Sherrie Campbell ,PhD – Disordered Thoughts

Severely character disordered people don’t care how much good you do for them. When you are going above and beyond for them, helping them, hearing them or supporting them, they greedily take it as long as it fits with the narrative of who they think they are. However, when you give them honest feedback on how their egocentric ways are creating problems in their lives they turn on you and cast you as the bad guy. They totally erase all the support you’ve given them over the years.

They prefer to play the victim than to accept feedback, healthy boundaries set on them, or the normal changes that take place in relationships over the course of life. They turn on you regardless of if what you share with them could get them closer to the things they claim they want.

The mindset to hold is these types have such intense pride problems that they cannot see how it would benefit them to be more flexible or open. It’s too hard on their egos. This is when they start throwing tantrums and making public displays of how they have been victimized. They would rather act like this to get what they want than to act like an adult.

Not your circus not your monkey.

Hovering

Obsession, Targets Death Wishes, Not Responsible, Selective Recall, Controler, Malignant , Unforgiving

Being in a relationship with a narcissist feels so convoluted and devastating because they trap you with falsified moments of trust. ⁠
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In these precious moments, you experience a sense of profound security and comfort. You believe they genuinely care about you.⁠
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You sense that the narcissist understands you in a way nobody else can. You feel like you’re crazy if you decide to leave. But it’s all a thinly veiled lie built on advanced manipulation.⁠
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Because you’ll feel safe and appreciated during the narcissist’s HOOVEriNG, you’ll want to stay close to the narcissist. ⁠
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But they become a sneaky, well-dressed predator, one who knows how to flatter your every flaw and compliment your every quirk.⁠
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At first, it’s exciting. Because let’s face it. Who doesn’t like to feel adored? Who doesn’t want all the attention and validation? Who doesn’t want to feel unconditionally accepted and appreciated?⁠
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But when the surface cracks, the narcissist’s uglier, authentic colors start to emerge. The darkness reveals itself. It may happen slowly. An insult here and there. A passive-aggressive comment. Blame or accusations that don’t make sense. You typically brush them off at first. After all, nobody is perfect, right?⁠
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Then you suddenly can’t do anything correctly. Suddenly, you’re the enemy, the ugly fool, the stupid and incompetent person who keeps messing up. The narcissist becomes increasingly meaner. You start feeling increasingly insecure, worthless, uncertain of your every move. ⁠
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Suddenly, you’re walking on eggshells in your own home, ashamed and fearful of your next step.⁠
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This is the true outcome of narcissistic hoovering. That’s why it’s crucial to remember during times the narcissist is trying to woo you back into their crazy that they are a wolf in sheep’s clothing…not to be trusted under any circumstances.

( #📷 @kim.saeed )

Waiting for Change

HOW MUCH TIME AND HEARTACHE DID IT COST YOU, WAITING FOR AND IMAGINING THE NARCISSIST WOULD CHANGE? I wasted…wait for it…half my adult life! Time I can’t get back. A dead life filled with confusion and hurt.

I decided to put that behind me and to stop thinking about the past, and to try to have a good present and future. I asked myself, “What can I do today to make my life a little bit better?” I dated some…not much. When I decided to just concentrate on making my life better right now, and on my children, one day, about year later, I met the love of my life.

I had no hesitation about being friends. Everything went so easy. We got along well with our kids. Learned to laugh again and enjoy ourselves. Love grew out of that experience.

I used to use the metaphor “falling in love”, but now I think the better analogy is of a tree growing. When we met, a seed was planted, and soon sprouted, and as time passed, it began to grow. Trees grow slowly, but they can get very large…large enough to withstand anything. It was not how I imagined it would happen. But that’s what happened.

Now I think of love, not as excitement, but as quietly resting in the shade of the tree, protected by its outspread arms, smiling, laughing, caring, feeling totally secure in every respect…personally, emotionally, financially, and it every way. That’s love that lasts.

Betrayal in Trauma

Sherrie Cambell PhD

The hardest thing to get past is the trauma of the betrayal we experience at the hands of toxic people. Toxic people betray us at the lowest levels, and in the most vile ways. Betrayal is nothing short of disorienting, and the impacts of it often last far past the time of the original assault.

The best way to recover from betrayal trauma is to recognize that you are not the dishonest, disgusting, irresponsible, conniving person who would ever two-face, gossip, cheat, lie, steal or intentionally scar another person and then deny any wrongdoing. Only sick people operate like this.

You must hold the wisdom that your life is better off without a person, including a close family member, that has shown your heart zero mercy when you won’t do exactly what they want.

New Moon , New Year 2222 gateway

Tuesday February 1 2022

“At a quantum level, your environment is your attitude. What all of this means is that you can never be a victim of your DNA. Neither can you be a victim of fate. You can only be a victim of your attitude. Every thought you think, every feeling you have, every word you utter and every action you take directly programs your genes and therefore your reality. Consequently, at a quantum level, you create the environment that programs your genes.” Richard Rudd.

Today’s triple Gateway of the futurist Aquarius New Moon, the Festival of Imbolc and the start of the Year of the Water Tiger, is an initiatory point of power, potential and magic.

Feel the Great Wheel turning and the first ripples of the New stirring us out of psychic and psychological stagnation and negative hypnosis.

At this New Moon, after two years of Saturnian override and restrictions, Uranus is in full-on Awakener mode. It is time to climb out of the swamp of despair, to leave behind the familiar cop-out comfort zone of blame and to choose Future over Past.

Entering that territory where the practices that have sustained us can no longer guide us takes some major spiritual cojones to navigate because it’s so vulnerable, there is nothing to cling to, no familiar reference points.

This the shift from being a 3D Reactor to a 4D Witness to a 5D Generator, from being at effect to being at cause.

The Chandra Symbol for today’s Aquarian New Moon says it clearly:
“A lidless granite sarcophagus.
It is empty.
There is nothing to go back to. The past has become a phantom. You are propelled forward into the great unknown. But it is so easy to become somewhat desperate and out of context. So much depends upon how you interpret the fact that you are strictly on your own without a personal history or heritage to fall back upon. Is this real opportunity or a strange fate? It is very hard to tell the difference, as it all becomes ambiguous, paradoxical, very mixed. Where do you go from here? No easy answers anywhere. Perhaps the only thing to do is to acknowledge and move with this radical opening and to put no interpretations on it, assuming nothing at all. For if you can welcome multidimensionality with truly open arms, it might well turn out that the future was never supposed to be like the past. And that becoming so free does provide an open access channel for what needs to happen–to come through a jump ahead of the last moment, synchronized with evolution beautifully.”
Inside Degrees Elias Lonsdale.

Lorna Bevan ❤

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Inward Migration

“The inward migration is often a solitary journey. It’s where we go to slowly pick things apart, to examine truth, talk with spirits, and reimagine our world in new ways. This inward place is where we work with our own thoughts and imagination, and keep our own knowledge safe. This is where we fashion all the stories we want told, where we catch the essence of a story before it drifts away, or overrun by the power of other stories created to distract our thinking.” – Alexis Wright