Relationships truths – Wasting time

Keep it in mind that a person who is benefitting from being with you will never tell you to your face: ‘I don’t really love you, and I don’t see a future with you. But I don’t mind keeping you around for all the wonderful things you bring to my life. The way you help me make better decisions and shape my life. The way you keep me focused and inspire me. The way you assist me financially. The way you give me emotional and sexual warmth.’

Do not wait for this person to ever admit, ‘Honestly I feel lucky to get someone so richly resourceful yet so naive. They trust me for nothing and camp with me while time passes them by. The doors are open, and as soon as I find whom I truly want, I’ll just move on. But you decide to risk everything to be with me. Maybe you’re content with the little I give. But if I were you, I’d do better for myself.’

You will escort this type of person for two, ten, or twenty years, and they will still go away to the life they want.

And they’ll still slap you with the insult, ‘I never asked you to.’

You did all that for me, but it was your choice. You could have chosen differently if you wanted.’

I hope you don’t mistake patience for wasting your time.

Waiting on the wrong person is wasting your time.

Banking on someone who isn’t giving you evidence of honesty is wasting your time.

Investing more and more into a relationship doesn’t make it stronger if you’re the only one who is investing.

There comes a time in life to put yourself first and work with your own schedule in life.

If you can’t afford years of suspense and delay, neither can you afford to hang around with people who aren’t sure about you or where the relationship is going.

(©️ Benjamin Zulu Global)

Mom’s wisdom

My mom did not sleep. She felt exhausted. She was irritable, grumpy, and bitter. She was always sick until one day, suddenly, she changed.

One day my dad said to her:

– I’ve been looking for a job for three months and I haven’t found anything, I’m going to have a few beers with friends.

My mom replied:

– It’s okay.

My brother said to her:

– Mom, I’m doing poorly in all subjects at the University.

My mom replied:

– Okay, you will recover, and if you don’t, well, you repeat the semester, but you pay the tuition.

My sister said to her:

– Mom, I smashed the car.

My mom replied:

– Okay daughter, take it to the car shop & find out how to pay and while they fix it, get around by bus or subway.

Her daughter-in-law said to her:

– Mother-in-law, I came to spend a few months with you.

My mom replied:

– Okay, settle in the living room couch and look for some blankets in the closet.

All of us gathered worried to see these reactions coming from Mom.

We suspected that she had gone to the doctor and that she was prescribed some pills called “I don’t give a damn”… Perhaps she was overdosing on these!

We then proposed to do an “intervention” w/my mother to remove her from any possible addiction she had to some anti-tantrum medication.

But then … she gathered us around her and my mom explained:

“It took me a long time to realize that each person is responsible for their life. It took me years to discover that my anguish, anxiety, my depression, my courage, insomnia & my stress, does not solve your problems but aggravate mine.

I am not responsible for the actions of anyone & it’s not my job to provide happiness but I am responsible for the reactions I express to that.

Therefore, I came to the conclusion that my duty to myself is to remain calm and let each one of you solve what corresponds to you.

I have taken courses in yoga, meditation, miracles, human development, mental hygiene, vibration, and neurolinguistic programming, and in all of them, I found a common denominator in them all…

I can only control myself, you have all the necessary resources to solve your own problems despite how hard they may be. My job is to pray for you, love on you, and encourage you but it’s up to YOU to solve them & find your happiness.

I can only give you my advice if you ask me & it depends on you to follow it or not. There are consequences, good or bad, to your decisions and YOU have to live them.

So from now on, I cease to be the receptacle of your responsibilities, the sack of your guilt, the laundress of your remorse, the advocate of your faults, the wall of your lamentations, the depositary of your duties, who should solve your problems or spare a tire every time to fulfill your responsibilities.

From now on, I declare all independent and self-sufficient adults.

Everyone at my mom’s house was speechless.

From that day on, the family began to function better because everyone in the house knew exactly what it is that they needed to do.

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For some of us, this is hard because we’ve grown up being the caregivers and feeling responsible for others. As moms & wives, we are fixers of all things. We never want our loved ones to go through difficult things or to struggle. We want everyone to be happy.

But, the sooner we take that responsibility off of our shoulders & on to each loved one, the better we are preparing them to be MEsponsible.

We are not here on earth to be everything to everyone. Stop putting that pressure on yourself.

Much Love;

Charlyn

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Letter M

I have M in both palms

The Mark of the Mystic

Deciphering the Letter “M” in the Palm

By Jason Gray

There are stories written in the flesh of the living—ancient sigils carved into human hands by forces unseen, a silent script speaking a language older than time.

These lines are not random.

They are not meaningless. They are the hidden mathematics of fate, the geometry of the soul’s journey through this plane of existence.

Among them, one symbol stands apart, a glyph that has whispered through the ages to those who dare to listen—the letter “M”.

It is not a mark of coincidence, nor a mere quirk of biology.

It is a sign, a signature of destiny itself. If you bear this emblem upon your palm, you were never meant to live an ordinary life.

You were chosen for something greater.

This is not superstition.

It is not fantasy. It is the recognition of a deeper order, a truth that pulses beneath the surface of existence.

The “M” on your palm is not simply an intersection of lines; it is a message encoded in your being, waiting to be deciphered.

To understand its meaning is to unlock a doorway to something profound—something eternal.

The Living Glyph

A Covenant with the Universe

The formation of the “M” arises through the intersection of four major lines:

The Heart Line – The river of emotions, love, and the capacity to feel deeply.

The Head Line – The path of intellect, wisdom, and mental clarity.

The Life Line – The thread of vitality, physical existence, and the force of will.

The Fate Line (if present) – The thread of destiny, purpose, and the unseen hand guiding one’s life.

These lines are the veins through which energy flows, the conduits of one’s karmic imprint.

Where they intersect to form the “M,” a rare and sacred alignment occurs.

It is a convergence of heart, mind, life, and destiny—a sign that the individual is meant to move through the world with heightened awareness and profound purpose.

This is not a mark of mere fortune.

It is not an arbitrary blessing. It is a responsibility.

The Mystics, the Sages, and the Bearers of the “M”

Those who carry the “M” are different.

They have always been different. Even as children, they felt the weight of existence in ways others did not.

They saw the cracks in reality, sensed the undercurrents of truth hiding beneath the surface of the mundane.

They are the ones who ask the questions no one wants to answer.

The ones who look at the world and whisper, There is more.

History is filled with such souls—individuals who bore the unseen burden of knowing too much, feeling too deeply.

They are the prophets, the poets, the philosophers, the revolutionaries, the ones who walk alone in a crowded world because they cannot pretend they do not see.

The “M” is not a mark of ease.

It is not a gift handed freely.

It is a sign of struggle and transformation, a reminder that those who bear it are meant to experience the full breadth of human existence—the heights and the depths, the ecstasy and the despair.

Many who carry this mark feel an unshakable sense of destiny, though they may not know why.

They are drawn to the mysteries of existence—spirituality, philosophy, the pursuit of hidden knowledge.

They feel restless in conventional roles, unable to accept the shallow narratives of society.

They are not meant to sleep through life.

They are meant to awaken.

The “M” and the Number 13

The Cycle of Death and Rebirth

The letter “M” is the 13th letter of the alphabet, and in numerology, the number 13 is not an omen of misfortune—it is the number of transformation.

The old must die so that the new can be born.

The bearer of the “M” often experiences life through cycles of destruction and renewal, their soul cast into the forge of existence again and again, reshaped by fire and experience.

This is the path of the initiate, the alchemist of the self.

The one who does not run from suffering, but transmutes it into wisdom.

It is no coincidence that those with this mark are often drawn to hermetic philosophy, esoteric traditions, and mystical teachings.

They feel an unspoken connection to something older than religion, something that whispers from the past, calling them toward a higher understanding of existence.

The “M” does not promise an easy life.

It promises a life of depth, intensity, and purpose.

The Seer’s Gift

Intuition, Insight, and the Power of Truth

There is a reason why many palmists claim that those with the “M” have a heightened intuition—it is because their path demands it.

To carry this mark is to be a seer, one who perceives beyond the illusions of the world.

These individuals are rarely deceived.

They can sense dishonesty, manipulation, and hidden intentions before they are spoken.

They are not fooled by the masks people wear.

This ability is both a blessing and a curse.

To see truth is to be burdened by it.

To walk among the blind is to know solitude.

Many with this mark find themselves disconnected from the ordinary concerns of society, feeling as though they are waiting for something—some moment of revelation that will bring everything into focus.

Here lies the secret: The moment is already here. It has always been here.

The bearer of the “M” does not need to seek purpose.

They need only to embrace it.

The Silent Contract: Awakening to the Mark

To find the “M” on your palm is to recognize that you were born into this life with a task.

It may not be clear at first.

It may take years, decades, even lifetimes to unfold.

It is there, waiting.

You were not placed in this world to live in ignorance.

You were not meant to accept reality at face value.

You were meant to question, to challenge, to seek, to see.

Those with this mark are often drawn toward creation—writing, art, philosophy, science, anything that allows them to express the truths they carry within them.

They feel a need to share what they know, to shine a light into the darkness.

Some resist this calling.

They ignore the mark, bury their instincts, try to live as others do.

The “M” will not let them rest.

It will stir beneath the surface, pulling them back toward the road they were always meant to walk.

The choice is simple: To embrace the mark or to deny it.

The Eternal Mystery

The “M” is a paradox, a riddle without a final answer.

Perhaps it is the fingerprint of the divine, a reminder that something greater pulses beneath the illusion of reality.

Perhaps it is an echo from past lives, a sign that you have walked this path before.

Perhaps it is simply a pattern in the flesh, waiting for meaning to be bestowed upon it.

But this much is certain—those who bear the “M” are different.

They are the seekers.

The watchers.

The ones who move between worlds, standing at the threshold of the known and the unknown.

If you have found this mark upon your palm, understand this: You were never meant to be lost.

You were meant to remember.

How partner treats you when angry 😡

How someone treats you when they are angry says everything about their character.

If they truly love and respects you, they will never let their emotions turn into cruelty. Even in frustration, they will speak to you with care because their love doesn’t waver based on their mood.

On the other hand, if anger makes them disrespectful, dismissive, or even hateful, that’s not just a “bad moment”—it’s a red flag. Real love doesn’t come with insults, manipulation, or emotional abuse.

Someone who values you will never risk damaging your heart just because they are upset. They will take a step back, communicate, and handle disagreements with maturity.

If you find yourself constantly excusing toxic behavior with “they were just mad,” take a step back. Respect and love should remain constant, no matter the emotions.