Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited
I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse.
As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my
desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven.
I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are
denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child.
I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power..
I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination..
Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative".
It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..
Not Crazy : Finding Yourself
You’re not losing your mind—
you’re finding your Self.
At some point, the world may
begin to feel surreal.
Synchronicities start stacking up.
Time bends. People drift away.
Emotions intensify.
Everything starts to feel like a message.
Like something is chasing you.
And in a way—it is.
But it’s not here to harm you.
It’s here to wake you up.
The Universe isn’t outside of you—
it is you.
It’s been leaving clues
in your heartbreaks,
breadcrumbs in your dreams,
and Easter eggs tucked into your hardest moments.
You planted them yourself.
Because somewhere beyond time,
you knew you’d forget who you were.
And so, you left love notes in
the folds of your life—
disguised as pain, as longing,
as synchronicity.
You are not being hunted.
You are being called back.
And when the roles reverse—
when you begin to chase the mystery instead of run from it—
you’ll realize you’re not searching for answers.
You’re searching for reminders.
Of the love you are.
Of the wholeness you forgot.
Of the sacred truth that you are
the seeker and the sought.
Every emotion you’ve ever felt,
every version of you that has ever been,
is rising now to be remembered—
not to overwhelm you,
but to reunite with you.
Yes, it can feel like too much.
Yes, it’s messy and loud and sometimes unbearably quiet.
Yes, it’s all at once. And it’s okay.
Because here’s the truth:
You’re not alone.
There are others feeling this too.
Some of us are still in the thick of it—breathing through it, breaking through it, becoming through it.
I am.
I’m still remembering.
I still have so much left to see,
to feel, to hold.
And I’m choosing to stay.
To walk it out. To sit in the discomfort.
To meet myself again and again with Love.
This isn’t about having the answers.
It’s about being willing to listen.
To lean in , even when the path disappears beneath your feet.
We’re not here to escape ourselves.
We’re here to become ourselves.
Not perfectly. Not all at once.
But honestly. Lovingly. Truthfully.
So if you’re feeling this—
if the Universe feels too loud or too quiet—
just know:
You’re not the only one listening.
You’re not crazy. You’re not broken.
You’re waking up.
And you are so , so Loved.
⸻
Take a Breath.
Place your hand over your Heart.
Whisper: “I am here. I am remembering.
I am Love becoming.”
That’s enough for today.
~ Kara Anaya ❤️
Why having a baby triggers a Narcissist 👶
This is very accurate! Jealous of a newborn , I was shown very primal , very scary proof , only 6 days after giving birth !
Allowing me to eventually grasp the distorted reality of his ” normal ” rights and privileges.
Intent on destroying that bond ; his mission accomplished , a decade later ! With assistance
Alienating parent : Manipulative & Narcissist- Charlie McCready
Alienating parents often possess highly manipulative and narcissistic traits. They charm and flatter in a way that serves their objectives. Unfortunately, this can obscure their abusive behaviour. The result is that they often go unchecked, and those they abuse (psychologically, financially, narcissistically) struggle to find support, as others find it difficult to believe that such a charming person could be capable of abuse. This enables and perpetuates the cycle of abuse.
What’s going on with them? Narcissistic tendencies and manipulative charm often serve as powerful tools for alienating parents while working against the target parent. Narcissistic people frequently possess an inflated sense of self-worth, enabling them to appear confident and persuasive. This charisma can be particularly effective in manipulating situations or people. They may employ tactics like gaslighting, denying their harmful behaviour or distorting the truth. This can lead the target parent to doubt their own perceptions and feelings. Alienating parents often use their charm to win over friends, family members, or professionals involved in legal or custody matters. Consequently, these people may side with the alienating parent, reinforcing the false narrative against the target parent. Manipulative charm allows them to present themselves as cooperative and reasonable, especially in front of authorities or during court proceedings. This can make it challenging for the alienated/target parent to substantiate their claims, potentially leading to decisions favouring the alienating parent.
Narcissistic alienating parents may distort the situation to depict themselves as victims, falsely asserting that they are protecting their child from the target parent’s alleged harm. This can sway sympathies and perceptions against the target parent. They may divert attention away from their own actions by focusing on the perceived flaws or mistakes of the target parent, further reinforcing the negative narrative.
Narcissism and manipulative charm are potent tools in the arsenal of alienating parents, allowing them to maintain control over the narrative, shape perceptions, and conceal their abusive behaviour. This dynamic poses significant challenges for the target parent in proving their case and safeguarding their relationship with their child. Raising awareness about the insidious tactics employed by alienating parents, along with providing stronger support mechanisms within family court systems, is crucial in breaking the cycle of abuse and ensuring that the voices of alienated parents are heard and respected. I’m here, posting daily, to spread awareness and provide some validation to those of you going through this, as I did myself. And, please do reach out if you’re interested to know about the coaching I offer, or check out my website and YouTube videos too.
#charliemccready
#parentalalienationcoach
#traumabonding
#narcissisticparent
#healingjourney
Brainwashed- Charlie McCready
The moment an alienated child begins to grasp the reality of their situation—a stark realisation that they have been indoctrinated, coached, – brainwashed – by the very parent they believed was protecting them—can be profoundly upsetting. It’s as if a veil has been lifted, exposing a painful truth that shatters the illusions they have held onto – sometimes for a very long time. They may have fought against really believing the truth, because with it comes a mix of difficult emotions: a deep sense of betrayal, anger, sadness and regret.
The weight of the false narratives they’ve embraced can press heavily on their heart. They reflect on the hurtful words they’ve been taught to say, the anger they’ve expressed, and the love they’ve withheld from the parent who only ever wanted to care for them. The loss of precious time spent in conflict can be an agonising weight to bear. For them as for us. They mourn the memories that could have been—birthdays, holidays, and simple moments of family life. With each recollection, they may also grapple with feelings of foolishness for having believed the lies and allowed themselves to be swayed into a camp that vilified the other parent.
It’s a painful cognitive dissonance—the love/loyalty they’ve had for their alienating parent now colliding with the guilt of having rejected the other. they may feel not only betrayed by the parent who manipulated them but also a realisation that they have been used as a pawn, they’ve been weaponised. This can lead to feelings of anger towards both themselves and the alienating parent. However, with time, they can unearth the truth, reconnect with the love they’ve always held for their other parent, and reclaim their sense of self. The journey ahead may be challenging, it’s like a detoxification, and it can also be a path to rediscovering love, trust, and the potential for meaningful reconnections.
#charliemccready
#parentalalienationcoach
#abuseinthefamily
#pathogenicparent
#coercivecontrol
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