My heart has been broken and again made whole. My heart has been wounded and healed again. A thousand deaths my heart has died, and thanks be to Love, it lives yet.
I went through hell and saw there Love’s raging fire, and I entered heaven illumined with the light of Love.
I bowed my head low in humility, and on my knees I begged of Love, “Disclose to me, O Love, your secret.”
She took me gently by my arms and lifted me above the earth, and spoke softly in my ear, “My dear one, you yourself are Love, are Lover, and you are the beloved whom you have adored.”
Someone can be madly in love with you and still not be ready. They can love you in a way you have never been loved and still not join you on the bridge. And whatever their reasons you must leave. Because you never ever have to inspire anyone to meet you on the bridge. You never ever have to convince someone to do the work to be ready. There is more extraordinary love, more love that you have never seen, out here in this wide and wild universe. And there is the love that will be ready. Nayyirah Waheed
My latest addition to my compassion toolbox. I have a new found appreciation for the masculine struggle. We live in a world where a concerted effort was made to replace the wild man with the savage man. Becoming civilized and christianized (I’m not talking about Jesus’ teachings. I’m talking about how it was manipulated to subjugate people), being told to blindly follow orders, to turn the other cheek, being told that in order to receive spiritual enlightenment one had to turn away from sensuality…. The women became evil temptresses…. Some men even castrated themselves. Over the years boys stopped seeing their fathers working a trade with their hands that would be handed down to them. They saw their fathers distantly, exhausted from having to comply and work to make someone else rich. As necessary as feminism was and still is, men were asked by women to tame themselves, but by other men to blindly follow orders, turning warriors into soldiers, making them capable of committing atrocities… but some fights are still worth fighting, yet it’s hard to tell which ones, and whatever you choose it can feel like damned if you do, damned if you don’t. We were all separated from our ancestors, deprived of important initiations. Men’s left(Feminine) sides withered. Women’s right(masculine) sides withered. I mean, regardless of gender we weren’t even allowed to hold a pen in our left hands! Men were ostracized for expressing feelings, necessary for them to make informed compassionate decisions that could actually protect and serve. Women were robbed of their ability to make decisions for themselves and became mere objects. This isn’t a man vs woman issue to me anymore. This is an US issue. Because we are all imbalanced and need to reclaim what we lost! But i will say that men still have the upper hand in making these long overdue changes, in standing up against the abuse of patriarchy, and they need help from the feminine to do this. Whatever issues you have with androgeny, gender fluidity, trans, my take is that it’s the necessary evolutionary response to what has become of us. I could go on but let me finish by saying that I SEE YOU AND LOVE YOU!!!
′′Let go the people who are not prepared to love you. This is the hardest thing you will have to do in your life and it will also be the most important thing. Stop having hard conversations with people who don’t want change. Stop showing up for people who have no interest in your presence. I know your instinct is to do everything to earn the appreciation of those around you, but it’s a boost that steals your time, energy, mental and physical health. When you begin to fight for a life with joy, interest and commitment, not everyone will be ready to follow you in this place. This doesn’t mean you need to change what you are, it means you should let go of the people who aren’t ready to accompany you.
If you are excluded, insulted, forgotten or ignored by the people you give your time to, you don’t do yourself a favor by continuing to offer your energy and your life. The truth is that you are not for everyone and not everyone is for you.
That’s what makes it so special when you meet people who reciprocate love. You will know how precious you are. The more time you spend trying to make yourself loved by someone who is unable to, the more time you waste depriving yourself of the possibility of this connection to someone else. There are billions of people on this planet and many of them will meet with you at your level of interest and commitment. The more you stay involved with people who use you as a pillow, a background option or a therapist for emotional healing, the longer you stay away from the community you want. Maybe if you stop showing up, you won’t be wanted. Maybe if you stop trying, the relationship will end. Maybe if you stop texting your phone will stay dark for weeks. That doesn’t mean you ruined the relationship, it means the only thing holding it back was the energy that only you gave to keep it. This is not love, it’s attachment. It’s wanting to give a chance to those who don’t deserve it. You deserve so much, there are people who should not be in your life.
The most valuable thing you have in your life is your time and energy, and both are limited. When you give your time and energy, it will define your existence. When you realize this, you begin to understand why you are so anxious when you spend time with people, in activities, places or situations that don’t suit you and shouldn’t be around you, your energy is stolen. You will begin to realize that the most important thing you can do for yourself and for everyone around you is to protect your energy more fiercely than anything else. Make your life a safe haven, in which only ′′compatible′′ people are allowed. You are not responsible for saving anyone. You are not responsible for convincing them to improve. It’s not your work to exist for people and give your life to them! If you feel bad, if you feel compelled, you will be the root of all your problems, fearing that they will not return the favours you have granted. It’s your only obligation to realize that you are the love of your destiny and accept the love you deserve.
Decide that you deserve true friendship, commitment, true and complete love with healthy and prosperous people. Then wait and see how much everything begins to change. Don’t waste time with people who are not worth it. Change will give you the love, the esteem, happiness and the protection you deserve.” ~ Brianna Wiest ~
I’m learning where my caring, loving responsibility for another person ends.
I’m ride or die. Unwavering. Loyal like a MF’er.
But I’m not going down on your sinking ship. I’m not pulling you from your depths. If you want to heal, you will and I’m here for it. But YOU have to do your own work. I can’t do it for you.
I will hold space and witness, my light a beacon to show you the way out of the storm and darkness. It’s up to you and your free will what direction you move in, or not. Stay if you must. I’m not coming in after you though.
Dating and relationships are much different now than they used to be. Now, we must be discerning and evaluate people before allowing them to be part of our life. Love at first sight is a thing of the past, thanks to this era of social media and peoples’ attention spans being the same as a goldfish (that’s actually been scientifically proven). So, what this means for us is that we can no longer go on two or three dates with someone and try to form an instant relationship or plan a future with someone we barely know. Or try to form a deep friendship with that coworker because we went to lunch with them a couple of times. We need boundaries and self-protection more than ever. Most of the people we meet are not compatible with what we want from our close relationships. Because we feel connected with someone after a few dates does not, in any way, mean that they feel the same way. Because you may be intimate with them does NOT mean they are planning a future with you or intend to be exclusive. Don’t go all in with someone you’ve seen a couple of times just because of the excitement and butterflies. Life is not a Disney movie…we need to be choosy about who we allow into our sacred space.
One of the most reliable indicators of a friendship’s longevity is something I call “Imperfection Tolerance.” That is, the friendships that are the most likely to last have an expansive and compassionate tolerance for each other’s imperfections. Instead of turning away from one another because they are imperfect, they turn toward one another. Instead of shunning each other, they accept each other — warts and all.
Quite often, friendships fall apart because there is an inequality in their “Imperfection Tolerance.” I have seen this time and time again. One person has no tolerance for their friend’s imperfect patterns, while simultaneously expecting all of theirs to be fully embraced. A sense of inequality sets in, as one friend feels entitled to complete acceptance, while never letting their friend off the hook. Better to identify these patterns early — it will save you lots of time, and disappointment. Equality of compassion is the root of most long lasting friendships.
We will all be feeling something magical in the air as the vibrant Full Moon in Leo, which is ruled by the Sun, occurs on the same day as an extremely rare and magical alignment between Mars and Venus – the ‘power couple’ of astrology.
This is the second celestial meeting of a triple conjunction for these two intensely loved-up planets, the first took place in July, 2021 and the third and final meeting of this phase will be on March 6, 2022.
Mars, the God of war, motivation, sex, determination and passion emanates masculine energy, while Venus, Goddess of love, beauty, attraction, romance, values, desire and creativity is the essence of feminine energy. The duo will be dancing together, moving close to one another, heating passions and causing sparks to fly, until early April.
This is a meeting of the divine masculine and divine feminine energies, so don’t be surprised if soul connections merge and suddenly become deeper and more harmonious over the next few weeks or if a new romance suddenly ignites. This can also be the balancing of the divine masculine and feminine energies within ourselves, so it is possible we could go through a huge internal recalibration and energy shift during this time.
As Mars is the God of War we may be feeling the need to gently go to war with ourselves, and confront anything we know is out of alignment, isn’t healthy or is not serving our highest good. We will be looking to the future and considering our long term happiness, aspirations and commitments. This will be a time for fully recognising where we need to make change and to understand that the comfort zones we have created may not actually feel that comfortable in reality.
We will also be realising how we have often valued others far higher than we have valued ourselves and put in far more effort than we have received back. Reciprocation is essential for healthy relationships, and sometimes we have to take a step back in our dynamics so that we make space to receive and at other times we have to make a move forward to give more and fight for what we love and desire. This energy will help us recognise where some relationships thrive with ebb and flow in natural synchrony, with an intuitive knowing of when to give and when to receive without force, and also where we have no option but to distance and give way.
The moon in Leo compliments Venus & Mars’ sensual energies perfectly, as Leo also radiates compassion, creativity, pleasure, love, fearlessness, strength and romance.
Leos prefer to express themselves from the heart and speak without filter, remaining true to their authentic selves. Therefore, this is a time to embody the lion-heart energy and to feel proud of our emotions and feelings and ability to communicate openly and vulnerably. It also encourages us to let people know what they mean to us, rather than allowing foolish pride to hold us back and withholding how we feel.
The shadow side to this cosmic energy is that we may be feeling unappreciated, with the need to externally seek attention and approval, and our emotions could become so intense we may even be a little reactive and on the dramatic side. We can overcome this by indulging in essential self-care to remind ourselves how valuable, worthy and precious we are and to reaffirm that we can find all the validation and love we need internally.
Leo energy illuminates the mixed feelings we have between wanting to courageously declare what we would like to manifest in our lives, and tripping over our ego because our lion-esque pride gets in the way – mainly due to the fear of rejection. We may feel pulled between doing what the mind thinks it wants and what the heart deeply craves. We will also become aware of how we are often be held back by outdated beliefs of how we are expected to show up in the world, rather than expressing ourselves freely, completely and uniquely.
While we might feel compelled to proclaim our desires and needs, we may also find there’s a self-sabotaging voice in our head that wants us to avoid deep and intimate connection that could make us feel vulnerable and emotionally exposed. We may notice our mind often tricks us into believing we aren’t good enough and we can easily jump to the wrong conclusions, reaffirming false, limiting beliefs we hold about ourselves. This is the voice that prefers us to remain in our ‘often uncomfortable’ comfort zone, where familiarity feels safe.
Despite the fact we might momentarily feel apprehensive, and possibly self-conscious, the recent Venus retrograde will have left us fully in our glow up, as it helped us feel empowered, confident, worthy and with new awareness that we deserve far more than what we have been previously settled for. It is likely we will experience major breakthroughs with our self-esteem and self-confidence, and be ready to lead from our heart centre and share our innermost emotions during this Full Moon.
We will be facing our fears and courageously making a committed effort to show those we care about what they mean to us, and to speak more openly about what has long been playing on our minds. If we have been hiding our true emotions, we will find it almost impossible to deny how we feel, and between now and March 6th we will all be feeling the need to break open and finally speak our raw truth.
We may feel an overwhelming desire to alter aspects of our lives, and fortunately we will be feeling magnetic, charismatic, and with the ability to effortlessly and almost instantly attract whatever, or whoever, is in alignment. The intentions we have been setting, particularly regarding our closest relationships, are about to become a reality, so expect epiphanies, new insights and even sudden revelations that could deliver the change we have been hoping and waiting for.
Leo’s positive and high vibrational energy will help us boldly manifest our creative goals and turn hobbies and interests into careers that we feel passionate about and proud of. Our imagination will be running wild, and we will feel far more motivated, innovative, driven and inspired than we have in a long time. As there are currently no planets retrograde, this is a phase of forward moving energy, and it is the optimum time to take productive steps towards making our wildest creative dreams become a reality.
The Moon also squares the north and south nodes, Taurus and Scorpio, relating to the journey we have taken so far and where our destined path is heading. This means that whatever is predestined for our future could become clearly visible during this Full Moon, and we get an extremely rare glimpse into what the future holds. It could also mean we receive unexpected news or a new opportunity to alter our lives and receive abundance in ways we may have only previously dreamt about.
The Full Moon rises between Leo’s brightest stars, Algieba and Regulus, and they will both be visible on either side of the moon. This cosmic energy brings magical energy, so make a wish on the evening of this Full Moon, and be open to extraordinary blessings and an abundance of miracles.
Sex must be a part of your spiritual life, it must be something sacred. Sex must be something that is neither obscene, nor pornographic, nor condemned, nor repressed, but immensely respected; because we are born out of it. This is our life force. And to condemn life force is to condemn everything.
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