Tag: family
Grief : James Abner Wheeler : Dad , Happy Birthday ! πAlways , Punkin
I stood by your bed last night; I came to have a peep.
I could see that you were crying you found it hard to sleep.
I spoke to you softly as you brushed away a tear,
“It’s me, I haven’t left you, I’m well, I’m fine, I’m here.”
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I was close to you at breakfast, I watched you pour the tea,
You were thinking of the many things and memories of me.
I was with you at the shops today; your arms were getting sore.
I longed to take your parcels, I wish I could do more.
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I was with you at my grave today; you tend it with such care.
I want to re-assure you, that I’m not lying there.
I walked with you towards the house, as you fumbled for your key.
I gently put my hand on you; I smiled and said, “it’s me.”
You looked so very tired, and sank into a chair.
I tried so hard to let you know, that I was standing there.
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It’s possible for me, to be so near you everyday.
To say to you with certainty, “I never went away.”
You sat there very quietly, then smiled, I think you knewβ¦
in the stillness of that evening, I was very close to you.
The day is over⦠I smile and watch you yawning
and say “good-night, God bless, I’ll see you in the morning.”
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And when the time is right for you to cross the brief divide,
I’ll rush across to greet you and we’ll stand, side by side.
I have so many things to show you, there is so much for you to see.
Be patient, live your journey outβ¦then come home to me.
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Grandmothers/Grandmother’s Spirit Rising
We have to live differently or we will die in the same old ways.
Therefore I call on all Grand Mothers everywhere on the planet to rise and take your place in the leadership of the world.
Come out of the kitchen
out of the fields
out of the beauty parlors
out of the television
Step forward and assume the role
for which you were created:
To lead humanity
to health, happiness and sanity.
I call on all the Grand Mothers of Earth
and every person who possesses
the Grand Mother Spirit
of respect for life and
protection of the young
to rise and lead.
The life of our species depends on it.
and I call on all men of Earth to gracefully and
gratefully stand aside and let them
(let us)
do so.
- Calling All Grand Mothers by Alice Walker
Alice Walkerβs poem βCalling All Grand Mothers,β from her collection Hard Times Require Furious Dancing: New Poems (New World Library, 2010), calls on the grandmother spirit but also on us to clear the way for a wise woman’s perspective and workβtoday, tomorrow, and the next day. Although the poem was published a decade ago, it asks a question that still goes unanswered: Isnβt it impossible to know what the difference would be if we were to put females first, until we actually do it?
Photo above is painting by: Frank Howell, titled “Rose of Grandmothers Songs”
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Endings
I did have highlights , but the recoil of 2 living situations that did not ” help ” but hindered my growth in healing physically, enjoying more time outs .Balancing out my world . I managed despite conflicts that have made every effort to halt progress …rather digression , projected blame and rage as the lower selves joined in every effort to prevent exorcism and change ; displacement, remaining as is Distorted and heavy with the burden .
I am grateful for foods donated locally and heavy at years end !
Cash and gas β½are not presently forthcoming , and I’m allowing that flow , utilizing my quite time , and the basic cooking plan that challenging without my kitchen ware ..spices etc .
As the current situation has been chronic and awareness of why that has been controlled and judged guilty , inferior and a waste of air space by a man in Distortions that contributed to the severance of any healthy relationship of balance with HIS kids .
He’s justified in contracts that disadvantage me of income after creating a divorce that allowed his control of my finances. This has been breached, in a continuation of his WAR .
I have survived against his many and varied efforts , denied truths and shuns any response or responsibility for truthfully parenting in the best interest of our sons , physical and mental health .
Realizing that, repeatedly cost me faith in myself for having misjudged the character of the father of our sons . I has begun to forgive myself , when I began to study and accept NPD as reality ..I tried on that shadow personally , and it nearly took me out .
I love each son forever & always and pray for their liberation of parenting and elders who disadvantaged them , in ways that had bound them in secrets and trauma .
Never to conceal ?
Never to reveal?
Never to heal a scared bond ?
Transformations are a
reality .Recent events denote
imbalances and continued
rejection of positive flow , so
I am focused on getting my
” house ” in order .
Resting & Rejuvenation despite
Challenges …
Blessings & Peace
All the Best in 2022!
Dona Luna

Childress : Professional Knowledge
The “established scientific and professional knowledge of the discipline” of professional psychology is:
Attachment – Bowlby and others
Family systems therapy – Minuchin and others
Personality disorders – Beck and others
Complex trauma – van der Kolk and others
Child development – Tronick and others
Self psychology – Kohut and others
ICD-10 & DSM-5 diagnostic systems
2.04 Bases for Scientific and Professional Judgments
Psychologists’ work is based upon established scientific and professional knowledge of the discipline.
If the psychologist’s work is NOT based upon the established scientific and professional knowledge of the discipline, then they are in violation of Standard 2.04 Bases of Scientific and Professional Judgments – they are unethical psychologists.
Psychologists are required to know the established scientific and professional knowledge of the discipline based on their background education, training, and professional experience.
2.01 Boundaries of Competence
(a) Psychologists provide services, teach, and conduct research with populations and in areas only within the boundaries of their competence, based on their education, training, supervised experience, consultation, study, or professional experience.
If the psychologist is providing services outside the boundaries of their competence based on their education, training, and experience, then they are unethical psychologists for violation to Standard 2.01 Boundaries of Competence.
Psychologists must base their opinions contained in their recommendations, reports, and diagnostic or evaluative statements, including forensic testimony, on information and techniques sufficient to substantiate their findings.
9.01 Bases for Assessments
(a) Psychologists base the opinions contained in their recommendations, reports, and diagnostic or evaluative statements, including forensic testimony, on information and techniques sufficient to substantiate their findings. (See also Standard 2.04, Bases for Scientific and Professional Judgments .)
If the opinions of the psychologist as contained in their recommendations, reports, and diagnostic or evaluative statements is NOT based on information sufficient to substantiate their findings, then they are unethical psychologists in violation of Standard 9.01 Bases of Assessment.
Information: Bowlby – Minuchin – Beck – van der Kolk – Tronick – Kohut – ICD-10 & DSM-5 diagnostic systems
Techniques: Mental Status Exam of thought and perception
Parents have rights guaranteed to them by the ethics code of the American Psychological Association. Ethical practice is mandatory, not optional, for all psychologists.
The “forensic” psychologists control the licensing boards. All court-involved complaints made to licensing boards are given to “forensic” psychologists for review – and they exempt themselves from all ethical standards of practiceβ¦ because they can.
We need to expose the corruption of the licensing boards. Make them cover-up their unethical practiceβ¦ over-and-over again. You have rights – but only if you stand up and demand your rights.
They won’t give them to you – the licensing boards are not set up to protect the consumer from unethical practice by “forensic” psychologists – they are set up to protect the unethical “forensic” psychologists from accountability for their ignorant, incompetent, and unethical practice.
Google ignorant: lack of knowledge or information
They are ignorant by definition of the English language – and they are too lazy to learn what they’re doing.
2.03 Maintaining Competence
Psychologists undertake ongoing efforts to develop and maintain their competence.
Google incompetence: inability to do something successfully
Did they solve your child’s pathology? They are ignorant and incompetent. They solve nothing because their are ignorant, lazy, and unethical.
Google negligence: failure to take proper care in doing something. Law: failure to use reasonable care, resulting in damage or injury to another.
Were their violations of Standard 2.04 Bases for Scientific and Professional Judgments, Standard 2.01 Boundaries of Competence, Standard 2.03 Maintaining Competence, and Standard 9.01 Bases for Assessment, of the APA ethics code negligent professional practice?
The pathology of concern is a shared persecutory delusion with the allied parent as the primary case – also called the “inducer” (American Psychiatric Association, 2000). The ICD-10 diagnosis for a shared persecutory delusion is F24.
From the journal, Family Court Review:
From Walters & Friedlander: βIn some RRD families [resist-refuse dynamic], a parentβs underlying encapsulated delusion about the other parent is at the root of the intractability (cf. Johnston & Campbell, 1988, p. 53ff; Childress , 2013). An encapsulated delusion is a fixed, circumscribed belief that persists over time and is not altered by evidence of the inaccuracy of the belief.β
Walters, M. G., & Friedlander, S. (2016). When a child rejects a parent: Working with the intractable resist/refuse dynamic. Family Court Review, 54(3), 424β445.
From the APA: “Shared Psychotic Disorder can occur in larger number of individuals, especially in family situations in which the parent is the primary case and the children, sometimes to varying degrees, adopt the parentβs delusional beliefs.β (American Psychiatric Association, 2000, p. 333)
From the APA: βPersecutory Type: delusions that the person (or someone to whom the person is close) is being malevolently treated in some way.β (American Psychiatric Association, 2000)
Google malevolent: having or showing a wish to do evil to others.
Does the child have a fixed and false belief that is maintained despite contrary evidence that the targeted parent has a “wish to do evil” to the them? Does the allied parent share this fixed and false belief that the targeted parent has a “wish to do evil” to the child? – that would be a shared persecutory delusion.
If you – as the mental health professional, because of your negligence, ignorance, and unethical practice – believe the shared delusion, then you become PART of the shared delusion, you become PART of the pathology.
When that pathology is child abuse – you, the mental health person – become part of the child abuse – you become the child abuser. The “betrayer” – the one who should protectβ¦ but doesn’t.
You, the parents, are more powerful than you know, but only if you stand up for your rights – not beg to have someone recognize some made-up pathology – you have rights, but only if you ground yourselves in the “established scientific and professional knowledge” of professional psychology.
You’re the moms. You’re the dads. You just need support. You have support.
This is child abuse – DSM-5 V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse.
This is spousal abuse using the child as the weapon – DSM-5 V995.82.
All psychologists have two legally obligating duties, the duty of care and the duty to protect.
The “forensic” psychologists are failing in their duty to protect the child from child abuse, and they are failing in their duty to protect the targeted parent from spousal emotional and psychological abuse using the child as the weapon.
This is child abuse. This is spousal emotional and psychological abuse using the child as the weapon.
It needs to stop. Now.
Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist, CA PSY 18857
Be worried about Boys , especially baby boys
Let’s include circumcision done
the 1st 12 hours …not needed
I had rooming in and knew the
horror of separation, fear
saturated me , as I was alone
Dad was out , celebrating with
his gal pals .
I had to accept his disconnect
as I became a single married
Mom of a gift from God , in
A beautiful baby boy , and in
and out of reality , I had 2
more boys which repeated
my awareness of how I lacked
a partner in all ways .
https://www.socialjusticesolutions.org/2017/02/17/worried-boys-especially-baby-boys/
Dec 25, Realities
On December 25th Venus, the planet of love is Conjunct Pluto, the planet of transformation.
For the past few days we may have been feeling nostalgic, sentimental, emotionally overwhelmed and even consumed by our thoughts and emotions at times. We might have noticed we are feeling passionately and magnetically attracted toward those we are romantically closest to. Also significant connections from the past could make an unexpected return, in particular those with whom we never received closure.
**This conjunction brings extremely intense energies that will directly impact how we perceive ourselves, along with how we view our personal and most intimate relationships. This can mean connections will either feel like a battlefield or nirvana right now and these energies will continue to be heightened over the next 48 hours.
One of the main ways we may have been affected by the Venus/Pluto energy over this past week is through feeling the need for affection, attention, validation and commitment far more than normal. We may have been craving communication or closeness with those we are closest to and might have noticed we have felt rejected or vulnerable when we havenβt gotten the the response we hoped for.
**We have possibly even started to notice where there are imbalances, for example, where there is unrequited love or where one person is making far more effort than the other. We may also suddenly realise that we are in a dynamic with someone who is extremely manipulative, controlling or dominating and it is also possible that we suddenly become aware of our own controlling, compulsive or domineering ways.
**During this time we may become aware that we, or others, have been playing mind games in order to gain a reaction or attention or even test the otherβs personβs love or loyalty. This means there may have been noticaeble switching between being attentive and affectionate and then suddenly distant and disinterested, for no apparent reason.
**It is likely that any areas of our life where the energies are unhealthy, where there are suppressed resentments or where there are constant power struggles will have been brought to our attention over and over until we fully recognise that certain people are not healthy for us to be around.
**One of the main reasons we have been confronted with these power plays is so we realise that we have become far too reliant on how other people treat us or perceive us and that is having a direct impact on our self-worth and self-esteem. Too often we allow other people to project their insecurities onto us, thus leaving us feeling insecure and unworthy and causing immense internal suffering, rather than realising we are actually embodying other peopleβs perceptions of themselves.
***We are being alerted to relationships where the energies are unreciprocated so that we recognise where we are accepting far, far less from certain people than what we give, while also caught in a cycle of feeling abandoned and desperately seeking their approval.
Both Venus and Pluto together can bring out our shadow side when it comes to relationships, therefore it is possible we will be feeling irrational, insecure, jealous and possessive at times and be hoping that other people will heal these wounds. However, particularly this week, for some of us, it wonβt matter how much anyone else tries to fill our cup, we will still feel an emptiness on the inside. This is why it is vital for us to understand the importance of learning that we donβt need anyone or anything else in order for us to validate and value ourselves.
Venus allows us to look at the ways our self-worth is affected by other peopleβs opinions of us, or through whether we are financially healthy or not, and various other superficial factors. **Generally, it helps us see how external sources have been dependent on whether we feel valued or undervalued, worthy or unworthy and how vital it is to find value and worth internally.
Pluto, the farthest planet in the solar system, can cause us to feel isolate and lonely, so it may make us feel like withdrawing for a period of time to process these intense energies.** Pluto also helps us cleanse and purge outdated and unhealthy behaviours, pattens and belief systems and to recognise where we have unhealthily high expectations, while Venus works to help us recognise where we are appreciated and also where we are allowing other peopleβs words and actions to value ourselves. In Venusβ energy we will also notice where our confidence is low and how we can rebuild self-worth and become fulfilled with self-love.
Venus Conjunct Pluto will take us through a dramatic transformation where we will gain a greater understanding of love and start to see with clarity how everyone has their own unique love language. We are going to gain insight into how we need to be loved and also how we show love to others.
Everyone gives and receives love in different ways, so what may look like love on the surface may not actually be love at all, and where we think we arenβt cared for or appreciated – we may be deeply loved. Most of all we are going to learn that we might not be feeling love from others purely because we havenβt been fully loving ourselves – particularly if we have been badly burned in the past.
This is the time to let go of all pre-conceived notions of love and to submerge ourselves in divine unconditional love of ourselves. Pluto is telling us to surrender the past and heal and Venus is telling us it is time to trust in love and accept we are worthy, valuable and deserving of it all.**
*Relationships of all kinds will be going through a transformation where they will either become far deeper, fulfilling and more meaningful or a light will be shown on where we are holding on to fantasy and illusions or where we have become involved in a destructive, unhealthy or unsatisfying dynamic.
*Over these next few days it will begin to become imminently clear who we value, who value and loves us unconditionally and who it is time to untangle from and finally let go.
Overall our perception of love is about to radically change and we will begin to see how trust issues and fear of loss and rejection has held us back from love for far too long, not only with others but ultimately from giving and receiving that love within ourselves.
Alex Myles

Cutting cords , ties to Shadow deserve to be severed
You are allowed to leave relationships. You are allowed to leave a relationship with any person, mother, father, sibling, child, boss, friend or romantic partner who is manipulating and abusing you. You have the right to protect yourself and remove these people from your life.Β Β
Life is miserable when you live in perpetual states of confusion, fear and trying surviving on relentless hope. This is not love. Whoever is making you feel these ways is not loving you.Β
Β If anyone tells you that you should not cut ties with family because βlife is short,β you must hold the mindset that the exact reason you did cut ties is because your life is absolutely too short to allow yourself to be continually abused by your family or any other toxic relationship in your life. You have a much better life to live.
By Sherrie
Ancestral Mathematics

