I have been on my own for decades and know myself well enough that in relationship of important, I will respect the need for each to have freedom and space to be on our own . Very easily done with commitment and a foundation of truth.š„°
Tag: peace
Leading men
Visitors
Patience visited me
And it reminded me
That good things take time to come to fruition
And grow slowly with stability
Peace visited me
And it reminded me
That I may remain calm through the storms of life
Regardless of the chaos surrounding me
Hope visited me
And it reminded me
That better times lay ahead
And it would always be there to guide and uplift me
Humility visited me
And it reminded me
That I may achieve it
Not by trying to shrink myself and make myself less
But by focusing on serving the world and uplifting those around me
Kindness visited me
And it reminded me
To be more gentle, forgiving and compassionate toward myself
And those surrounding me
Confidence visited me
And it reminded me
To not conceal or suppress my gifts and talents
In order to make others feel more comfortable
But to embrace what makes me me
Focus visited me
And it reminded me
That other peopleās insecurities and judgements about me
Are not my problem
And I should redirect my attention
From others back to me
Freedom visited me
And it reminded me
That no one has control over my mindset, thoughts and wellbeing
But me
And love visited me
And it reminded me
That I need not search for it in others
As it lies within me.
Words by Tahlia Hunter
Artwork by Jungsuk Lee
š ā with Wow Scenery.
Not an option No Blurred Lines ā¤ļøšÆ
When a man is unclear in his commitment to a woman, it often means he is still playing around. He might give mixed signals, promising love and loyalty one day, only to disappear emotionally the next. This inconsistency is not about confusionāitās about keeping options open while enjoying the comfort of your presence. But the truth is, a woman often struggles to see this for what it is. She holds on to hope, believing that someday he will realize her worth and change. But, dear woman, let me tell youāsomeday rarely comes, and you cannot spend your life waiting for a man to step up.
You are not a project for someone to decide whether they are ready to invest in. You are not a placeholder for someone to figure out their priorities. You are a goddess, deserving of unwavering love and respect. A man who is truly ready for you will not make you question where you stand. His actions will match his words, and his commitment will be clear as day. Anything less than that is not your destinyāitās a distraction from the life you are meant to live.
When you allow yourself to wait for someone who is unsure, you compromise your own worth. You put their indecisiveness above your peace, and that is never a fair trade. Remember, love does not thrive in uncertainty. It grows in security, respect, and mutual effort. A man who values you will not hesitate to choose you, to honor you, and to build a future with you. Anything less is not loveāitās a game, and you are far too valuable to play along.
The challenge for many women is that they confuse potential with reality. They see the good in a man and believe it will eventually surface fully. But potential is not enough. What you deserve is a partner who shows up for you every single day, not one who keeps you guessing or makes you doubt your place in their life. A man who loves you will make sure you know, not by words alone but through consistent actions.
Do not allow your hope to blind you to the truth. Sometimes, the hardest thing to do is to walk away from someone you love, but it is also the most empowering. When you choose yourself, you set a standard for how others should treat you. You teach the world that you will not settle for anything less than what you truly deserve. That choice is an act of loveāfor yourself.
To the women reading this: you are not someoneās option. You are not someoneās maybe. You are a woman of infinite value, and the right man will recognize that without hesitation. The one who is meant for you will not make you wait in confusion. He will come into your life with clarity, with purpose, and with the willingness to commit fully to you.
Stop shrinking yourself to fit into someoneās life. Stop dimming your light in the hope that they will finally see you. The right person will see you, as you are, and love every bit of it. They will not ask you to wait, to prove your worth, or to fight for their attention. They will show up, every single time, because they know what they have in you.
You are powerful beyond measure. You carry the strength of generations within you. You are not here to beg for love or to settle for crumbs of affection. You are here to live a life of purpose, surrounded by those who honor and cherish you. Do not let anyone convince you otherwise.
So, dear woman, know your worth. Love yourself fiercely and unapologetically. Walk away from anything that makes you feel less than whole. The universe is waiting to align you with the love and life you deserve, but first, you must choose yourself. Stop waiting for āone day.ā Create your own day, your own happiness, and your own destiny.
A goddess does not chase. She stands firm in her power, knowing that what is meant for her will never require her to lose herself. You are that goddess. Step into your power and never settle for less than the divine love and respect that are your birthright. Truth is at some point you’ll realize that you’ve done too much for someone that the next possible step to do is to leave them alone & walk away. It’s not like you’re giving up but you have to draw the line from determination & desperation, what’s yours will be yours & what’s not yours will never be no matter how hard you try.
Peacekeeper Parents in Narcissist ‘normal ‘
Sweet Child of Mine
Sweet child of mine
Iād grab a star and
store it full of magic
and endless light to
carry you through,
out into days that
would take you
away although
never far enough
for distance, yet
pull you across
time where Iād
wrap myself in
the gentle folds
of remembrance,
an endless candle
illuminating every
eternal memory,
our days never
stretching long
enough when our
stories blended
into all the wonder
of your unwinding
imagination,
where I fell with you
back into a dream,
a child again holding
a gift I was givenā¦
a heart-shaped star
full of light and magic.
gwj
(artist unknown)
Youāre worth the effort
This is a reminder to let you know that you are not here just to do stuff, just to perform duties and complete tasks.
You are here also to feel happy, and content, and inspired and well within yourself.
You are here to have some fun, create meaningful moments and find the sparkle in your eyes again.
You are here to unravel the magic of being alive, the magic of being you. To heal, to feel whole again.
Do something today that lights you up. That activates your joy. That brings about a genuine smile from your heart.
You are worth the effort.
~ S.C Lourie
~ Art by Sam Toft
Woman Power
Having an understanding of this as a new wife and Mother , I was not supported or acknowledged as having any value .
At the time of X’s departure I was not myself and unable to respond correctly ; incorrectly assuming since I had legal representation, I was being cared for .
Protected
I was horribly wrong .
As the years passed and I worked hard on myself , I did grow empowered and motivated to finish old business . I know accept why on many levels how varied challenges hindered my progress , except for my faith . I think there are more than a few who grasp who I am . A male friend just stated how strong I am in a phone call .
I am grateful for the hands on my back and repel the hands that hold knives !
THE 6 POWERS OF A WOMAN
Your power as a woman goes beyond your body. It’s okay to have great curves! The ability to get a man chase you hard is power on its own. Having a hour glass (figure š shape is an automatic magnet for lustful men and some can eat the very sand at your feet just to get in between your thigh. Getting a man pant after you is power but your power goes beyond sensuality, sex and seduction, they don’t last! We are talking about lasting power here!
You carry so much power that you are not aware of. This power can make you a success. It can make your man an outstanding success. Make you a voice to reckon with and cause great changes in the society.
1. YOU HAVE THE POWER OF WORDS
Words are powerful! They can make or break someone. No! They can shatter someone to a million pieces without repair! Women are known with verbal power! Either to make, mend, destroy or kill! It is in every woman! By words alone, Delilah brought Samson to his death! By words, Jezebel made her husband commit murder! By words, Esther the queen saved a whole nation! By words, Abigail saved her life from death and became the wife of a king! By words, Adichie Chimamanda Ngozie is promoting feminism in Africa and beyond! By words, Linda Ikeji amassed billions of Naira into her account! Whether written or verbal, your words carry power! With your words you can end up a global success, challenge your man to success and change the society for good! Maximize your tongue by using words to your advantage!
2. YOU HAVE BODY POWER!
Men are attracted to beautiful women. Use your feminine body to your advantage! Not by sleeping around for money/job/promotion, etc you lose power and control that way. The moment you give a man sex he is not entitled to through marriage, he loses respect for you and you lose power! Package for excellence!
Be irresistible, charming, appealing, comely and worth chasing then divert his attention from your body(clothed body please. I’m not asking you to go about naked/show him your boobs and curves. You get what I mean) to your mind, intellect, talents, potentials and vision. That is how to hold a man spell bound! That is how to make him stay glued. That is how to command respect and honour. That s what make some men chase certain women hard till they marry them and after marriage, support with all you’ve got till he becomes a phenomenal success. You have the brain, wisdom, power, intellect, money and God to help your man succeed, that power lies within you. Maximize it!
3. YOU HAVE BRAIN POWER!
Women are blessed with the power of imagination. What you can see, you can achieve! Women who go out to change the world always do so especially when you have divine backing! You can be the next Nigerian president, you can build orphanages, you can create women empowerment programmes, you can rescue juvenile delinquents, you can cause great changes in the society. You can feed the poor, you can end up a great philanthropist.
4. YOU HAVE THE POWER OF INFLUENCE
You can influence your man, children, neighbour, friends and family for good. The power is within you. Once your mind is made up to achieve a result, cause a great change or turn your man to an international stardom, you can! You can influence a whole community, nation or country! You can influence your customers/clients and attract more money into your account. The power of influence lies within you. Esther the queen influenced a whole nation to fast and pray till they obtained their freedom. You are a great influencer!
5. YOU HAVE MONEY POWER!
Because women are naturally endowed with relationship skills, it’s easier to win more customers/clients and swell your bank account beyond your imagination. You can make as much money as you want.
6. YOU HAVE GOD POWER
Women connect with God at a deeper level than men. Not all women though, but a good percentage of women draw strength deeply and powerfully from God than their male counterparts who like to go macho with everything to the point of self destruction! Maximize your God power! With deep, intimate relationship with Him, you will draw power to achieve the impossible and up a phenomenal success. A role model millions look up to round the world.
Every woman carry power. Maximize yours, unleash it and end up a celebrity!
Safe Space
There’s a man out there who will tell you that she’s crazy, emotionally unstable, and aggressive.
There’s also a man who will say he’s never felt more appreciated and respected, that she has created the safest space for him, and that being around her makes him feel nurtured, cared for, and at peace.
Believe them both!
You get the woman you take care of, whatever you give her, she will reflect back to you.
If you show up in confusion, gaslighting her, or are indecisive, of course she’ll seem crazy!
However, if you show up with clarity, know how to lead, and make this a safe space, you’ll see a totally different woman.
Donāt force it
DON’T FORCE IT
Don’t force him to do anything, don’t pressure him to give you a place in his life, don’t condition him so that he is thoughtful….
Don’t beg him for caresses, or a furtive kiss, or hold your hand, don’t make him give you explanations when something has you dissatisfied.
Don’t insinuate how much you would like him to surprise you with a rose, don’t show him that it hurts that he doesn’t tell you how beautiful you look…
Don’t tell him to treat you with tact and affection, that he saddens you when he stops talking to you, when he hangs up the phone, when he is not gentlemanly, or to dedicate songs, or romantic lyrics to you…
Don’t commit him to supporting you in your difficult times, in your sorrows or when you have a broken heart, don’t ask him for a hug, much less let him know what you need.
Don’t die to hear him tell you: I love you, I need you, when he is no longer born to do it,
Do you know why?…
-Because whoever loves you sincerely, will not take care of you telling him anything, or asking him, or reminding him of the special dates.
The right man, the man who is for you, your exclusive, of your time and your life, the one that destiny has brought you for an indefinite time, will do all that and more to see you and make you happy if he really feels for you something real, unique… and never, but never will ever make you humble yourself and step on your dignity waiting for a “I love you”.
Whoever is the right piece, will fit into your soul and will choose you every day to love you infinitely, he will procure you, he will respect you, you will not need to do something extraordinary, he will love you for the fact of being you, with all your virtues and all the mistakes.
Alone, do not despair, do not open the door to anyone without deserving it, there is that great love, which will come and heal every wound and every tear, to turn it into an excessive cry of happiness… there you will know and say…
It was worth the wait.
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