Here You Are

Just received. So very beautiful. ~ Peter Uppman ❤️🙏🏻

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There is so much more,

dear ones.

You have struggled and strained and have been through experiences in which you wish you never had. Ones that caused such pain and discombobulation within and without of your world as you know it to be.

It caused you to pull back at times because there was left within you, no strength to carry forth.

Because there were times in which you struggled to believe – in Self, in others, in love.

And yet, Here YOU are.

This amazing soul who has conquered the challenges with aplomb.

There were times when you doubted your own ability to understand why something or someone changed your belief in Self – through the pain, the degradation, those who turned away in anger or sorrow.

There were times in which you believed there to be no god, no deity who would understand.

Because how could such atrocities be allowed to occur, if indeed there was a loving creator who understood, who cared about You, about humanity, about love?

And yet, Here YOU are.

There were those who came to you with openness and understanding, and it caused your heart to embrace the very idea that perhaps you WERE something to behold, to treasure, to love.

That you were indeed worthy of more – more love, more understanding, more compassion, more peace, more truth.

And still, Here YOU are.

Laid bare for All to witness – your truth, your love, your Being. Has made such a difference for another. Not just that of Self.

Imagine yourself alone under a spotlight.

The rest of the world seems so distant from where you stand.

In blackness.

In pain.

In reflection, for you are reflecting back to those who do not as yet understand.

With every step you take your light infuses with the darkness, illuminating a little more of the path ahead.

With each step you take.

Releasing the pain and the sorrow and the feeling of unworthiness because you have the strength to carry forth, and bring your energy of truth and love for all to see.

This then illuminates All that is unseen.

There are those who may cower in the shadows, afraid of your light – your energy of love.

And those who welcome it with the kindness in which you offer them.

There are those who will retort in anger for having disturbed their slumber, for they are not as yet ready to awaken.

And yet, Here YOU are.

Shining like a beacon of love for all to embrace, if it is their will to do so.

Your belief in Self, and the light of love in which you emanate, has changed another so profoundly that they too, can witness this from within.

They too, share this light with yours.

They too, stand proudly for all to see. To feel. To embrace.

And yet, Here YOU are.

The beacon of love that once thought themselves so unworthy, so ineffectual, so purposeless.

YOU are everything, dear ones.

Each and every one of you hold the light of love within you, for all to see.

THIS is what makes a difference for another.

The love within You.

(Archangel Jophiel)

Christmas for the targeted parent

I know that a lot of you are not going to be with you child this Christmas. For some of you this will the first time you have this experience, for others you will have already been through this difficult period.

Whilst you cannot control the situation, you can control how you choose to respond.

Top tip # 1 – Keep yourself busy and try to make sure that you are with other people on Christmas Day and ideally other days as well.

Your X wants you to be feeling lonely and miserable, why do their job for them? If you are feeling sad and miserable, this will not impact what your children are doing. If you are managing to find comfort and even some happiness being with others, this will also not impact what your children are doing. It only impacts you!

Find some things that you want to do and which you have been denying yourself, such as treats or experiences. Book it and do it.

Push yourself to get out and do things, you will thank yourself later that you did.

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I personally know that x wants me to be low and emotional during this holiday season, and that just ain’t happening. It was not an unusual Xmas and I was home on my own…

X wishes me unalive , so grief filled that he can feed off that energy .

Once I accepted his shadow- demonic intentions, I just stayed intent and focused in my work/rest .

X as most Narcissists do, loves when I’m ill, and vulnerable , it consumes him , to seek revenge due to my silence .

I emailed x a plan to resolve the financial issues and business related problems mid month . No response .

I wrote our sons on the 25 th , wishing them a happy and safe holiday sharing my proposal email to x , which was generous given that he was illegal.

I’m sure he knows and is slinging some negative energy my way , though I have expressed that what he hexes me with is going coming back compounded to him.

He’s in control , no higher power , just him, his vendetta to shut me up and Divine has an accounting of all he has abused.

It’s his fate .

I know that a lot of you are not going to be with you child this Christmas. For some of you this will the first time you have this experience, for others you will have already been through this difficult period.

Whilst you cannot control the situation, you can control how you choose to respond.

Top tip # 1 – Keep yourself busy and try to make sure that you are with other people on Christmas Day and ideally other days as well.

Your X wants you to be feeling lonely and miserable, why do their job for them? If you are feeling sad and miserable, this will not impact what your children are doing. If you are managing to find comfort and even some happiness being with others, this will also not impact what your children are doing. It only impacts you!

Find some things that you want to do and which you have been denying yourself, such as treats or experiences. Book it and do it.

Push yourself to get out and do things, you will thank yourself later that you did.

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Own peace within :2024 an #8 year A Dragon year! #WeGotThis

Why do we start a new year, with promises to improve?

Who began this tradition of never-ending pressure?

I say, the end of a year, should be filled with congratulation, for all we survived.

And I say a new year should start with promises to be kinder to ourselves, to understand better just how much we bear, as humans on this exhausting treadmill of life.

And if we are to promise more, let’s pledge to rest, before our bodies force us.

Let’s pledge to stop, and drink in life as it happens.

Let’s pledge to strip away a layer of perfection to reveal the flawed and wondrous humanity we truly are inside.

Why start another year, gifted to us on this earth, with demands on our already over-strained humanity.

When we could be learning to accept, that we were always supposed to be imperfect.

And that is where the beauty lives, actually.

And if we can only find that beauty, we would also find peace.

I wish you peace in 2024.

Everything else is all just a part of it.

Let it be so.

Donna Ashworth

Art by the wonderful @catrin_welzstein Catrin Welz-Stein

My latest book ‘Wild Hope’

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#newyear #2024 #newyearnewme #resolutions

Forever young

“May God bless and keep you always

May your wishes all come true

May you always do for others

And let others do for you

May you build a ladder to the stars

And climb on every rung

May you stay forever young

May you grow up to be righteous

May you grow up to be true

May you always know the truth

And see the lights surrounding you

May you always be courageous

Stand upright and be strong

And may you stay forever young

May your hands always be busy

May your feet always be swift

May you have a strong foundation

When the winds of changes shift

May your heart always be joyful

May your song always be sung

And may you stay forever young.”

Photo in New York, by John Cohen (1962)

Joy chooses you💯

JOY CHOSE YOU

Joy does not arrive with a fanfare,

on a red carpet strewn with the flowers of a perfect life.

Joy sneaks in, as you pour a cup of coffee,

watching the sun hit your favourite tree, just right.

And you usher joy away,

because you are not ready for it.

Your house is not as it must be,

for such a distinguished guest.

But joy cares nothing for your messy home,

or your bank-balance,

or your waistline, you see.

Joy is supposed to slither through the cracks of your imperfect life,

that’s how joy works.

You cannot invite her, you can only be ready when she appears.

And hug her with meaning,

because in this very moment,

joy chose you.

Donna Ashworth

From ‘wild hope’

Art by Inge Löök Oy Ab

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Elders Remind us

15 REMINDERS FROM THE ELDERS:

1. Get up with the sun to pray. Pray alone.

2. Be tolerant of those who have lost their way. Ignorance, presumption, anger, jealousy and greed come from a lost soul. Pray for them to find guidance.

3. Find yourself, by your own means. Do not let others make your path for you. It is your path, and only yours. Others may walk with you, but no one can make your way (or walk your path) for you.

4. Treat guests in your home with great consideration. Serve them the best food, give them the best bed and treat them with respect and honor.

5. Do not take what is not yours, whether from a person, a community, from the jungle or from a culture. It was not given or won. It is not yours.

6. Respect all the things that are on this earth, be they people, plants and animals.

7. Honor the thoughts, desires and words of all people. Never break them in, or make fun of them, or imitate them rudely. It gives each person the right to their personal expression.

8. Never talk about others in a bad way. The negative energy you put into the universe will multiply when it returns to you.

9. All people make mistakes. And all the mistakes can be forgiven.

10. Bad thoughts cause illness to the mind, body and spirit. Practice optimism.

11. Nature is not FOR us. It is PART of us. She’s part of your family in the world.

12. Children are the seeds of our future. Sow love in your hearts and water them with wisdom and life lessons. When they grow up, just give them space to grow up.

13. Avoid hurting the hearts of others. The poison of their suffering will return to you.

14. Be true (transparent ) all the time. Honesty is the test of one’s will in this universe.

15. Keep yourself balanced. Your Mental person, your Spiritual person, your Emotional person, and your Physical person: they all have the need to be strong, pure and healthy.