Tag: relationships

Christmas for the targeted parent

I know that a lot of you are not going to be with you child this Christmas. For some of you this will the first time you have this experience, for others you will have already been through this difficult period.

Whilst you cannot control the situation, you can control how you choose to respond.

Top tip # 1 – Keep yourself busy and try to make sure that you are with other people on Christmas Day and ideally other days as well.

Your X wants you to be feeling lonely and miserable, why do their job for them? If you are feeling sad and miserable, this will not impact what your children are doing. If you are managing to find comfort and even some happiness being with others, this will also not impact what your children are doing. It only impacts you!

Find some things that you want to do and which you have been denying yourself, such as treats or experiences. Book it and do it.

Push yourself to get out and do things, you will thank yourself later that you did.

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I personally know that x wants me to be low and emotional during this holiday season, and that just ain’t happening. It was not an unusual Xmas and I was home on my own…

X wishes me unalive , so grief filled that he can feed off that energy .

Once I accepted his shadow- demonic intentions, I just stayed intent and focused in my work/rest .

X as most Narcissists do, loves when I’m ill, and vulnerable , it consumes him , to seek revenge due to my silence .

I emailed x a plan to resolve the financial issues and business related problems mid month . No response .

I wrote our sons on the 25 th , wishing them a happy and safe holiday sharing my proposal email to x , which was generous given that he was illegal.

I’m sure he knows and is slinging some negative energy my way , though I have expressed that what he hexes me with is going coming back compounded to him.

He’s in control , no higher power , just him, his vendetta to shut me up and Divine has an accounting of all he has abused.

It’s his fate .

I know that a lot of you are not going to be with you child this Christmas. For some of you this will the first time you have this experience, for others you will have already been through this difficult period.

Whilst you cannot control the situation, you can control how you choose to respond.

Top tip # 1 – Keep yourself busy and try to make sure that you are with other people on Christmas Day and ideally other days as well.

Your X wants you to be feeling lonely and miserable, why do their job for them? If you are feeling sad and miserable, this will not impact what your children are doing. If you are managing to find comfort and even some happiness being with others, this will also not impact what your children are doing. It only impacts you!

Find some things that you want to do and which you have been denying yourself, such as treats or experiences. Book it and do it.

Push yourself to get out and do things, you will thank yourself later that you did.

#charliemccready #9stepprogram #parentalalienationcoach #parentalalienationawareness #parentalalienationischildabuse #parentalalienationisreal #parentalalienation #alienatedparent #alienatedchild #alienatedfather #alienatedmother #rejectedmother #rejectedfather #rejectedparent #highconflictdivorce #highconflictcoparenting #coparentingwithanarcissist #coparenting #divorce #familylaw #FamilyCourt #childabuse #psychologicalchildabuse #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissism #narcissisticabusesurvivor #narcissismawareness #narcissisticpersonalitydisorder #narcissists

Narcissist do not honor nor value stay at home wife/ mother

Yes I know this for a fact . At almost 72 he thinks I should work .

I hate his total control of finances

It wasn’t unusual for him to pay for friend’s drinks . I have no idea

what he spent money on, nor how he spent his time away from home.

Once hurt

“What once hurt you

can no longer touch you,

for people can never successfully attack or diminish

the parts of you that you have learned to accept and embrace.

And you will learn not to take anything personally

once you appreciate

that another person’s words or actions

are merely a reflection of themselves

and the parts of you they don’t understand or reject

are merely the parts of themselves that they have yet to meet or accept within.

And so, shine brightly, my love,

and never let the words of others dim the light within you,

knowing that you are the right kind of beautiful

for those who are destined to love you.”

Words by Tahlia Hunter

Artwork by Catrin Welz-Stein