Tag: relationships
When you treat the Narcissist the way they treat you..
I’m sure as a medicated, highly toxic , extremely unhealthy I tried to reciprocate his behavior .
I didn’t even come close
Love Bombing – In the Beginning .. this was eye opening
In love but quickly out … yeah
How does a Narcissist punish you ?
All that he says, and more ..
How a narcissistic shows love ?
I accepted that I disappointed him with my pregnancy 3 months after we wed.
But in listening I recall his ego , and note he never really did engage .
My car went down a bank, and I called him..” call a tow truck “.
He wasn’t a note write, hugger, or gift giver ..
I had to ask repeatedly for things .
Nope it wasn’t something that triggered these with holding traits .
I have NO idea why he married me and held so many secrets and with held affection, just skimming the surface .
How Narcissists Hide their Affairs
He spoke of his stuff, as if it were a friend .. He liked to share his experience without implying it was himself .
He spoke of other women in our bed .
He want to “swing ” even in our own home with our children upstairs .
Be ready to roll; wife plans for separation
Make certain that you get the appropriate legal advice for your state. It’s very important to have money put aside, however, it can still be confiscated/account frozen even if it’s in just your name. Put aside cash in a very unsuspecting place and with a trusted friend. Never put all of your “eggs” in one basket. Money won’t buy you happiness, but it may be very necessary to have access to it for legal, housing, food and/or other expenses if you go into a legal battle. I was able to get situated with a divorce lawyer under the radar because I had my own bank account in addition to our joint account, AND I took money out of my own account over time to have cash to pay a lawyer. The lawyer refused to take the cash, so I opened up an account… wrote the attorney a check for the full amount and then closed out the account. It’s not being sneaky – it’s protecting yourself and your children. Every safety net helps.
Sons Raised by Emotionally unavailable mothers
Adult Survivors of Child Psychological Abuse
“Through my own healing I’ve learned that “bad behavior“ of a child in a toxic family system is more than likely a healthy, natural reaction to antagonistic emotional games. Unfortunately, when you were a child there was no way for you to conceptualize this. In toxic family systems, emotional games are used in lieu of the time, love, attention, parenting, or bonding required to make children feel healthy and secure. Because of this deep insecurity, you leave childhood inexperienced in love, highly experienced in fear, and feeling deeply ashamed of who you are, with no understanding as to why. It is essential to understand the whys of the person you have become.
Healing core wounds starts with your efforts to rewire the way you think and feel about yourself.
Deprogramming psychological abuse is a critical step in your healing. Brush past this step, and the lies you have been told about who you are will continue to hold you hostage to your feelings of insecurity long after you have separated from your abusers. Deprogramming involves unpacking the trauma that created your core wounds. You must identify your abusers and examine the lies that they programmed you to believe about yourself so you can start telling yourself a more honest narrative.” – Sherrie Campbell, PhD
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