Mental health issues in Alienator

It’s often the case that the alienating parent may exhibit untreated mental health issues. These issues can range from personality disorders like narcissism or borderline personality disorder to unresolved trauma or attachment issues. However, rather than addressing these issues, the pathogenic parent tends to project their own shortcomings onto the targeted parent. This projection serves as a defence mechanism, allowing the pathogenic parent to avoid taking responsibility for their behaviour and deflecting attention away from their own mental health challenges. Instead, they attribute all wrongdoing to the targeted parent, painting them as the sole source of problems within the family dynamic.

Often, the ‘target’ parent has done what they can to encourage the pathogenic parent to seek help but is met with resistance or denial. As a result, the alienated parent is often seeking help to help them cope with an ex who refuses to admit they need help! They may undergo therapy or counselling to help them navigate the complexities of parental alienation and develop coping strategies to protect their well-being and maintain a healthy relationship with their child despite the obstacles posed by the pathogenic parent.

I look forward to the day when there’s a wider public understanding of what we call ‘parental alienation’ (child psychological abuse) and support, interventions, education, and a focus on encouraging the pathogenic parent to seek professional help.

Meanwhle, every day, these posts go out, hoping to help you feel less alone, hoping to help you understand the pathology, so it lightens your load a little. I know I felt so incredibly isolated (over 20 years ago when I first started on this road) myself. Stay strong. Don’t ever lose hope. My children returned. It took a while, but make sure you live your life and don’t get overcome with grief and anger. Do what you can to let that go, and strive to be happy. Reach out if you want to know more about how I can help more with my program and coaching.

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Divine Feminine

Don’t mishandle a true Divine Feminine.

Her energy is an unspoken spell – an addiction you won’t realize you have…until you’re craving it.

She knows the loudness of her silence…and the power of her absence.

Opportunities to connect with such a rare being do not come around every lifetime.

Being connected to her, even if only at a quantum level, will feel like having access to an endless generator of magic…and muse.

Being suddenly cut off from that energy can feel jarring.

When she’s gone, you’ll dream of her.

You’ll see her everywhere.

You’ll wonder if she cursed you, but she didn’t have to…she simply revoked your access to her frequency.

💫

A local official reports on personnel cuts in SSA

A report from an employee of the Social Security Administration, who wishes to remain anonymous. We have not confirmed the details, but I suspect that this is likely accurate. I am passing it on because of its likeliness. The employee reports these 10 actions have quietly taken place during the past two weeks without any press coverage

  1. probationary attorney-level decision writers who are responsible for assisting Administrative Law Judges were terminated and at a time when the agency has massive backlogs in cases at the hearing level.
  2. The new acting commissioner gloated about firing 14 employees as an “accomplishment” in his commissioner broadcast to the agency
  3. The entire Office of Transformation, and its 60+ employees were dissolved. Their whole purpose was to promote agency-wide efficiencies and faster processing times through oversight over SSA systems and use of information technology.
  4. The entire Office of Civil Rights and Equal Opportunity and its 190 employees were dissolved, including the Commissioner and Deputy Commissioner of Civil Rights. OCREO conducts statutorily mandated requirements for employees and members of the public including the reasonable accommodation request process, the public facing discrimination complaint process, and the EEOC employment discrimination complaint process. The National RA Coordinator at OCREO whose position was court ordered was also terminated.
  5. component heads and executives were told to draft plans to slash administrative SSA staff by 50% and to reduce the total SSA workforce by seven to eight thousand
  6. SSA staff were sent an email threatening massive reorganization of SSA followed with significant workforce reduction. The email pressured seasoned employees, even front-line employees, with monetary incentives to resign or take early retirement and threatened to fire employees for cause should they not retire or resign.
  7. Executive staff responsible for overseeing regional field office operations were terminated, I know that one region had all but 3 out 72 staff members terminated and it is very likely that the other ten regions had similar terminations. These regional executive offices oversee hundreds of field offices.
  8. The Acting Commissioner sent out a memo to SSA staff indicating significant restructuring of the agency due a “bloated workforce and organization structure,” even though staffing at SSA has been the lowest it’s been in 50 years. The reorganization includes taking the 10 regions that SSA’s serves and consolidating into 4 regions; and combining multiple independent SSA components together in an effort to “downsize” or “streamline”. This could potentially lead to massive closures in field offices, a reduction of services, and a significant number of terminations of agency employees.
  9. Terminations are happening swiftly and often late in the day to avoid bringing attention to any media or congressional attention to them.
  10. The trauma they are creating for SSA staff is unreal. I am aware of at least three terminated SSA employees who have committed suicide, one of which I personally knew

Loosing your magic

‘I’ve lost all my magic,’ said the elf girl.

‘No!’ said the dishevelled little owl.

‘I think I’ve run out,’ said the elf girl.

‘Never,’ said the dishevelled little owl.

‘What’s the point of me?’ asked the elf girl.

‘Oh, dear,’ said the dishevelled little owl.

(Pause.)

‘What’s to be done? ‘ asked the elf girl.

‘Small things,’ said the dishevelled little owl.

‘How do I do them?’ asked the elf girl.

‘Carefully,’ said the dishevelled little owl.

‘But there’s too much stuff!’ said the elf girl.

‘Bit by bit,’ said the dishevelled little owl.

(Pause.)

‘Magic is hard,’ said the elf girl.

‘I know,’ said the dishevelled little owl.

‘I can’t,’ said the elf girl.

‘You can,’ said the dishevelled little owl.

‘Are you sure?’ asked the elf girl.

‘Absolutely,’ said the dishevelled little owl.

#wiseowl #justdoit #keepingitsimple

Mermaids

“The mermaid is an archetypal image that represents a woman who is at ease in the great waters of life, the waters of emotion and sexuality. She shows us how to embrace our instinctive sexuality and sensuality so that we can affirm the essence of our feminine nature, the wisdom of our bodies, and the playfulness of our spirits. She symbolizes our connection with our deepest instinctive feelings, our wild and untamed animal nature that exists below the surface of outward personalities. She is able to respond to her mysterious sexual impulses without abandoning her more human, conscious side. What happened to the girls who dreamed of being mermaids?”

– Anita Johnston,

Eating in the Light of the Moon:

How Women Can Transform Their

Relationship with Food Through

Myths, Metaphors, and

Storytelling

[Image: Bride of the Sea by BuBug (Magdalena).]

The Smart Witch by Elizabeth

Classic The Smart Witch

Post from 10 February 2023

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