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Discrimination of Women lawsuit filed

Mom Who Filed $8M Lawsuit Against “Judicial Conspirator” Dies
Judge Conspired with GAL & Ex to Take Kids
On Substack: https://womenscoalition.substack.com/p/mom-who-filed-8m-lawsuit-against

An Illinois mother, who filed an $8 million lawsuit against a judge for conspiring with a GAL and her ex to take her kids away, has died an unfortunate and untimely death.

Unbelievably, this is the third death of a Sister this month. Lizzie died 4th of July weekend, exactly five years after her children were taken: Mom Who Exposed Family Court Cover-Up of Sexual Abuse Dies “Mysterious” Death: https://womenscoalition.substack.com/p/mom-exposing-cover-up-of-sexual-abuse
Julia ended her life after her son was taken, also five years ago: NY Mom Commits Suicide after 5 Years of “Judicial Alienation” from Son: https://womenscoalition.substack.com/p/mom-commits-suicide-after-5-years

Aneta Hadzi-Tanovic lost her children seven years ago. It’s a cruel twist of fate that after she started a new life with a good man and had a baby, she passed away from an aggressive form of cancer.

Aneta joined The Women’s Coalition six years ago and become well-known amongst our Sisters after she filed a federal lawsuit back in 2020. Our Facebook post highlighting her lawsuit [before the launch of Women’s Coalition News & Views] went viral. This is not surprising, since thousands of women around the world have experienced similar violations of rights and laws.

In our last column about Julia, we introduced a new term to describe how judges are empowering fathers to take and turn children against mothers: “Judicial Alienation”. Aneta’s judge was also a Judicial Alienator, but her lawsuit evokes another useful term in identifying how mothers are losing custody: Judicial Conspirator.

One of Aneta’s claims in her lawsuit is that her judge conspired with the GAL and her ex to destroy her relationship with her children. This is typical. Judges almost always have court-appointees and affiliates who aid and abet them in the great custody switch.

More on that below but first, Aneta’s story.

ANETA’S STORY
Aneta, an attorney, married and gave birth to three children, two boys and a girl. Her first son was born in 2007.

Her marriage ended in divorce in 2014. The custody battle began like most. Aneta fought to maintain primary custody, having been the children’s primary bond and nurturer, thereby being in their best interests to continue living primarily with her.

But her ex was not interested in what was best for the kids. He was out for blood. And he knew the best way to destroy her was to take the children and turn them against her.

“[The father] was out to accomplish destroying his ex-wife…personally, psychologically, financially, and professionally, as well as her relationship with their three minor children.”

In 2015, her ex filed an emergency motion for sole custody on the bogus claim she was abusing the children. There was no evidence to support this and was later unfounded by CPS, but that did not matter.

Aneta was forced out of her home but was able to retain half parenting time. A few months later, the children told her their father was physically abusing them, and coercing and threatening them to report that she was abusing them.

In 2016, Aneta filed a motion for change of custody to her to protect them from their father’s abuse. She had proof of this via CPS. At the same time, she filed a motion for contempt due to his refusal to bring them to court-ordered therapy. Of course, all that credible evidence was ignored and custody remained with the father.

Her ex responded to the kids reports of abuse in the usual way: by accusing Aneta of alienation. He ratcheted up his campaign of false allegations against her by going to the police and CPS multiple times. These were all dismissed as unfounded.

“[The ex-husband] falsely and maliciously alleged that Aneta was physically and mentally abusing their three minor children and he initiated numerous complaints against Aneta with Department of Children and Family Services.”

CONSPIRACY KICKS IN

In 2017, Associate Judge Robert Wade Johnson was assigned to her case.

The GAL had been informed by the social worker that the allegations by the father were unfounded and she had not abused or alienated the children. She told him that he was the one coaching the children to say Aneta was abusive and that he was the abusive one.

“[The father] forces them to say she is beating them, punishes them unless they repeat the allegations, and tells them that he will know if they tell “the truth” (e.g., to their therapists, the school social worker, GAL, and the DCFS worker).”

Judge Johnson did nothing to curtail the documented physical and emotional abuse by the father.

In 2018, Aneta’s oldest son reported his father’s physical and emotional abuse to CPS and police. There was a forensic interview that confirmed the abuse.

On one occasion, the two older children refused to go on a visit with their abusive father. The father dispatched the police, but they would not make the kids go.

The father used this to claim Aneta was interfering with his parenting time, supporting his previous false claim of alienation. The GAL promoted this lie and recommended supervised visits for Aneta.

Judge Johnson continued to ignore the cumulative evidence of the father’s abuse. He refused to interview the children in chambers or allow Aneta’s 12 year old son to testify. He found Aneta in contempt for interfering with the father’s visits and restricted her to supervised visitation.

Aneta ended up getting very little supervised visitation time with her children, as her ex continually interfered. Six supervisors quit due to being verbally attacked by him. The kids also became abusive to the supervisors. They reported the children’s conduct was “outrageous, disrespectful and aggressive” and “their statements vulgar and threatening”.

Worse, they became out of control and abusive to Aneta as well. This was directly a result of being placed under the complete custody and control of the father.

“My children went from loving and caring and wanting to spend time with me, to swearing at me and attacking me.”

But the Judicial Alienator did nothing to stop the father’s interference with visitation and undue influence on the children. No, he had done his job—given the father sole custody and control over “his” children. And he ensured they remained alienated from their mother by doing nothing more.

Aneta did not see her children after that. She eventually began a new relationship and gave birth to a little girl named Ishka.

A few months ago, Aneta found out she had pancreatic cancer, one of the most aggressive forms of cancer.

RIP Aneta

GOFUNDME

A friend of Aneta’s started a GoFundMe to help her new family:
In Loving Memory of Aneta

THE LAWSUIT

In 2020, Aneta filed a Federal lawsuit (pdf) in the U.S. District Court for the Northern District of Illinois Eastern Division. [see substack post for link to pdf of lawsuit]. She included her children as Plaintiffs. The defendants were the judge, GAL, and ex-husband.

The first count was Deprivation of due process and equal protection under 42 U.S. Code §1983. The second count was Conspiracy to interfere with civil rights under 42 U.S. Code §1985. The third and fourth counts were for abuse of process (misuse of legal procedures) and intentional infliction of emotional distress.

In the second count, Aneta claims there was a conspiracy amongst the judge, GAL and her ex. She claims it is “overwhelmingly clear” they “corruptly conspired” to “improperly interfere with her right to the companionship, love and affection of her three minor children” … and with her “fundamental rights and privileges to familial relations and to raise her three minor children which is secured by the Due Process Clause of the Fourteenth Amendment”.

“By taking Aneta’s children away from her through this unlawful conspiracy, Aneta and her three minor children suffered severe physical and psychiatric injuries and were thus severely damaged.”

She requested an excess of $8 million in compensatory and punitive damages.

Although her lawsuit was well-written by her, an attorney, and she made compelling arguments, supported by abundant facts and evidence, her lawsuit was dismissed. She appealed to the Seventh Circuit U.S. Court of Appeals. They affirmed.

The Appellate opinion basically said that custody matters are under State jurisdiction, not Federal, and Aneta’s claim of civil rights violations, corruption, and conspiracy were insufficient to override that precedent. https://law.justia.com/cases/federal/appellate-courts/ca7/21-3373/21-3373-2023-03-14.html
It is unknown whether she appealed to the U.S. Supreme Court, but, apparently, there was no further action.

Many victims of the Custody Crisis have filed similar civil rights lawsuits individually but rarely, if ever, win. The Women’s Coalition, however, is filing a “Discrimination against Women in Family Court” lawsuit, in which many mothers are coming together to claim they are victims of systemic discrimination [see below].

Aneta’s lawsuit was a valiant effort to hold those responsible for destroying her family. However, the system is specifically designed so there is no way to hold Family Court judges or their co-conspirators accountable.

“JUDICIAL CONSPIRACY”

The word conspiracy is often associated with conspiracy theorists—those who promote ideas that have little or no basis in fact. That tends to discredit people who are trying to expose true conspiracies.

A conspiracy is defined as a secret plot, ploy, scheme, or agreement between two or more people for an unlawful or harmful purpose. What Family Court judges and their lackeys are doing when they unjustly switch custody to fathers fits that description.

Since there are thousands of mothers who can attest to their judges conspiring with their ex and others to wrongly switch custody, it supports the existence of a Judicial Conspiracy in each case. More importantly, since this is so rampant, it supports Judicial Conspiracy being a key aspect of the systemic entitling of men and oppression of women in family courts.

There are usually multiple co-conspirators in Custody Crisis cases, but judges are the ones in charge and who make the orders. They are da Boss. Hence, judges are the Judicial Conspirators and their lackeys Judicial Co-conspirators, who facilitate the custody switch and give them cover in the process.

Judicial Co-conspirators can be court-appointees or court-affiliates.

Court-Appointee co-conspirators include children’s legal representatives and mental health professionals. The legal representatives include minor’s counsels, GAL’s, guardians, court-appointed special advocates [CASA’s], et. al. Mental health professionals include custody evaluators, parental assessors, social workers, psychologists, therapists, et. al.

Court-Affiliate co-conspirators include child protective services workers, mediators, law enforcement officials, district attorneys, criminal court judges, forensic investigators, et. al. Even mothers’ attorneys often covertly conspire with judges to steer cases to fathers in order to stay in the good the good graces of the Court.

Each mother’s case has a different combination of these co-conspirators. Of course, not all appointees and affiliates conspire, but the judge simply credits the ones who get with the program and ignore the ones who don’t.

The judge does not need to make an express agreement or even communicate with co-conspirators, because they already know the program. There is often a much used cabal of co-conspirators in each jurisdiction, who outlast judges and can be counted on for…you know what.

So we have two new terms that often go together. Judicial Alienation almost always involves a Judicial Conspiracy to justify the excision of children from mother’s life. But having co-conspirators makes it easier in every case. They give the judge a reason to cite for switching custody and the “They made me do it” cover.

Mothers often fall into the trap of blaming a co-conspirator, but the truth is, judges are not being misled by them. Judges know exactly what they are doing. [See Down the Court-Appointee Rabbit Hole. https://womenscoalition.substack.com/p/down-the-court-appointee-rabbit-hole

Judges acting within a system that gives them virtually absolute power is the problem. Custody cases need to be heard in a real civil court where juries are the fact-finders, not judges.

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IN OTHER NEWS

DISCRIMINATION LAWSUIT

The Women’s Coalition is working on a “Discrimination against Women in Family Court” lawsuit. https://bit.ly/LawsuitPostSS

Our lawsuit claims that it is systemic discrimination that is causing women to lose custody. Family court judges are violating women’s right to due process and equal protection—because they are women. Our first filing will be in New York.

If you are a woman who lost custody unjustly in Family Court, you may join our lawsuit.

U.S. mothers: fill out this form. https://bit.ly/WClawsuitform

Other countries: fill out this form. https://bit.ly/WCintllawsuit

More info about the discrimination lawsuit https://bit.ly/LawsuitPostSS

NEXT SECTION OF SAGA OF ONE F**KED MOTHER IS OUT!
https://womenscoalition.substack.com/p/chapter-28-the-opera-act-iii-pt-5-26a

Legion has reconnected with her long-lost sister, Endys, and finally asks why she and her mother and siblings hadn’t supported her through the immense pain at losing her boys and her desperate efforts to get them back. But Endys has no empathy and shows zero outrage at what was done to her by Herry and the Court.

Endys minimizes the horror of Herry’s violence and abuse by calling him a “bonehead”. She places blame on Legion for being “tricked” by Herry and for being a “sinner” who needs to be “redeemed”. Legion decides she doesn’t want that toxic energy in her life and hangs up, never to speak to her again. That means there is no one in her blood family alive who supports her.

This concludes Chapter 28 and Act III of Dr. True’s Opera. But the fat lady—Justice—is not all sung out yet…

In the last section, Legion resolves to make women aware of the rampant sexism in family court after the patriarchal Chief Justice corruptly turns the True Majority Opinion into the Dissenting Opinion by appointing two of his buddies onto the panel. She laments how her “male-identified” mother and three siblings were unsupportive in her battle to regain custody of her boys—when she needed them most. She reconnects with a sister who had disappeared from her life.

All published chapters are included in the Section: “Saga of One F**ked Mother” accessible on the top bar of the home page of Women’s Coalition News & Views. Sequential chapters are emailed every Wednesday so make sure to subscribe if you haven’t yet!

TEASERS

“So where, ah, just exactly WHERE, … where WAS my family for me? Ya’ know, the ones like my sisters and my mother and my brother who were supposed to’ve gone to The Mat and to The Ends of the Earth for me? Where WERE you all?!”

“Well, Herry was just a bonehead and tricked you.” …I replied…“A bonehead?…That’s like calling Osama bin Laden a bonehead or Adolf Hitler a bonehead. Herry was a freakin’ thug, a terrorist, a savage and a criminal, Endys! WHERE WAS my family to try to help me protect myself and my kids?!!!!”

“I could not permit that toxin, that poison––not even its littlest drops’ worth of venom––to be aspersed onto my essence and my energy again. My blood will not be dirtied, will not be contaminated by that type of blood anymore, full sibling to me––or not!”

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Gen Z

9 ways Gen Z ‘protects their peace’ that older generations recognize as running away

Avery White / Jul 22, 2025

Lifestyle

The line between self-preservation and self-sabotage is blurrier than either generation wants to admit.

The coffee shop was playing that lo-fi playlist every workspace has now—the one designed to promote focus without actually being noticeable. My nephew Jake was explaining why he’d stopped responding to his girlfriend’s texts mid-conversation.

“She was getting upset about me canceling dinner plans again,” he said, scrolling through his silenced notifications. “I just don’t need that energy right now. She can wait until I’m in a better headspace.”

His phone lit up with another message. He flipped it face down without reading it.

“Good for you,” I thought initially. “Setting boundaries.” But as our coffee stretched on, I watched him do the same thing with his roommate (texting about rent), his mom (asking about Thanksgiving), and his group project partner (panicking about a deadline). Each time: glance, dismiss, “I’ll deal with it later.”

This wasn’t boundary-setting. This was a full-scale retreat from anything uncomfortable, dressed up in the language of self-care.

Gen Z has mastered the vocabulary of emotional wellness. They’re fluent in boundaries, triggers, and toxic relationships. They’ve turned “protecting their peace” into both an art form and a rallying cry. But somewhere between learning to say no and learning to engage with difficulty, something got lost in translation.

What older generations see as running away, many in Gen Z call self-preservation. What Gen Z sees as healthy boundaries, older folks recognize as familiar patterns with unfamiliar names. The truth lives somewhere in the middle—in that uncomfortable space that neither generation seems eager to occupy.

  1. THE PREEMPTIVE BLOCK

It happens with remarkable speed. Someone senses conflict might be coming—maybe a difficult conversation, maybe disagreement about weekend plans—and suddenly you’re staring at “User not found” where their profile used to be.

“I don’t need that energy in my life,” (sound familiar?) a young colleague explained after blocking a friend who’d questioned their decision to skip another group gathering. Apparently it’s the Swiss Army knife of avoidance. The friend hadn’t been cruel or unreasonable. They’d simply asked why. Previous generations did this too, of course. We just took months of passive-aggressive behavior to accomplish what Gen Z does with one click. The efficiency is almost admirable. But relationships aren’t social media feeds—you can’t just unfollow the parts that challenge you without losing something essential.

  1. THE “THERAPY SPEAK” SHUTDOWN

“That’s really triggering for me.” “I need to protect my energy right now.” “This feels like you’re violating my boundaries.”

Valid concepts, essential for mental health—when used accurately. But watch how quickly they become shields against any feedback, criticism, or request someone doesn’t like. Therapists have started calling this “weaponized self-care talk”—using the language of healing to avoid rather than engage.

I watched a manager try to give performance feedback to a new graduate. Normal stuff—deadlines, communication, basic workplace expectations. The response? “This conversation is affecting my mental health. I need to step away.”

The feedback wasn’t harsh or personal. It was the basic friction of working with others. When the language of healing becomes a weapon against growth, we’ve missed something important about what these words actually mean.

  1. THE GHOSTING EPIDEMIC

We’ve normalized disappearing. A friend who manages a downtown retail location tells me she’s lost three employees this year to what she calls “ghost quitting”—they simply stopped showing up. When she finally reached one through Instagram, they said they “needed to prioritize their wellbeing.”

She’s not alone. Workplace ghosting—employees vanishing without notice—has become widespread enough that HR departments have a name for it.

Yes, many of these jobs are genuinely terrible—unpredictable schedules, no benefits, wages that don’t cover basic expenses. There’s something to be said for refusing to be exploited. But the pattern extends far beyond bad workplaces. Friends ghosted after minor disagreements. Family gatherings skipped without explanation. Commitments abandoned the moment they become inconvenient.

When protecting your peace means never having a difficult conversation, never delivering bad news, never facing the discomfort of ending things properly—that’s not wellness. That’s avoidance with a wellness filter.

  1. THE ALGORITHMIC ECHO CHAMBER RETREAT

“I only follow accounts that make me feel good,” Jake told me during another coffee meetup, as if this were revolutionary. The irony? It’s precisely what everyone’s parents do on Facebook. But Gen Z has perfected the art. The algorithm serves up exactly what they want to see. Anyone who disrupts this carefully curated reality gets muted, blocked, unfollowed. They’ve created perfect digital worlds where everyone agrees with them, validates their choices, speaks their language.

The result? Young adults genuinely shocked when real life doesn’t work like their feed. When disagreement isn’t violence. When challenge isn’t trauma. They’ve protected their equilibrium so thoroughly they’ve forgotten that disruption is often where growth happens.

  1. THE “NO NEGATIVE VIBES” POLICY

When did emotional boundaries become emotional walls? I’ve watched as acknowledgment of struggle gets labeled as “negativity” that must be expelled.

Friend going through a divorce? “Sorry, I can’t handle negative energy right now.” Family member loses their job? “I need to protect my mental space.” Someone needs support? “That sounds really heavy. Have you tried journaling?”

They’re not wrong that emotional boundaries matter. But there’s a difference between protecting yourself from genuine toxicity and abandoning anyone who isn’t currently thriving. When your peace requires everyone around you to be perpetually okay, you’re not practicing self-care—you’re practicing a sophisticated form of selfishness.

  1. THE INSTANT JOB EXODUS

The moment work becomes challenging, stressful, or simply boring, they’re gone. “It was toxic,” they’ll say about a workplace where they were asked to meet deadlines. “I had to protect my peace,” about a job that required them to work on projects they didn’t personally choose.

Workplace standards absolutely needed updating, and previous generations tolerated far too much. But there’s crucial ground between “accept any treatment” and “leave the moment you’re uncomfortable.” That’s where skills develop. Where resilience builds. Where you learn the difference between genuinely toxic environments and the normal friction of working with other humans.

Instead, many job-hop at the first sign of difficulty, collecting two-week stints like passport stamps, always protecting their peace, rarely building anything that requires sustained effort.

  1. THE RELATIONSHIP TAP-OUT

I’ve watched this pattern repeatedly: relationships ending not because of abuse or fundamental incompatibility, but because they require effort. First disagreement? Done. Different opinions? Blocked. Asked to compromise? “This relationship is draining my energy.” The math is revealing. What they call “too much work” often means the normal maintenance of human connection—checking in during hard times, showing up for important events, occasionally prioritizing someone else’s needs. The basic reciprocity that makes relationships meaningful.

  1. THE PERPETUAL STUDENT MINDSET

Always “working on themselves” but never quite ready to engage with the world as it is.

“I can’t date until I’ve healed my attachment style.” “I can’t take that job until I’ve finished my self-discovery.” “I can’t visit family until I’ve processed my childhood.”

Jake mentioned he’s been “preparing” to have a serious conversation with his girlfriend for three months. The preparation has outlasted most relationships.

Self-improvement matters. But when the journey becomes an excuse to never arrive anywhere, when “working on yourself” becomes a way to avoid working on anything real, growth becomes its own form of stagnation.

  1. THE ACCOUNTABILITY ALLERGY

Perhaps most tellingly, they’ve reframed accountability as attack. Being held responsible for their actions becomes violence against their peace.

Didn’t follow through on something? “You’re being really aggressive right now.” Hurt someone’s feelings? “I was just being authentic to myself.” Failed to meet a commitment? “Your expectations are toxic.” Every consequence becomes someone else’s problem. Every failure is the world’s fault for not accommodating their needs. They’ve learned to use the language of boundaries to avoid the discomfort of responsibility—which might be the most sophisticated avoidance technique of all.

FINAL THOUGHTS

Here’s what makes this particularly complex: Gen Z isn’t wrong about the importance of mental health, boundaries, or self-care. They’re the first generation to really understand that you can’t pour from an empty cup, that “no” is a complete sentence, that your peace matters.

They watched their parents burn out, stay in toxic relationships, endure abusive workplaces. They decided—correctly—that they deserved better. The problem isn’t the principles. It’s what happens when every tool becomes a hammer and every situation looks like a nail.

Basically Gen Z have become an extension of technology, unfortunately machines don’t have emotions or empathy.