Obsession, Targets Death Wishes, Not Responsible, Selective Recall, Controler, Malignant , Unforgiving
Being in a relationship with a narcissist feels so convoluted and devastating because they trap you with falsified moments of trust.
In these precious moments, you experience a sense of profound security and comfort. You believe they genuinely care about you.
You sense that the narcissist understands you in a way nobody else can. You feel like you’re crazy if you decide to leave. But it’s all a thinly veiled lie built on advanced manipulation.
Because you’ll feel safe and appreciated during the narcissist’s HOOVEriNG, you’ll want to stay close to the narcissist.
But they become a sneaky, well-dressed predator, one who knows how to flatter your every flaw and compliment your every quirk.
At first, it’s exciting. Because let’s face it. Who doesn’t like to feel adored? Who doesn’t want all the attention and validation? Who doesn’t want to feel unconditionally accepted and appreciated?
But when the surface cracks, the narcissist’s uglier, authentic colors start to emerge. The darkness reveals itself. It may happen slowly. An insult here and there. A passive-aggressive comment. Blame or accusations that don’t make sense. You typically brush them off at first. After all, nobody is perfect, right?
Then you suddenly can’t do anything correctly. Suddenly, you’re the enemy, the ugly fool, the stupid and incompetent person who keeps messing up. The narcissist becomes increasingly meaner. You start feeling increasingly insecure, worthless, uncertain of your every move.
Suddenly, you’re walking on eggshells in your own home, ashamed and fearful of your next step.
This is the true outcome of narcissistic hoovering. That’s why it’s crucial to remember during times the narcissist is trying to woo you back into their crazy that they are a wolf in sheep’s clothing…not to be trusted under any circumstances.
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