“Don’t be ashamed to weep; ’tis right to grieve. Tears are only water, and flowers, trees, and fruit cannot grow without water. But there must be sunlight also. A wounded heart will heal in time, and when it does, the memory and love of our lost ones is sealed inside to comfort us.”
Brian Jacques
Felice Casorati – Dreaming of Pomegranates, 1913.
Parents who become alienated (not estranged, alienation is rejection with no justification), from their previously loving children benefit from coming to terms with the pathology. This is to understand the root causes of the problem. We often find we cannot rely on the mental health and legal services offered. If they don’t have an understanding of ‘parental alienation’ it can be a waste of your time and and resources, and potentially exacerbate the situation. That is unfortunate and I hope things will change, but as I write, this is the situation we’re in. There are a number of reasons for this which I often address, but that’s not what this post is about.
Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) is often recommended during adversarial court cases. It was originally designed for people with borderline personality disorder, and it focuses on teaching emotional management, enhancing interpersonal relationships, and developing mindfulness techniques. Incorporating acceptance and change strategies, DBT emphasises the balance between self-acceptance and personal growth, which is particularly helpful for people struggling with emotional regulation, self-destructive behaviours, and unstable relationships. Where there’s a dearth of empathy and potential for cruel behaviours (in the alienated parent or the children), Compassion-Focused Therapy (CFT) could be integrated. They are often dealing with the drama, disruption and chaos created by a borderline/narcissistic/dark personality, alienating parent. CFT helps those who are trying to cope with shame, guilt, and self-loathing. It can rewire the shared delusional beliefs imposed on them through the alienating behaviours. It incorporates mindfulness too for stress reduction.
Navigating the complexities of parental alienation isn’t easy, but through the application of therapeutic approaches like DBT and CFT, there’s a path toward fostering healing and understanding. Also through my 9-step program or 1-2-1 private coaching, alienated parents can work toward restoring the bond with their children, building resilience, and a more positive future.
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This video, Brand New Key , is as close as I could get to the joy of having earned my ” keys”…
# QuietlyJoyful 🌈🙌❤️
Brand New Key🎁🔑
Rebecca Miller and Anthony Pavlo from Yale University School of Medicine apply the concept of epistemic justice to advocate for a system that values the lived experiences and knowledge of service users.
— Read on www.madinamerica.com/2023/11/yale-researchers-propose-epistemic-justice-as-key-to-mental-health-system-overhaul/
“These are burning times. And they call for Burning Women. Women embodied in their passion. Woman feeling in their bodies. Creative women..”
Burning Women arise.
Our time is now.
Our time has come.”
― Lucy H. Pearce, Burning Woman
I know that I know that I know that the times we are in are the fires, and that yes – we are rising. I know it subjectively – the last three years have been me sorting through the ashes, and for the first time in awhile, things have begun to clear. And I know it collectively – there is more purpose, less uncertainty.
More energy. More clarity.
And while our purpose and path are something inherent to each of us individually, there is also the collective nature of the purpose and path of all women: To rise.
I created this in part inspired by Lucy A. Pearce’s seminal work, “Burning Woman” because it gives me much strength when times are especially hard to discern. I have always wanted to create a feminine Phoenix because it perfectly embodies us as women at so many stages of life. Life transformations of deaths and births, of loss and discovery. The transition from girl to Maiden. From Maiden to Mother, from Mother to crone. Where the old is literally done away with, and a new and different thing comes into place. Where we are reduced to ash in those liminal times wondering what the hell is happening, and feeling absolutely bereft – but then the discovering. This is especially daunting at the last stage, and what nobody tells you is how the veils lift – but that is for another work.
This work is to serve as a tangible reminder of the magic within you – wherever you are in your own life. It is a placeholder of hope in the symbology of what it is to not just survive, but to be rebirthed anew.
To fully own and acknowledge the fire within you.
To remind you to embrace your own burning time.
To see with eyes beyond your human eyes
And to remember that yes, again, you will rise
.“Burning Woman (Phoenix Rising)
Mixed Media
2022
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“Everyone who terrifies you is sixty-five percent water.
And everyone you love is made of stardust, and I know sometimes you cannot even breathe deeply, and the night sky is no home,
and you have cried yourself to sleep enough times that you are down to your last two percent, but
nothing is infinite,
not even loss.
You are made of the sea and the stars, and one day
you are going to find yourself again.”
Finn Butler
Xuanwei Su
To The Ascension LightWorker Collective :The Current planetary energies are intense and may push you to release old pain and unhealthy attachments. Shadows and the mother wound may also come up for healing. Hold space for yourself and others as you heal. Inner child memories and specific traumas may surface to be healed as well. Remember that you are stronger and more powerful than you think .
The universe is showing a divide in the collective, reminding us not to engage in lower dimensional behaviours. Staying on your path and moving forward to avoid inviting the past back in. Remaining focused and not sabotaging self with self-doubt or unworthiness.
You have transitioned and transformed a
Great deal and are creating your own path because the old one is no longer a vibrational match to you. Your mind is now working in your best interest , building you up, and your energy is aligning with abundance and better health. Grounding yourself in the present moment and allowing the outcomes to unfold naturally.
Lessons have been integrated, and you are awakening to your divine birthright. Stay grounded and take care of yourself during these cycles of ascension. It may feel chaotic at times, but remember that better things await you in this Next chapter.
The light has been fully anchoring within you, and using what you know for the highest good This will shape your world. Be grateful for closed doors, as they guide you to the right ones. The only thing that matters is the step you take in this moment.
With the intensity of the past 11-11 gateway portal opening the collective energies that are coming in are still very intense . During intense collective energies, you may experience various Ascension symptoms: Digestive issues: Bloating, heaviness, gas, dizziness, nausea, mild stomach cramps, and trouble sleeping. Eat light and healthy, avoiding alcohol, synthetic drugs, additional body supplements, dairy ,
Headaches and vision changes: Headaches, migraines, blurred vision, and changes in eyesight. Hair loss, skin irritations, and possible acne may also occur as the body purges and releases embedded dense energies and toxins.
Sensations of floating and feeling taller: As your body gets lighter and purges old density, you may experience sensations of floating and feeling taller and more angular. Waking between 2 am and 4 am: Your body may wake you during these hours as it cannot stay in the dream state for too long due to ongoing conscious inner healing work.
Heightened sensitivities: Increased sensitivity to crowds, loud music, and violent television shows. You may have an intolerance for lower vibrational things and people. Feeling disconnected and wanting to go home: As you vibrate at a higher frequency, you may feel like you do not belong here anymore. Temporary feelings of going insane or developing a mental illness may also arise.
Changes in plans and directions: Your soul may lead you on new paths and avenues, leading to a shift in interests and a reduced desire to make plans.
Menopausal and gynecological changes (for women): These changes indicate a recalibration in the reproductive system. Other physical symptoms may include sore legs, swollen ankles, rigidity in posture, and aching shoulders as the body releases past burdens.
These symptoms are temporary and may persist for the next two weeks. The upcoming 11-11 gateway on November 29th will bring relief and activate another major portal and wave of awakenings in the collective.
To support your integration and healing, stay hydrated, choose fresh and organic foods, seek sunlight for immune-boosting properties, bask in moonlight for inner shadow work, connecting with nature through waterfalls, oceans, forests, wildlife sanctuaries, and countryside drives. These activities will accelerate your integration and healing process.
You have completed a difficult cycle and are now focusing on positive changes. Expect shifts in awareness, heightened intuition, abundance, and revelations in relationships and finances.
Releasing any negative energies and speaking your truth to manifest more easily. Many are receiving DNA activations, and connecting with new master soul guides. Changes in your body and frequency timelines may occur. Trust in the higher vibrations and your intuition, doing what now needs to be done. Global awakenings and the continuing thinning of the veils between worlds are expected.
Earth is accelerating into new ascension energy, there is a multitude of mixed energies on the planet. Ascending souls are Experiencing realignments , energetic resets, positive shifts, higher realm communication breakthroughs, and the end of toxic patterns and relationships.
Starseeds : you will soon be Embraciing deeper soul connections, emotional cleansing, healing, and an increase in abundance and higher vibrational frequencies .
Channeled with Loving Ascension Devotion
By Ascension LightWorkers . copyright ©️
Grief can shake us to our core, unraveling the familiar into unfamiliar territory. Its acute pain can convince us joy has perished too, that happiness will never return. I woke up one morning to find I wasn’t fully living anymore, and that my body was locked into a permanent state of clenching, not unlike the way your body prepares for a shot, or a hard blow. I realized I wasn’t even close to any state of happiness, and that somehow I had come to believe that at any moment, it could all be taken away. Being afraid of opening again to life’s beauty, lest it be taken away again so cruelly. Poet Rumi captured this sentiment: “The wound is the place where the Light enters you.”
In my own seasons of grieving, I wanted to cling to sorrow, to honor all I had lost by resisting solace. Yet light slipped through anyway – hearing music that stirred my spirit, going back to writers and artists whose work gave me joy. Letting go and embracing laughter’s healing. A colleague advised, “Let your heart break open, not closed.” Heartbreak can reveal our wholeness, if we allow it.
Grief works on the soul over time, changing the shape of our capacity to hold joy again. One of my favorite quotes from Leonard Cohen nails this:
“Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack in everything
That’s how the light gets in.”
We need not rush the journey, simply breathe through the cracks making space for light. On the other side, we are larger, more compassionate, braver. “Akhilanda”, is the literal representation of this: a woman’s body is filled with cracks, incredible light spilling out. Her name means “Never not broken” – she embodies the truth that we are always changing, transforming, perfectly imperfect. And yes, there is joy again.
May we surrender to each wave of grief, trusting we will return again to happiness, cultivated from the fertile soil of loss. Poet Pablo Neruda said “You can cut all the flowers but you cannot keep Spring from coming.” Our spirits will bloom brightly once more. Have faith and courage.
The light finds a way.
“Akhilanda”
Mixed Media
2017
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