Tag: relationships

Responsive Women

A WOMAN’S BEHAVIOR IN A RELATIONSHIP

If a woman behaves like a child, it’s because she’s with a real man. She feels safe.

If a woman behaves like a mother, it’s because she’s with a boy. She feels like she has to raise him up.

If a woman behaves like a man, she’s with a weak man. She’s been forced to step in and be the leader.

If a woman behaves anxious and in need of constant reassurance, it’s because she’s with an unfaithful man. She doesn’t have trust issues. It’s him who has loyalty issues.

If a woman behaves unsettled and always feels like quitting the relationship, it’s because she’s with an unprotective man. He leaves her to fight against the people in his life instead of shielding her and their union.

If a woman is always overworking, she’s with a lazy man. She feels financially exposed and she’s trying to make up for the difference.

The point is that a woman’s behaviour is often a reflection of the energy she’s receiving from her man.

Does every woman have their own growing to do with or without a man? Yes, of course.

Even so, a relationship can turn a woman into someone she’s not.

Even when a woman has done her growth and inner work, she could still become very dysfunctional if she’s with the wrong man.

Because of this, before you diagnose yourself with depression or anxiety or declare yourself unfit for love, check the type of men you’ve been dealing with.

What role have they been casting you into? A good woman is not just submissive. She’s also responsive.

Always confirm if your stressful behaviour is truly coming from you, or if it’s just a response.

Cheaters

“It’s easy for a man to walk away when he already been cheating…” Whew. That line alone carries so much weight. Because once someone’s already been stepping out—emotionally, physically, or even mentally—they been gone. Their body might still be around, but their mind and heart checked out a long time ago. So when they finally leave, it don’t hurt them the way it breaks you, because they’ve already grieved the relationship in silence, behind your back. They just waited until it was convenient to make it official.

But a faithful man? A man who gave you his all, who saw forever in your eyes, who looked at you and saw his peace, his purpose, his person? He won’t walk away that easy. Not without a fight. Not without trying to fix it, talk it out, meet you halfway—even if it hurts. Because you were his home. His comfort. His best friend. That kind of man isn’t quick to let go of something he values. He knows how hard it is to find someone who matches his loyalty, his heart, his effort. He knows.

And that’s the difference. When a man is truly invested, he’s not looking for the nearest exit the moment things get hard. He doesn’t treat commitment like a pair of shoes he can just slip off when it gets uncomfortable. He’s in it—really in it. And even if things fall apart, you’ll never question if he cared, because his love left no room for doubt.

That’s why it hits so different. Because deep down, we all want that kind of loyalty. The kind that doesn’t flinch when life gets real. The kind that doesn’t make you beg to be chosen. So if he walked away without trying, without fighting, without even turning back—it’s not because you weren’t enough.

It’s because he never was. 💔

Remember

One day you’ll remember all those times I tried to talk to you and you didn’t listen.

You’ll remember how many times I told you your attitude hurt me and you ignored me.

You’ll remember I let you know you were losing me and you didn’t believe it.

You’ll remember all the good I did for you and you didn’t appreciate it..

You’ll remember the times I folded up to save our relationship, even when you weren’t right.

You’ll remember my kisses, my caresses, my laugh, my details, my look, my way of taking care of you, take care of you and tell you: I love you, while I touched your face, you’ll remember my jokes, my pickiness and even all that you called toxicity in me, for not accepting your mistakes.

I made you a priority and I wasn’t a priority for you.

Now you’ll have to deal with my silence and my absence, because once you stop asking for attention and you don’t try to talk anymore, it’s because you’ve already given up and don’t plan to fight anymore…

And you think you love me your way, but I no longer want that absurd way of loving.

You’ll remember everything I did to stay and everything you did to make me leave and you’ll miss me..

Men & Therapy

Men don’t seek counseling… they seek new women.

Not healing. Not accountability. Not inner work. Just a fresh start with someone who doesn’t know the script yet. Someone who hasn’t seen behind the curtain. Someone they can impress with the same charm, the same story, the same false humility—because she hasn’t learned how deep the damage goes. Yet.

Instead of going to therapy, they go back to being “that guy.”

Instead of owning the pain they caused, they gaslight the memory of it.

Instead of rebuilding what they broke, they rebuild their image in someone else’s eyes.

Because healing requires honesty. Growth demands discomfort. Accountability asks for vulnerability. And some men would rather protect their ego than do the uncomfortable work of unpacking their trauma, their pride, their insecurities, and the patterns they keep blaming on “crazy exes.”

So they ghost the woman who knew the truth…

And charm the one who doesn’t.

They don’t want growth, they want a reset.

Not to change—just to relocate the lie.

But here’s the thing: you can run from your past, but it catches up in your patterns. You can get a new girl, a new number, a new city—but if the same version of you shows up, the story will end the same. Because unhealed men ruin new hearts.

Ladies, never take it personally when a man skips over healing and moves on quickly. That’s not a reflection of your worth. That’s a sign of how deep his avoidance runs. He didn’t choose her because she’s better—he chose her because she doesn’t yet require what you did: growth, honesty, emotional maturity.

Let him lie in peace. Let him pretend. Because that cycle only repeats until he finally meets himself. And that moment? Can’t be avoided forever.

And for the men reading this—go to therapy.

Heal so your love doesn’t become someone else’s lesson.

Do the work so your next relationship isn’t just a rerun in a different outfit.

The truth will always require more from you than a lie. But the truth will set you free.

The Dance of healed polarities ❤️🌹

“The feminine cannot, will not surrender

To the wounded masculine…

A man who criticizes her

Belittles

Dishonours

Controls

Manipulates

Abuses

Or attacks her

Her own inner masculine will not allow it

He will rise fiercely to the forefront

To stand guard

To do the job himself

The feminine can and will only surrender

To the divine masculine…

A man who is devoted to her

Elevates

Honours

Cherishes

Supports

And protects her

A man with boundaries

Presence

Direction

Integrity

Accountability

And humility

In this space

She will feel him penetrating her very essence…

Her body

Her mind

Her heart

Her soul

And she will feel safe…

Safe enough to surrender

This is the natural law

This is the dance of healed polarities

This is surrender…

To Love”

Written by Gemma Star

Raising the bar – Moms & Dads

Dads deserve to be held to the same standard as moms.

Showing up isn’t “extra.”

Being present isn’t “helping.”

Being an active father isn’t a bonus, it’s the bare minimum.

We don’t get a standing ovation for changing diapers or rocking our babies to sleep.

We don’t get applause for knowing our kids’ routines, their doctors, their favorite snacks, their school schedules.

That’s just called being a parent.

And it should be the same for dads.

Fatherhood isn’t babysitting.

It isn’t part-time.

It’s full-time. All in. Every single day.

Because our kids deserve two parents who are fully present. Not one doing it all while the other gets praised for showing up once in a while.

Let’s raise the bar.

Spousal & Child Psychological Abuse via Narcissist

I post daily, spreading awareness about parental alienating behaviours, trying to empower you with a greater understanding, hoping to uplift you a little, and letting you know you’re not alone.

Parental alienation, often termed pathogenic parenting or an attachment disorder, encapsulates manipulative behaviours and psychological dynamics within familial relationships. A previously loving child will begin to change their behaviours, generally around the time of their parent’s separation or divorce, though it may have begun unnoticed earlier. If challenged, there will be denials by the other parent or caregiver that they unduly influence the child.

Their tactics often include coercive control, where the pathogenic parent exerts undue influence over the child through various forms of psychological manipulation (punishment/reward), intimidation, and threats. Coercive control serves to instil fear and dependency in the child, thereby undermining their relationship with the targeted parent.

Furthermore, the pathogenic parent engages in denigration, systematically disparaging the targeted parent in the child’s eyes through a campaign of lies, false allegations, and character assassination. By poisoning the child’s perception of the targeted parent, the pathogenic parent perpetuates a cycle of emotional abuse, both towards the child and the targeted parent.

Parental alienation shares parallels with Stockholm syndrome, wherein the child develops a skewed allegiance to the pathogenic parent out of fear, dependency, and perceived survival. This complex interplay of coercive control and psychological manipulation constitutes not only child psychological abuse but also spousal psychological abuse, as the targeted parent is subjected to ongoing trauma and victimization.

Parental alienation represents a severe breach of trust, perpetuating cycles of trauma and dysfunction. Recognising the insidious nature of these behaviours is crucial in addressing and combatting them, as it requires a comprehensive understanding of the underlying dynamics and a concerted effort to prioritise the well-being of both the child and the targeted parent.

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Living Bereavement- Charlie McCready

An alienated parent experiences profound emotional turmoil, feeling trapped between a rock and a hard place. They are often isolated from their child due to the alienating tactics of the other parent, which can lead to overwhelming loneliness and confusion. The deep sense of loss, akin to a ‘living bereavement’, encompasses not just the physical absence of their child but also the loss of the once-strong emotional bond. The alienated parent feels helpless, unable to protect their child from further harm, and may experience anguish and betrayal as their child parrots negative statements from the alienating parent.

To navigate this hugely difficult situation, alienated parents can seek support through counselling to express their emotions, develop coping strategies, and gain perspective. In the case of the coaching I do, I sometimes work in small groups, and I offer 1:1 coaching too. Sometimes the ‘target’ parent will be accompanied by a partner, a parent (grandparents suffer too), and I have given coaching to alienated children too. They are not always willing to talk at first, but often open up and find it is a neutral space where they can talk freely, and I can guide them towards seeing the bigger picture.

Prioritising self-care, both physically and emotionally, is crucial. Learning about parental alienation, maintaining boundaries, and considering legal recourse when necessary can empower. Focusing on reconciliation rather than retaliation when interacting with alienated children is crucial. Recognising and addressing these complex emotions is the first step toward healing and potentially rebuilding the parent-child relationship.

These daily posts are here to spread awareness, inform and (where possible) uplift. Please don’t hesitate to contact me directly if I can help you with coaching. There’s more information on my website. I am also working on a series of e-guides (downloadable online guides), the first one is available now for the price of a few coffees.

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