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In many cases, the mental illness and personality disorder of the parental alienator has been hidden for years, and undiagnosed. They are usually the last people to accept they need help. But a traumatic episode, like a divorce, can trigger these latent, imbalances in their mental pathology. You may have seen signs before, but when triggered these behaviours will be undeniable to you, the target/scapegoat, while still hidden from others. It’s kept ‘in-house’. It can be inter-generational too. Parental alienation is a family pathology where-by children are triangulated into a narcissistic (and abusive) parental relationship. Between the narcissistic parental alienator and their child/ren develops a covert coalition. In most families there might be cooperation, instead there is competition. Where two parents might stand united, they are pulling in different directions. To be clear, the parental alienator is only thinking of themselves. Narcissists don’t consider the needs of others, they will be very unlikely to find fault in themselves, or do therapy of any kind. They think of themselves as deserving blind loyalty, they believe themselves the superior parent. There’s no negotiating or reasoning with them. The innocent, target parent is wrong in their opinion, and that’s that. You can’t change the alienator, you can only change yourself. You may or may not be able to repair the relationship with your children. Be strong. Make the end goal to establish a happy,healthy life.

The Woman who has Herself

When a woman has herself
you can enter or leave her life
you can flatter or judge her
and she, she will receive or say goodbye to you kindly
and she will thank you and understand your shadows
because she already knows hers.
You probably won’t tolerate it and at the same time
you want to own it and you will end up walking away
from her if you don’t have the courage to respect her.
When a woman has herself
the Universe Dances at her feet, and She rises.
She becomes compassionate.
She chooses.
She is aware.
She gives and receives Love.
It is easy to recognize it.
The Woman Who Has Herself
she smiles in the sun as in the storm.
She celebrates life and understands death.
She lives and dances the processes.
She doesn’t have a hue, she’s a rainbow.

Author: Maria Harchanan Kaur

Artwork: Sophie Wilkins Arts

When a woman awakens and starts to own all of herself, letting go of the need to cover up or defend herself and instead accepts all of her idiosyncrasies, fears, wounds, false programs, flaws, icky moods, fat thighs, sweaty armpits etc and supports her unique imperfect self instead of judging, rejecting and wishing that she were different or like somebody else, she has entered the promised land of freedom and self empowerment.

She starts to drop the posing, defence mechanisms, competitiveness, jealousy and all the false gods that she previously used as crutches, false images or places to hide parts of herself… What is left is a Woman of Strength, courage, fortitude and a woman that is compassionately understanding towards others because she is able to give to others what she has given to herself… She becomes fearlessly authentic, she finds her Voice, there is no longer shame, therefore she no longer needs to hide or change any part of herself… She’s able to overcome any fears of rejection for being true to herself.

Ironically, when a woman claims and accepts her shadow, that which she rejected and suppressed about herself transforms from being dysfunctional to being a strength and the energy that it was previously draining from her becomes available to her. Such a woman gives others permission to accept themselves as they are, her own freedom becomes contagious.

Through being openly relaxed in her Power she empowers others.

Author : Caroline de Lisser

Artwork: Barbara Glatzeder