the emptiness of self or emptiness of ego. It’s the feminine energy that penetrates into emptiness, moving through it, a messenger of it. The dakinis thus became messengers of wisdom, embodiments of wisdom, and energies that practitioners could invoke and with whom they could create a positive relationship.”

~ Lama Tsultrim Allione, from her book Wisdom Rising: Journey into the Mandala of the Empowered Feminine

Happy Dakini Day everybody!“[the] word for dakini in Tibetan is khandro, which means ‘she who moves through space,’ sometimes called a ‘sky dancer’ or a ‘sky goer’; this refers to the energy that integrates itself with emptiness — not emptiness in the sense of an empty pocket or empty cup, but the emptiness of self or emptiness of ego. It’s the feminine energy that penetrates into emptiness, moving through it, a messenger of it. The dakinis thus became messengers of wisdom, embodiments of wisdom, and energies that practitioners could invoke and with whom they could create a positive relationship.”~ Lama Tsultrim Allione, from her book Wisdom Rising: Journey into the Mandala of the Empowered Feminine

Childress : Professional Knowledge

The “established scientific and professional knowledge of the discipline” of professional psychology is:

Attachment – Bowlby and others
Family systems therapy – Minuchin and others
Personality disorders – Beck and others
Complex trauma – van der Kolk and others
Child development – Tronick and others
Self psychology – Kohut and others
ICD-10 & DSM-5 diagnostic systems

2.04 Bases for Scientific and Professional Judgments
Psychologists’ work is based upon established scientific and professional knowledge of the discipline.

If the psychologist’s work is NOT based upon the established scientific and professional knowledge of the discipline, then they are in violation of Standard 2.04 Bases of Scientific and Professional Judgments – they are unethical psychologists.

Psychologists are required to know the established scientific and professional knowledge of the discipline based on their background education, training, and professional experience.

2.01 Boundaries of Competence
(a) Psychologists provide services, teach, and conduct research with populations and in areas only within the boundaries of their competence, based on their education, training, supervised experience, consultation, study, or professional experience.

If the psychologist is providing services outside the boundaries of their competence based on their education, training, and experience, then they are unethical psychologists for violation to Standard 2.01 Boundaries of Competence.

Psychologists must base their opinions contained in their recommendations, reports, and diagnostic or evaluative statements, including forensic testimony, on information and techniques sufficient to substantiate their findings.

9.01 Bases for Assessments
(a) Psychologists base the opinions contained in their recommendations, reports, and diagnostic or evaluative statements, including forensic testimony, on information and techniques sufficient to substantiate their findings. (See also Standard 2.04, Bases for Scientific and Professional Judgments .)

If the opinions of the psychologist as contained in their recommendations, reports, and diagnostic or evaluative statements is NOT based on information sufficient to substantiate their findings, then they are unethical psychologists in violation of Standard 9.01 Bases of Assessment.

Information: Bowlby – Minuchin – Beck – van der Kolk – Tronick – Kohut – ICD-10 & DSM-5 diagnostic systems

Techniques: Mental Status Exam of thought and perception

Parents have rights guaranteed to them by the ethics code of the American Psychological Association. Ethical practice is mandatory, not optional, for all psychologists.

The “forensic” psychologists control the licensing boards. All court-involved complaints made to licensing boards are given to “forensic” psychologists for review – and they exempt themselves from all ethical standards of practice… because they can.

We need to expose the corruption of the licensing boards. Make them cover-up their unethical practice… over-and-over again. You have rights – but only if you stand up and demand your rights.

They won’t give them to you – the licensing boards are not set up to protect the consumer from unethical practice by “forensic” psychologists – they are set up to protect the unethical “forensic” psychologists from accountability for their ignorant, incompetent, and unethical practice.

Google ignorant: lack of knowledge or information

They are ignorant by definition of the English language – and they are too lazy to learn what they’re doing.

2.03 Maintaining Competence
Psychologists undertake ongoing efforts to develop and maintain their competence.

Google incompetence: inability to do something successfully

Did they solve your child’s pathology? They are ignorant and incompetent. They solve nothing because their are ignorant, lazy, and unethical.

Google negligence: failure to take proper care in doing something. Law: failure to use reasonable care, resulting in damage or injury to another.

Were their violations of Standard 2.04 Bases for Scientific and Professional Judgments, Standard 2.01 Boundaries of Competence, Standard 2.03 Maintaining Competence, and Standard 9.01 Bases for Assessment, of the APA ethics code negligent professional practice?

The pathology of concern is a shared persecutory delusion with the allied parent as the primary case – also called the “inducer” (American Psychiatric Association, 2000). The ICD-10 diagnosis for a shared persecutory delusion is F24.

From the journal, Family Court Review:

From Walters & Friedlander: “In some RRD families [resist-refuse dynamic], a parent’s underlying encapsulated delusion about the other parent is at the root of the intractability (cf. Johnston & Campbell, 1988, p. 53ff; Childress , 2013). An encapsulated delusion is a fixed, circumscribed belief that persists over time and is not altered by evidence of the inaccuracy of the belief.”

Walters, M. G., & Friedlander, S. (2016). When a child rejects a parent: Working with the intractable resist/refuse dynamic. Family Court Review, 54(3), 424–445.

From the APA: “Shared Psychotic Disorder can occur in larger number of individuals, especially in family situations in which the parent is the primary case and the children, sometimes to varying degrees, adopt the parent’s delusional beliefs.” (American Psychiatric Association, 2000, p. 333)

From the APA: “Persecutory Type: delusions that the person (or someone to whom the person is close) is being malevolently treated in some way.” (American Psychiatric Association, 2000)

Google malevolent: having or showing a wish to do evil to others.

Does the child have a fixed and false belief that is maintained despite contrary evidence that the targeted parent has a “wish to do evil” to the them? Does the allied parent share this fixed and false belief that the targeted parent has a “wish to do evil” to the child? – that would be a shared persecutory delusion.

If you – as the mental health professional, because of your negligence, ignorance, and unethical practice – believe the shared delusion, then you become PART of the shared delusion, you become PART of the pathology.

When that pathology is child abuse – you, the mental health person – become part of the child abuse – you become the child abuser. The “betrayer” – the one who should protect… but doesn’t.

You, the parents, are more powerful than you know, but only if you stand up for your rights – not beg to have someone recognize some made-up pathology – you have rights, but only if you ground yourselves in the “established scientific and professional knowledge” of professional psychology.

You’re the moms. You’re the dads. You just need support. You have support.

This is child abuse – DSM-5 V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse.

This is spousal abuse using the child as the weapon – DSM-5 V995.82.

All psychologists have two legally obligating duties, the duty of care and the duty to protect.

The “forensic” psychologists are failing in their duty to protect the child from child abuse, and they are failing in their duty to protect the targeted parent from spousal emotional and psychological abuse using the child as the weapon.

This is child abuse. This is spousal emotional and psychological abuse using the child as the weapon.

It needs to stop. Now.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857