Tag: alienation

Psychology Abuse – Charlie Mc Cready

Coercive control is a deeply psychologically abusive and manipulative tactic. Non-gendered, parental alienation encompasses tactics such as weaving false narratives and employing triangulation to limit and control communication. What’s particularly distressing about this manipulation is the transformation of these harmful ideas into shared persecutory delusions. Under the alienating parent’s influence, the child begins to believe in the targeted parent’s guilt for terrible deeds, such as abandonment or a lack of love. This emotional manipulation leaves lasting scars on the targeted parent and the child caught in the midst of this turmoil.⁠

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But why is the alienating parent so confident in their destructive actions? Firstly, the alienating parent curates a narrative that aligns with their agenda, ensuring that the child’s exposure to alternative perspectives is limited. This control extends to communication, with the alienating parent actively monitoring and restricting contact between the child and the targeted parent. This isolation reinforces the child’s dependence on the alienating parent for information and emotional support.⁠

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Alienating parents may employ emotional blackmail, guilt-tripping, and fear-inducing strategies to ensure the child remains emotionally bound to them (trauma-bonded). This emotional captivity reinforces the child’s attachment to the alienating parent and discourages any thoughts of independence.⁠

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Furthermore, the alienating parent often harbours a deep fear of losing their influence over the child as they grow older. Recognising that the child’s critical thinking and capacity for independent judgment are developing, the alienating parent escalates their efforts to alienate the child from the targeted parent to maintain control. This may be worse during custody cases. ⁠

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Sometimes, alienating parents find validation and support for their actions within their social circles and even social services and mental health professionals. This external validation bolsters their confidence in their behaviour, as they genuinely believe they act in the child’s best interests.

Additionally, the lack of legal consequences for parental alienation in certain jurisdictions can embolden alienating parents. The absence of legal repercussions may lead them to believe they can continue their harmful actions without facing accountability.

Alienating parents may also be driven by deep-seated resentment or mistrust of the targeted parent. They may genuinely believe that the other parent poses a threat to the child’s well-being, fueling their determination to keep the child away.

Finally, some alienating parents excel at presenting a facade of concern and care for the child’s best interests. They may appear to encourage contact with the targeted parent as a way to deflect suspicion and maintain the appearance of cooperation, further reinforcing their confidence in their manipulative tactics.

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Dixie Chick’s: Traveling Soldier

This song Traveling Soldier came to mind as I considered all the veterans, of many wars ..wars of the soul and spirit

My 1st boyfriend became my 1st husband and brought much shame into our union .

My brother , perhaps my whole family at that time knew of his shadow but kept secrets of his infidelity .

After 9 months of trauma and abuse ( he was working out of town 4 nights a week ); he was drafted .

He left me with orders .

And his 65 cherry 🍒 red GTO.

I rebelled against his abuse and unknown secrets that had a very negative energy to them .I was sensitive to these unknowns but unaware of my intuition . Of course I had faith but was overwhelmed at being treated like a possession .

I don’t recall any discussions or plans for the future .

I wed due the loss of my virginity ..

And it was over , he filed for divorce , took emergency leave and took possession of his car .

I had nothing to say except that I was too young to be married .

Charged with abandonment …

Then

Marriage to a man who for 4plus decades has held his trauma , puking it out on others , making others responsible .

At the sale of the family business he began to travel or claimed to.

In high trauma made worse by psychiatric drugs , I needed him . Our eldest drove me to various motels in the area . He was not at any of them but it certainly was an education of his habits unknown to me

Runner

Ghosted

A guest or drop in …

His secrets , his war, his lies and his projected blame and shame are his and his alone .

There are all kinds of soldiers, veterans, and survivors and very long and crooked the long and twisted journey to leave that war , to loose children and grandchildren to such distortion.

To discover , it’s money power motivated , the ever pressing need to WIN against and release of a past that did much destruction and cannot exist in the consciousness and awareness of the existence of abuses that harm children by erasing a parent .

Blessings 💚 🙌 Peace ✌ 🙏 ❤

Dona Luna

Over it, long ago; the legacy of NPD , the Never Ending Pain

You can do all the research in the world to understand the inner workings of the narcissist’s mind, but it will do nothing to influence the outcome of the relationship.⁠
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Narcissists don’t think like most people. You can try to appeal to their seemingly ‘hurt’ inner child, be the most devoted partner or family member, and do everything they ask of you, but it will not change a thing.⁠
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Ever.⁠
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Narcissists are not interested in stable, loving, reciprocal connections. The idea of meeting your emotional needs repulses them to the core. The only positive leanings they have about your love and devotion are that they can use your sentimental feelings against you for their own benefit.⁠
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Here’s one thing I know to be absolutely true – when it comes to narcissists, we all want to believe we’ll be the exception to the rule, but none of us ever are.⁠
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There simply is not a way to “make things work” with a narcissist that doesn’t involve erasing your own identity, emotions, and needs.⁠
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You cannot set boundaries with them (none that they’ll honor, anyway)⁠
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You can’t reason with them.⁠
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You can’t get them to stop lying, cheating, betraying, etc.⁠
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You cannot have a loving, reciprocal, healthy relationship if you’re the only one interested in having it.⁠
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And this is the last thing on the narcissist’s mind, even if they try to convince you otherwise. Pay attention to patterns, because patterns never lie.⁠

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Much higher Numbers Affected

“Dr Carol Golly, a child and family psychotherapist, believes children can be damaged if contact with grandparents is stopped.
“Children who become cut off from grandparents with whom they enjoyed prior close relationships may have lifelong difficulties with trust, relationships, and emotional health,” she says, citing evidence that self-devaluation and relationship cut offs “may become an intergenerational pattern”.”

https://www.express.co.uk/news/uk/1186632/grandparents-day-esther-ranzten-family-estrangement-news