Tag: Children

Parenting Tip : Dorcy Pruter

Despite obstacles that we may face, life is all about what you make of it. How you choose to go about each day and how you choose to face challenges, makes all the difference.

We can choose to stay stuck, or we can choose to move forward; we can choose to be upset for months on end, or we can choose to overcome the pain; we can choose to blame other factors for why we don’t take action, or we can choose to just take action ourselves. The choice is up to US!

While life can be full of obstacles and challenges, fortunately we can choose to overcome those.

We are so thrilled to be working with the Chosen Parents who are choosing to resolve their family conflict and reunite with their children, despite obstacles.

Hyper-Independence is often the result of trauma

Our alienated child needs others too. They need both loving/loved parents in their life. If a person has suffered emotional damage from abandonment, betrayal or broken trust, hyper-independence might be evidenced. The highly capable, independent and tough-skinned approach. The defensiveness. The need to not appear weak, vulnerable or in need of help. For the alienated child, they feel they can’t depend on either parent. One has behaved as a child, selfishly and belligerently (not to mention abusively), and the ‘target’ parent has been rejected as a result. To appease the alienating/aligned parent, the child has denied themselves a closer relationship (or any kind of relationship) with the parent who would give them unconditional love, emotional support and protection. The alienated child has parented the alienating parent and can be prone (sometimes by a trigger that takes them back to the root of the trauma) to feeling now that nobody cares about them. It is about trust. Who can they trust if the person they trusted the most failed them so badly? The child/hyper-independent person must learn to trust the rejected parent, putting aside all their sense of guilt and shame and confusion. It is hard for them to learn to be vulnerable and trusting. But it can be done, and it is an incredibly powerful and healing step forwards when they do this. When we all do this.

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How to Teach Kids Manners Without Asking for the ‘Magic Word’ – Raised Good

She makes some good points , but some things sound alienated.

She states that if her 5 year old forgets to use his manners , she

does it for him…

I used time outs, corners and magic words .. proof positive my

” professional ” advisors , Dr Spock , articles in parenting magazines

and friends were misled ..

The main thing I grasp here is control..and I have experienced that

from DILs and seen the dynamics within their relationships with

other women and their Moms .

Why prompting, prodding and “teaching” children manners doesn’t work and eight respectful, positive parenting strategies that do.
— Read on raisedgood.com/asking-magic-word-teach-manners-what-do-instead/

Defying Societal Norms: Choosing a Child-Free Life for Happiness

Aware that my 40/50 year old single women are not needy, those who have children , are focused on those children , health, finances etc .

The younger generations are choosing to be single and choosing not to have children.

Having children with X was a huge commitment to a life dream , but being

sacrificed by a man whose control is ongoing , and his monitoring,

fraudulent characteristics including financial as well as the effort

to unalive me , which he has enlisted our children , friends , and family .

I have no idea what he has said , due to his limitless attacks

and it’s understood on high ..it’s being remedied..Thy Will Is Done .

The recalibration , and balance is upon us 💯❤️🎊✌️

Discover how defying societal norms by choosing a child-free life leads to women’s happiness and fulfillment. Explore expert insights.
— Read on www.healthy-holistic-living.com/women-choosing-happiness/

Foxes guarding the hen house – Charlie Mc Cready – Parental Alienation

“The fox guarding the hen house” is an idiom which evokes the imagery of a potentially harmful situation where those in authority might exploit their entrusted responsibilities, just as a fox, an animal known to prey on hens, shouldn’t be assigned the duty of protecting the hens it might be tempted to sacrifice for their own good. In the context of ‘parental alienation’, the family court system, and the role of mental health professionals, this idiom resonates deeply with the struggles faced by alienated parents who often lack robust support from those placed in positions of authority and guidance. It suggests a huge conflict of interest. It could also be that the alienating parent is the fox. They present themselves as protective, when in fact, they are just looking after their own interests. They exploit their connection to their child, they manipulate the child’s perception of the world outside ‘the henhouse’. The child does not perceive the danger they’re in. ⁠

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In either of these scenarios, the fox becomes symbolic of those who exploit their authority or positions of trust, potentially causing harm to the well-being of children and families. ⁠

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There is a need for unbiased risk assessments, collaborative solutions, and a commitment to the well-being of all parties involved. It cannot be taken at face value that there’s ‘parental alienation’ or ‘domestic abuse’ and those in positions of power and safeguarding need to be able to determine what’s really going on. We need vigilance, fairness, and objectivity, with those in positions of authority understanding alienating behaviours and acting with the utmost integrity and empathy, ultimately safeguarding the well-being of families and children caught in these complex dynamics.⁠

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