Tag: Parental Alienation
Rejecting a parent
When a child rejects a parent
Alienating Parent Actions
Ignored phone calls / PA
Affirmations – Charlie McCready
Affirmations are more than just words—they are tools for transformation. Many parents I’ve worked with have found that affirmations can reframe negative thought patterns and restore a sense of self-worth and clarity, even amidst the emotional turmoil of parental alienation. Let’s delve into the science behind affirmations and how they can help you reclaim your inner strength.
Remarkably, our DNA has a language of its own, capable of being influenced by the words we think and speak. Research suggests that even the 90% of DNA once labelled as “junk” has a telepathic-like quality, transmitting and receiving information in ways far more advanced than the internet. Positive affirmations effectively reprogramme your DNA, sending empowering instructions to every cell in your body.
By replacing the negative narratives instilled by an alienating parent with affirmations, you can reclaim control over your inner dialogue and reshape your emotional responses. This process reinforces the idea that by changing your thoughts, you can change your mindset—and ultimately, your life.
Neuroscientist Dr. Joe Dispenza explains, “Nerve cells that fire together wire together.” Repeating positive affirmations strengthens neural pathways linked to self-belief, motivation, and resilience. This process, known as neuroplasticity, allows the brain to reorganise itself, replacing harmful patterns with healthier ones.
Your subconscious mind absorbs the tone of your self-talk without distinguishing between sarcasm, doubt, or criticism. It treats your words as direct instructions. Telling yourself, “I am capable” or “I deserve love and respect” lays the groundwork for a healthier state of mind and being.
Quantum physics offers another perspective on affirmations. Nobel Laureate Max Planck, the father of quantum theory, stated, “All matter originates and exists only by virtue of a force… the existence of a conscious and intelligent mind.” Your thoughts are vibrational energy that shapes your reality. Repeating affirmations like “I am strong” or “I am whole” not only influences your mindset but also sends positive energy outward, transforming how you engage with the world.
Pay attention to the tone of your inner dialogue. Is it nurturing or critical? Awareness is the first step towards transformation. Replace statements like “I’m not good enough” with “I’m learning and growing every day.” Gratitude activates brain regions associated with reward and bonding, reinforcing positive neural pathways. Spend a few moments daily imagining yourself as the person you want to be—calm, confident, and resilient. Say your affirmations aloud or silently, particularly upon waking or before sleep, when your subconscious is most receptive.
You can make up your own, but keep it ‘I am’ and avoiding negatives. Here are a few examples: I am worthy of love and respect. I have the strength to face challenges and grow. My children love me, even if they can’t show it right now. I am reclaiming my peace and happiness. Each day, I move closer to healing and wholeness.
As you nurture this new way of thinking, you’ll notice positive changes not only within yourself but also in how others respond to you. Affirmations help you project a calmer, more compassionate energy, influencing your interactions and allowing you to remain centred, regardless of external circumstances.
Remember, you are always listening to what you say about yourself. Pause and ask: What am I telling myself right now? Let your next words be kind, hopeful, and filled with self-belief. You deserve it.
#charliemccready
#parentalalienationcoach
#selfcare
#healing
#narcissisticabuseawareness
#familycourts
#parentalalienationawareness
#parentalalienation
#affirmations
#FamilyCourt

Help that too often hurts in Parental Alienation/ Child Psychological Abuse
Well-intentioned professionals, therapists, legal experts, friends and family members, can inadvertently worsen the situation. This occurs when they do not understand parental alienation. They often, not without reason, prioritise the child’s perspective, not taking enough into account the covert, coercive, harmful influence of an alienating parent, almost indoctrinating this child. The child may seem highly passionate and plausible. They may express confusion, anger, fear, but not so much of the manipulation. By validating the child’s apparent “choices,” people who could otherwise be more supportive of all the victims of alienation (not just the child) often overlook the deeper causes behind the rejection of a previously cherished and caring parent.
#charliemccready
#parentalalienationcoach
#childpsychologicalabuse

Disclosure of hidden truths – Charlie McCready
Carl Sagan, in the The Demon-Haunted World: Science as a Candle in the Dark said: “One of the saddest lessons of history is this: If we’ve been bamboozled long enough, we tend to reject any evidence of the bamboozle. We’re no longer interested in finding out the truth. The bamboozle has captured us. It’s simply too painful to acknowledge, even to ourselves, that we’ve been taken. Once you give a charlatan power over you, you almost never get it back.”
Without going down any of the many rabbit holes, my point is that the waters are muddied. Many young people don’t even watch the news anymore and don’t vote. The point is that they don’t know who to trust or think ‘they’re all as bad as each other’. That’s how it often is with the alienated child too. Just as powerful influences might withhold knowledge to safeguard established systems, an alienating parent might manipulate narratives to serve their own agenda too.
When confronted with revelations challenging their deeply ingrained beliefs, alienated children (just as with the general public) feel outraged at the subterfuge. There’s an inclination to resist acknowledging the deception. Reconciling and ultimately embracing the truth underscores the intricate facets of human psychology and our inherent yearning to comprehend the world around us.
As alienated parents, we prepare to embrace the moment when our children embark on a journey of seeking deeper truths, beyond the narrative (fake news?) of just one parent’s voice. Anticipating this pivotal juncture, we hold onto the aspiration that their evolving critical thinking, curiosity, and thirst for truth will eventually lead them back into our lives.
#charliemccready
#parentalalienationcoach
#narcissisticabuseawareness
#CoerciveControl
#familycourts
#custody
#parentalalienation
#psychologicalabuse
#parentalalienationawareness

Family Court Crisis – Craig Childress PsyD
Well… there’s your DSM-5 core of three:
Chapter 1 DSM-5 Diagnosis
Chapter 4 Diagnosing Delusions
Chapter 5 Diagnosing FDIA
Chapter 6 is going to be Diagnosing Attachment Pathology. Chapter 7 will be Diagnosing & Treating Family Systems Pathology. Chapter 8 will be The Dark Personalities.
At least that’s my plan. I don’t lead, I follow.
The family courts are in a crisis – there are no competent mental health services available. Parents, children, and the courts need a diagnostic assessment of the family conflict to the appropriate differential diagnoses for each parent… and they can’t get one.
Anywhere. Clinical diagnostic assessments of the family conflict are not being offered to parents and the courts by professional psychology. They are provided for all other forms of pathology, ADHD, autism, depression, anxiety disorders, everything else.
Parents can get a diagnostic assessment for ADHD or autism easy peasy. Diagnostic assessments are easily available for bipolar disorder and schizophrenia.
But parents and the courts cannot get a diagnostic assessment for their pathology – a shared persecutory delusion and FDIA – because that’s not offered to them by professional psychology… by forensic psychologists.
The court-involved forensic psychologists do something… different… they do something called a “forensic custody evaluation”… that does not return a diagnosis and it solves nothing.
So you’re kinda stuck until professional psychology – the doctors – decide to offer you clinical diagnostic assessments for the DSM-5 diagnoses of concern.
Hmm… shouldn’t your treatment providers in the family courts diagnose what the pathology is (identify at a professional level what the problem is) BEFORE they start treatment for something… shouldn’t their first identify (diagnose) what that something is?
Yes. Do they? No. They lack the necessary knowledge and information. Google ignorance: lack of knowledge or information.
They’re ignorant mental health providers… which is a problem.
A substantial problem.
The patient should NEVER need to educate the doctor about the pathology, its assessment, diagnosis, and treatment. The doctor should already known, and it’s the doctor who should educate the patient.
The parents in the family courts are educating the doctors about the pathology. THAT… is a substantial problem.
If a doctor needs to be educated about what the pathology is, its diagnosis, and its treatment, then that doctor is not competent in that pathology by demonstrated need to be educated about it.
This is child abuse. This is spousal abuse using the child as the spousal abuse weapon. Don’t all mental health professionals have a duty to protect? Yes.
Aren’t they then failing in their duty to protect by failing to conduct a proper risk assessment for child abuse when a risk assessment is warranted by the symptoms and context?
Yes, they are.
All the involved mental health professionals in the family courts are failing in their duty to protect the child from child abuse by a pathological narcissistic-borderline-dark personality parent – and – they are failing in their duty to protect the targeted parent from spousal psychological abuse using the child (and the child’s induced pathology) as the spousal abuse weapon.
The NY Blue-Ribbon Commission on Forensic Custody Evaluations called what they do, their forensic custody evaluations, “dangerous” and “harmful to children”, and they recommended that forensic custody evaluations be entirely eliminated from the family courts.
But that’s all you have. Clinical psychologists don’t work in the family courts, the pathology is too dangerous (narcissistic-borderline-dark personalities are highly vengeful). You were given your own “special” psychologists just for you – called “forensic psychologists” – they are the worst imaginable.
They are ignorant – lack knowledge and information.
They are unethical – violations to Standards 2.01, 2.04, 9.01.
They are incompetent – they solve nothing.
And that’s all you’re given. Why is that? I don’t think that’s right. You should have standard healthcare services like everyone else has with every other type of pathology (problem).
The patient should NEVER have to explain the pathology to the doctor. If anyone should explain a pathology to a doctor, it should be another doctor.
Okay. You now have somewhere to point your doctors to educate them… here’s Dr. Childress explaining how to diagnose a shared persecutory delusion… here’s Dr. Childress explaining out to diagnose FDIA.
I have a 50-page booklet – Assessment of Attachment Related Pathology Surrounding Divorce. It explains a six-session assessment protocol.
My estimate is that an accurate clinical diagnosis can be rendered within 4 to 6 weeks.
I recommend obtaining a second-opinion on the clinical diagnostic assessment through telehealth for all court-ordered assessments – the appellate system in healthcare for a disputed diagnosis is second opinion.
This is going to be a disputed diagnosis.
In healthcare, we get our second opinions up front at the start because we need our diagnoses accurate and early to guide our treatment.
This is child abuse. We need a – timely – risk assessment that returns an accurate diagnosis 100% of the time, and a diagnosis that the court can rely on for its decision-making surrounding the child.
I have a 50-page booklet – Contingent Visitation Schedule. It’s a strategic family systems intervention for the treatment of an FDIA diagnosis surrounding child custody. It flexes visitation time in a defined and structured way based on child symptoms.
I presented on how to run a Contingent Visitation Schedule at the 2024 APA national convention here in Seattle, then I went home and immediately did the same presentation using the same slides to my YouTube channel.
My oh my. I’m explaining everything. I’m explaining the diagnosis in detail. I’ve provided the assessment protocol. I’ve provided and explained the treatment protocol.
Dum-dee-dum… I don’t know what more I can do. As long as your doctors – the “forensic psychologists” who work in the family courts remain entirely unmotivated (lazy) and incompetent (and unethical: violations to Standards 2.01, 2.04, 9.01, 3.04, failure in duty to protect)… then there is nothing I can do.
I can lead the horse to water… but the horse has to drink from the knowledge. Ignorance solves nothing. Lazy solves nothing. Incompetent doctors cause harm – they are “dangerous” and “harmful to children” – and their “defective” practices lead to “potentially disastrous consequences for parents and children.”
Don’t expect rescue. All the oxygen is being sucked from the room of public attention. You’re on your own… almost. You have me.
I’m just a lone clinical psychologist. We need to find you your treatment providers where you live. I’m in Seattle… and… I can be anywhere on the planet through telehealth.
Just log into my online office (doxy,me/drchildress), flip the monitor around and I’m in the room, howdy. With proper permissions, I can be in any assessment or therapy session as a second opinion consultant.
Isn’t that convenient? You only have one ally… and I’m enough. What you need is motivation in your doctors – they call themselves “forensic psychologists”. They’re not motivated… yet.
This is a motivational pathology. I’m a specialist in motivational pathology – the attachment system is a primary motivational system of the brain. I know motivational systems.
I’m working on it. You work on it too. Forensic custody evaluations are ending – a paradigm shift is occurring BACK to clinical psychology. Perhaps you can convince some of your local psychologists to “switch teams” and go back to clinical psychology (diagnosis & treatment) in the family courts.
Otherwise… parents and the courts will have no competent mental health services available. Too bad. You don’t deserve competent mental health services it appears.
I wonder why that is?
Craig Childress, Psy.D.
Clinical Psychologist
WA 61538481
OR 3942 – CA 18857

A child’s view of parental alienation
From a child’s perspective:
Mom/Dad tells me I can’t see my other parent because they’re bad and they’ve done all these bad things, but I don’t understand why they’d do that. I always felt happy to be with them and I miss them. It hurts when I’m not allowed to see them. Why can’t I have both my parents like before? Why can’t I see both my parents like my mom/dad does? They’re angry with my mom/dad, but I’m not … although the things I hear are really upsetting.
I remember when we did things together – like picnics and playing games. Now it’s just me and Mom/Dad. They say the other parent doesn’t care about me, but I can’t believe that’s true. Surely that’s not right! They used to laugh with me and hug me. It’s confusing because the stories I hear are so different from what I remember. It’s like my Mom/Dad I miss so much has always been a monster, and I didn’t know it. All the time, I had no idea how bad they really were, and I can’t get my head around it. I’ve kind of lost all the good memories too because I didn’t know the truth of what they have been all this time. It’s so sad.
I try to understand it all, but it’s hard. I want to ask questions, but I’m scared it’ll make Mom/Dad angry or sad. Sometimes I hear them talking about court or lawyers, and I don’t know why. I wish I could tell them that I love both of them and want to see Mom/Dad too. It feels like a secret I’m not supposed to say out loud.
I don’t know why everything changed. I don’t want to think that one of my parents is bad. It’s like my heart is split in two, and I want things to go back to how they used to be. I wish I could understand why this is happening. I don’t think I can cope with thinking about it anymore. I’m just going to have to cut off because it’s too hard and upsetting. I do believe what my Mom/Dad says. Why would they lie to me? They are doing all they can to protect me from all this.
#charliemccready
#parentalalienationcoach
#alienatedchild
#parentalalienation
#childpsychologicalabuse

