Tag: abuse

Man cannot handle the same hurt he gives a woman

A man can’t handle the same hurt he gives a woman—and that’s a truth most won’t admit.

She cries. Breaks down. Questions herself. Holds on longer than she should. Tries to make it work even when her heart is breaking. She carries pain in silence, forgives what she shouldn’t, and still hopes he’ll change. She fights with herself trying to understand how someone she loved so deeply could cause so much damage.

And when she finally walks away?

It’s only after carrying far more than anyone ever should.

But him?

The moment he feels a fraction of the same pain—a missed text, an unanswered call, a shift in energy—he’s spiraling. Angry. Hurt. Accusing.

He made her feel invisible… but can’t stand being ignored for a second. He gave her silence, but can’t handle it himself. He broke her trust—but suddenly, every small distance feels like betrayal.

Because when a woman starts mirroring his energy, he has no choice but to face himself. And that reflection? It’s too heavy. Too real.

Men want women to absorb pain without breaking—like strength is endless in her, while they give nothing back.

But here’s the truth:

Just because she carried it doesn’t mean it was light.

She was strong—not because she wanted to be alone—but because she had no other option.

So yes.

Men say “she changed.”

But really?

She just got tired of feeling everything—and getting nothing in return.

Narcissist Fathers

Being raised by a narcissist father means your father hasn’t fully matured emotionally. His main focus is: his own needs, the way he’s perceived by others, and being ‘respected’ by his family. He tends to confuse respect with obedience. He doesn’t want connection, vulnerability, or emotional closeness—he wants control. He expects to be admired and followed without question, even if his actions are hurtful or unfair. Expressing your feelings or setting boundaries is seen as disrespect. In his world, love is conditional. If you agree with him, you are praised. If you challenge him, you are punished—emotionally, mentally, or even through cold silence.

Growing up like this teaches you to suppress your voice. You walk on eggshells, constantly calculating your words and actions to avoid triggering his ego. You learn to doubt yourself, to prioritize his moods over your own peace, and to shrink yourself so you don’t outshine him. Your achievements may be ignored or claimed as his own, while your mistakes are magnified and used against you.

A narcissistic father doesn’t guide or nurture; he dominates and invalidates. He’s more concerned with how the family appears in public than how they feel in private. Your emotional needs are dismissed as weakness, and empathy is rarely shown. Over time, this creates deep wounds—feelings of unworthiness, people-pleasing tendencies, and a longing for a father who truly sees and supports you. Healing begins when you recognize that his behavior was not your fault, and you start reclaiming your identity, one truth at a time.

“ Low effort ” family dynamic

The effort was not modeled in our home

by our head of house . I noted and accepted

reality of his loyalty’s and efforts were

his parents and siblings , not his wife

and children .

Denial and continued lies are easier .

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