Tag: Children

Signs of chosen ones , since childhood

Neglect was more common than abuse .. but yes it was a very scary ,

singular , responsible childhood… I did not know a lot and so, I credit

God , and my internal radar that protected me . I had no memory of

the horror of being orally raped , just an intuitive sense of right and wrong

wrong .. I detested lies, had little trust in my Mom being involved

in all that’s required of motherhood .

The travesty is the knowledge, late into the relationship with a partner

in marriage , that hears all my stories , my childhood traumas, and

unhealed places which X weaponized , enhanced the experience ,all

under the ” influence ” of psychiatry and Big Pharma’s toxic and

addictive death grip ..

I am Blessed to have survived this cruelty .🙏🏼

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Christmas 🎄 and Family Estrangement

‘Twas the night before Christmas, when all through the house not a creature was stirring, not even a mouse …’ But for us, alienated parents, that silence isn’t peaceful—it’s unnatural. It’s not supposed to be this way. Our children have been unjustifiably, most cruelly, denied a relationship with us, and the quiet reminds us of their absence. The pain is real and heightened on nights like this. I know from personal experience that Christmas can be an extremely tough time for an alienated parent. The sense of loss is heightened, and you can easily get caught in an emotional loop. You have to deal with not seeing the children and maybe even having your presents rejected or returned. Whilst I cannot make your children come back during the festive season or cure the absence of their presence and laughter, I’m here to help you manage these feelings and find your inner strength. I help many parents, like you, cope far better with the challenges that we face. You can learn to re-frame the way that you experience alienation, changing the way you think, feel and act. I will be working on this with my current clients and anyone else who wants to join my program or coaching. You can shift your perspective and regain a sense of peace, not just for the holidays but moving forward. Reach out for support. If not me, then those close to you who can support you when you need it. Take care, Charlie.

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Abandoned Parents

Just finished reading this book.

She delves into the chemical reactions in our bodies/brains to the trauma of estrangement . No wonder this is a particularly difficult time of year. I know this estrangement has forever changed me. This book nails our feelings and reactions to our children’s behavior. We are certainly thank God not alone in this battle for resilience. In many ways it has made me a stronger person..but that was up to me not my child. To be so invisible is brutal to say the least.

Mother Hunger

Every woman carries a map of her mother’s unresolved wounds. They are inherited like heirlooms, passed through blood and breath, encoded in cellular memory. McDaniel reveals that mother hunger is not just psychological—it is a profound spiritual amputation. A violence so deep it rewrites how a woman understands love, safety, her own worth.

This book is not for the faint of heart. This is for warriors. For women ready to name the unnameable, to look unflinchingly into the abyss of their own pain and say: No more. Not today. Not ever again.

1. The Anatomy of Invisible Wounds

Mother hunger is not a metaphor—it’s a landscape carved into your soul. Every unmet need, every moment of emotional abandonment becomes a topography of survival. You learn to survive in the negative space of love, creating intricate survival mechanisms that become your armor. But survival is not living. Healing begins when you recognize that the wounds you cannot see are the ones that cut the deepest, and that naming your pain is the first revolutionary act of reclaiming yourself.

2. Rewriting the Language of Love

You were never taught the true dialect of love. Your mother tongue was silence, abandonment, conditional affection. McDaniel reveals that love is not martyrdom, not silence, not shrinking yourself to fit someone else’s comfort. Love is a living, breathing commitment to your own humanity. It is seeing yourself with the same tenderness you would offer a wounded child. It is understanding that your worth was never determined by the love you did or did not receive.

3. The Body as Sacred Witness

Trauma lives in flesh, in memory, in the way you breathe. Your body knows stories your mind has forgotten. Mother hunger manifests in every relationship, every choice, every moment of self-doubt. But here is the miracle: your body is not a battlefield. It is a sacred text of resilience. Every scar, every tension, every unexplained ache is your body’s way of holding wisdom, of protecting you, of remembering what you were never allowed to speak.

4. Breaking Generational Chains

You are not condemned to repeat the patterns of pain. You are the moment of interruption, the generation that says: No more. Breaking generational cycles is not about blame—it is about radical compassion. For your mother, who was also wounded. For yourself, who is learning to heal. For the daughters who will come after you, who will inherit not your pain, but your profound capacity for transformation.

5. Resurrection as a Daily Practice

Healing is not a destination. It is a moment-by-moment choice. Some days, healing looks like rage. Some days, it looks like tenderness. Some days, it looks like simply breathing. You are learning to mother yourself with the same fierce, unconditional love you were always meant to receive. Your worth is not negotiable. Your pain is not a weakness. Your survival is a testament to a love so profound it can resurrect entire worlds.

This is not just healing. This is a revolution written in the language of the heart.

BOOK: https://amzn.to/3Zmv0hx