Author: GreatCosmicMothersUnited

I have joined with many parents affected with the surreal , yet accepted issue of child abuse via Pathogenic Parenting / Domestic abuse. As a survivor of Domestic Abuse, denial abounded that 3 sons were not affected. In my desire to be family to those who have found me lacking . As a survivor of psychiatric abuse, therapist who abused also and toxic prescribed medications took me to hell on earth with few moments of heaven. I will share my life, my experiences and my studies and research.. I will talk to small circles and I will council ; as targeted parents , grandparents , aunts , uncles etc. , are denied contact with a child for reasons that serve the abuser ...further abusing the child. I grasp the trauma and I have looked at the lost connection to a higher power.. I grasp when one is accustomed to privilege, equality can feel like discrimination.. Shame and affluence silences a lot of facts , truths that have been labeled "negative". It is about liberation of the soul from projections of a alienator , and abuser ..

Before a baby is born

It needs to start even before a baby is born … ♥️

“We do not believe in ourselves until someone reveals that deep within us something is valuable, worth listening to, worthy of our trust, sacred to touch. Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, spontaneous delight or any experience that reveals the human spirit.”

✍️🏻Author| E.E Cummings

🎨Artist|Victoria Stoyanova, acrylic on canvas

Somebodies Child

They do not call us orphans,

Not when we stand tall in the world –

Not when we sign papers and pay bills,

Not when grief slips into our pockets

Like loose change we never meant to carry.

But we are –

Orphans of an age,

Left to navigate without the voices

That once guided us home.

No one warns us that loss reshapes the air,

That their name will sit in our throats,

That love doesn’t vanish – only echoes,

Soft and relentless, in everything they touched.

We catch ourselves searching –

In the tilt of our reflection,

In the way our hands move like theirs did,

In old letters, old recipes, old stories

That suddenly feel too heavy to hold.

People will say, ‘They’d be so proud of you.’

As if pride could fill the silence,

As if knowing that could make it hurt less.

But even in the emptiness,

Even with no parent left to be seen,

We are not untethered.

We are still carried in the love that made us.

We are still,

And will always be –

Somebody’s child.

Heather Lea

Love doesn’t stop

If your loved one is gone, what you had is not over.

The love doesn’t stop, only the form of it changes.

It is the same in Nature; the seasons don’t stop happening

because one has ended.

The cycle goes on. So does love.

Spring doesn’t come until winter has fully expressed itself.

Give yourself a winter.

Mourn your loss, don’t rush.

Be a friend to yourself in loss.

You’ve known great love. You still know it.

You still have a part of it to live.

Here is an opportunity to continue to love the one who is gone by sending loving thoughts to him or her, by loving yourself, by smiling at people, by loving others because you know how.

~ Unknown

~ Art by Jungsuk Lee

Worth the wait ❤️💯

Wait for someone who lets you know from the very beginning, if they have genuine intentions with you.

Wait for someone who genuinely wants to be part of your life , and proves it to you with every single day that passes.

Wait for someone who is giving, and does not keep tabs of the things they do for you, because they expect something from you in the near future.

Wait for someone who texts you throughout the day to check in on you because they care about your well-being.

Wait for someone who wants to authentically learn who you are as a person.

Wait for someone who respects you and your children as well.

Wait for someone who shows you the true definition of effort.

Wait for someone who makeprotecting your heart a number one priority.

Wait for someone who motivates you to do better in life because relationships are more than just falling in love. It’s about inspiring each other to become better versions of yourselves day in and day out.

Wait for someone who is patient with you and are guided by morals and reasoning.

Wait for someone who knows the smallest little details about you …. like the way you like your coffee in the mornings, your favorite smell or what movies make you cry.

Wait for someone who doesn’t make permanent decisions based on their temporary emotions.

Wait for someone who understands it’s not about giving you the world, it’s about making you feel like you’re the only one in it.

Take my advice and wait for someone who touches your heart in ways you never thought were imaginable.

~ Cody Bret

Ending a relationship

Ending a Relationship with a certain individual is not like a regular breakup.

People always ask victims and survivors of abuse the same questions.

“Why can’t you just move on?”

“Why can’t you get over it?”

“Why are you still thinking about this person who treated you so bad?”

And what alot of people don’t understand is……you can’t verbalize why, because you don’t even know where to start.

The fact that you fell in love with someone that never existed and now you have to mourn the loss of them.

The fact that they conditioned you to be someone that you don’t even recognize in the mirror anymore.

The fact that you can’t explain the guilt that you feel for letting go of this person that made you feel like it was your only job on earth to save them.

The fact that you can’t explain the anxiety and loneliness that you feel from not having them there because they were the person that soothed you after they abused you.

The fact that you can’t explain that even though they lied to you and fed you empty promise after empty promise, that you still had a fraction of hope in your head that maybe they can change.

Or maybe it’s the fact that you can’t explain the anger that you have towards them because you can’t let go of knowing that you were manipulated by them since day one.

Ending a relationship with this person is traumatizing to say the least, but you’re very capable of recovering from such an unfortunate chain of events.

You have to accept the reality that this narcissistic person never loved you.

They used you to fuel their admiration, and they needed you to reflect their magnificence because they never truly felt it about themselves.

You also have to realize it’s not that you’re unlovable, but it was the person you were with, that was incapable of loving anyone including themselves.

Take my advice and remember…. if you’re in a relationship that makes you question your own value, you need to reconsider the appraisers in your life.

~ Cody Bret