Tag: child Psychological abuse

Boundaries – Charlie Mc Cready

Enforcing boundaries can be challenging for the targeted parent. The child may have been told you’re mean, so when you don’t buy that pony or new iPhone, they immediately reinforce those negative beliefs. And, of course, this is ridiculous, and the odds are unfairly stacked against us. Is the alienating parent buying that new pony or iPhone? No? But they’re not the ones getting judged. All eyes are on us. That is how the alienating parent has manipulated the situation. ⁠

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The temptation to give in and buy the child their sweeties is strong. Make life easy. Avoid conflict. I truly understand this. I also realise that, having been denied time (a little or a lot), we want to make the most of it and have the best time possible. So maybe we do overinduldge, more than we normally would. This is not a normal situation. It’s so important to have boundaries still. If we keep buying them those ‘sweeties’, let’s say we could potentially be ‘feeding a monster’. I’m not saying our children are monsters. But they are in a monstrous situation. And we risk unintentionally empowering the child further in the process of parental alienation. By not setting boundaries, the child may continue to manipulate or exploit the situation, which can perpetuate the alienation dynamic.⁠

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Setting boundaries, even in the face of resistance or hostility from the alienating parent or the child, is crucial. It helps establish a sense of stability and consistency for the child, which can benefit their emotional well-being. It also communicates to the child that their behaviour has limits and expectations, even if they have been influenced to believe otherwise. By enforcing boundaries, the targeted parent maintains their own integrity and self-respect. It helps prevent further erosion of their relationship with the child and can allow the child to eventually see through the manipulations and realise the truth.⁠

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Boundaries are a means to protect both your well-being and the potential for healing and reconciliation with your child in the long run.⁠

Christmas 🎄 and Family Estrangement

‘Twas the night before Christmas, when all through the house not a creature was stirring, not even a mouse …’ But for us, alienated parents, that silence isn’t peaceful—it’s unnatural. It’s not supposed to be this way. Our children have been unjustifiably, most cruelly, denied a relationship with us, and the quiet reminds us of their absence. The pain is real and heightened on nights like this. I know from personal experience that Christmas can be an extremely tough time for an alienated parent. The sense of loss is heightened, and you can easily get caught in an emotional loop. You have to deal with not seeing the children and maybe even having your presents rejected or returned. Whilst I cannot make your children come back during the festive season or cure the absence of their presence and laughter, I’m here to help you manage these feelings and find your inner strength. I help many parents, like you, cope far better with the challenges that we face. You can learn to re-frame the way that you experience alienation, changing the way you think, feel and act. I will be working on this with my current clients and anyone else who wants to join my program or coaching. You can shift your perspective and regain a sense of peace, not just for the holidays but moving forward. Reach out for support. If not me, then those close to you who can support you when you need it. Take care, Charlie.

#charliemccready

#parentalalienationcoach

#parentalalienation

#parentalalienationawareness

#healing

#divorce

#FathersMatter

#mothersmatter

Abandoned Parents

Just finished reading this book.

She delves into the chemical reactions in our bodies/brains to the trauma of estrangement . No wonder this is a particularly difficult time of year. I know this estrangement has forever changed me. This book nails our feelings and reactions to our children’s behavior. We are certainly thank God not alone in this battle for resilience. In many ways it has made me a stronger person..but that was up to me not my child. To be so invisible is brutal to say the least.

Alienating Parents & the Damage Done

Parental alienation occurs when one parent, typically after separation or divorce, actively and deliberately attempts to distance the child from the other parent. It’s not uncommon for an alienating parent to have shown far less interest in the child’s life before separation, only to suddenly become intensely involved once the other parent is no longer in the picture. It can be even more so when they remarry.

The alienating parent may use manipulative tactics to undermine the relationship between the child and the other parent. This can involve making negative comments about the other parent, falsely accusing them of wrongdoing, or deliberately preventing the child from spending time with the other parent. The goal is often to erase the other parent’s influence from the child’s life, creating a sense of loyalty and dependence solely on the alienating parent. This behaviour is widely considered harmful to the child’s well-being, as it can lead to emotional distress, confusion, and strained relationships with both parents.

The alienated parent might wonder how alienating behaviours impact the relationship between the alienating parent and the alienated child (a convoluted sentence, but I want to be clear). Some (though not nearly enough yet) may view alienating behaviours as a form of psychological child abuse, especially given there are allegations without proof that the child is better off without one of their parents in their life. It may lead to legal consequences such as changes in custody arrangements or supervised visitation for the alienating parent. We do hear of these stories (again, they are few and far between) as the courts tend to take the lead from the ‘voice of the (indoctrinated/alienated) child’. But, also, and more generally, the alienating parent is not easy to live with. They are highly manipulative, and the child may come to realise this. Their love is conditional. After-all, this is a parent who requires the child to cut the other loved/loving parent out of their life. This is NOT loving behaviour. Deep down, the child knows even if they make excuses and align with this parent.

NB: A father can be a biological parent. A biological parent is someone who is genetically related to a child and participated in the child’s conception. Both the mother and father of a child are considered biological parents.

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#narcissisticabuseawareness

#narcissisticparenting

#coercivecontrol

#fathersrights

#mothersrights

#parentalalienation

Grandparents Responsibility

I realized in my healing journey that my parents had no idea how to raise children properly . Both had harsh childhoods with life lessons that did not include healing , balanced , guiding healthy children.

I have tempered this with in myself and reparented myself properly , however siblings have not , or in the process . I’m not involved in their efforts and hold faith for each of them 💯🙏

I wasn’t able to discuss things with Mom before she exited ; and that bothered me for decades .

I did with Dad however have time with Dad who opened his heart ❤️, and he was full of regret .

Grandchild are beautiful gifts for my grandmother spirit ,

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Craig Childress PsyD / Consulting

I’m settling into my daily tasks, and I had an inquiry regarding my possible involvement in a foreign matter.

I had previously spoken with the parent on a first of the month general public consult – now the parent was re-contacting me saying things were getting worse.

The parent wanted to know if I would consult with the involved mental health professional (of course I will, my scheduling assistant can get them onto my calendar for a consultation – have them email my assistant and me).

The parent also suggested possibly bringing me in as a second-opinion on document review (reports) surrounding the matter.

I wrote a response… as I was writing the response I thought, “other folks might find the information useful” – so here’s the information cut-n-paste (almost) from my email to the foreign parent,

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I am available as a second opinion consultant to any interested mental health professional, or to the court through a document review and second-opinion on the information reported.

To establish a consultant agreement would involve a ‘scope of service’ agreement. Do you want me to consult with a mental health professional – or do you want me to provide a second-opinion on documents?

This is something you should discuss with your attorney – how might my involvement be most useful?

Individual Consultation to MH Professionals

If a mental health professional wishes my consultation on a matter, they can email Maggie to get onto my calendar. No scope of service is needed for individual consultation hours.

What is needed is the motivation of the mental health professional to seek consultation. I already have much informational material available on my Consulting Website as well as three articles on ResarchGate and multiple YouTube seminars on the pathology, it’s diagnosis, and treatment.

ResearchGate: Dark Personalities & Delusions in the Family Courts

Greenham & Childress, (ResearchGate): Darks & Delusions 1: Solving the Gordian Knot in the Family Courts

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/369741224_Dark_Personalities_and_Induced_Delusional_Disorder_Part_I_Solving_the_Gordian_Knot_of_Conflict_in_the_Family_and_Domestic_Violence_Courts

Greenham & Childress (ResearchGate). Darks & Delusions II: The Research Gap in the Family Courts

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/363197057_Dark_Personalities_and_Induced_Delusional_Disorder_Part_II_The_Research_Gap_Underlying_a_Crisis_in_the_Family_and_Domestic_Violence_Courts

Greenham, Childress, Pruter (ResearchGate). Darks & Delusions III: The 12 Associated Clinical Signs in 46 Custody Cases.

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/368330924_Dark_Personalities_and_Induced_Delusional_Disorder_Part_III_Identifying_the_Pathogenic_Parenting_in_the_Family_and_Domestic_Violence_Courts

YouTube Seminars: Dr. Childress YouTube Channel

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV-OK9_OFd3BgBWgB0ccw4w

AFCC Symposium Theme Part 1 Assessing Child Abuse in the Family Courts

AFCC Symposium Theme Part 2: Assessing Child Abuse in the Family Courts

Bluesky: @drchildress.bsky.social

I also recommend that all involved mental health and legal professionals Follow me on Bluesky social media at: Dr. Craig Childress @drchildress.bsky.social

I am available for consultation to any mental health professional who wishes to consult (no scope of service agreement is needed for this task). If you would like me to review documents and provide a second opinion, we can set up a meeting for a scope of service agreement regarding the task.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist

WA 61538481 – CA 18857

#1 Toxicologist : Products causing infertility & harming children – Diary of a CEO

Awareness of this , began as a new Mom and “acid rain” , nutrition

was important . Of course I had no idea of misinformation, or

lack of truthful education .

I know I’m sensitive to many things, and I try to control adversity

in foods and products .. it has been totally lame for over 4 years .

Certainly , flawed rentals contributed to my inability to totally

delve into my stuff in total and adapt my needs to reality .

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