I showed up for people when I was tired.
I showed up for people when I was broke.
I showed up for people when I was hurt.
I showed up for people when I needed someone to show up for me.
I showed up for people that I knew wouldn’t show up for me if the tables were turned.
THAT is why I will never water down or apologize for the season of life I’m in now!
You don’t know the half of what it took to get here.
~ Unknown
~ ‘…in the dooryard bloomed’ by Jeanie Tomanek
Nietzsche once remarked that marriage is a conversation, a long dialogue. If a person is not ready to engage in such a prolonged dialogue, they are not ready for long-term close relationships. Many long-married couples have long since exhausted all topics of conversation because each spouse has stopped developing their individuality.
By focusing on individual growth, we each gain an interesting conversation partner. To halt one’s own development, even in the interest of another person, means admitting that your spouse will have to live with someone who feels anger and suffers from depression. Such marital relationships need to be radically reconsidered, or they will simply lose their meaning.
— James Hollis, The Middle Passage
Love doesn’t always come packaged in the neat, predictable ways you might expect. It doesn’t come with a warning or an instruction manual. It arrives as a soft whisper when you’re barely listening or as a storm just when you thought you had shelter. Love finds you at your most unguarded, slipping into your life through the cracks of your everyday routine, often when you’re too busy or afraid to notice. It has a divine purpose, wrapped in the mystery of timing and circumstance. And when it finally enters your world, it’s never about perfect timing—it’s about perfect alignment.
The one who stands before you now, who has knocked at the door of your heart, will not be flawless. Like you, they will come with stories, scars, and complexities. They may arrive when your hands are full, your life tangled in responsibilities and dreams not yet realized. Love’s arrival might even feel like an inconvenience, as if the universe dared to test your limits by sending someone when you thought you couldn’t handle more. But your soul recognizes them. In that quiet place deep within, there’s a knowing that defies logic—a spark that dances just beneath the chaos, whispering that this, all of this, is meant to be.
Together, you will face the obstacles that life always throws in the path of the brave and the vulnerable. You will confront doubts and fears, both your own and each other’s. Sometimes, your mind will rebel, reasoning with sharp certainty that this cannot work or that it’s too hard or messy. But love, true love, is not for the faint-hearted. It is forged in the fires of persistence and faith. How you navigate these storms, choose to stay or run, forgive or hold on to anger—these choices will shape the foundation of your love story. And despite the odds and weariness of the journey, remember this: love is enough. It always has been, and it always will be. Its roots run deeper than the toughest soil and will find a way to bloom even through the hardest droughts.
Because love doesn’t make mistakes. It doesn’t arrive uninvited or by accident. If your soul has called someone into your life, it is because your heart and theirs were meant to meet, learn, grow, and mirror the divine unfolding of each other’s journey. Perhaps, in the grand dance of the cosmos, your connection is not simply about romance but about awakening—about challenging each other to evolve to become the fullest versions of yourselves. And if you dare to listen—to truly listen—to your heart’s quiet guidance, this could be the beginning of something that transcends the mundane, something that forever shifts the axis of your world.
In the end, love is not just a feeling; it is a call to rise, to see beyond the surface of what is, and to touch the sacred fabric of what could be. The voice says, even in the darkness, that you are not alone, that there is a reason you are here, right now, with this person. And though the path may twist and turn and the hurdles may seem insurmountable, love is the light that will lead you both home. To each other. To the truth of who you are. To the exquisite beauty of a soul-deep connection that, once found, cannot be forgotten.
Katie Kamara
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THIS IS FOR ANYONE WHO HAS SUFFERED FROM AN ABUSIVE AND NARCISSISTIC RELATIONSHIP!
I know you went through all of it:
The pain.
The fights.
The screaming.
The gaslighting.
The guilt-tripping.
The threats.
The manipulations.
The emotional abuse.
The trauma.
The affairs.
Even worse, the physical abuse.
You called it love but the person who put you through this made you believe you’re being delusional. They made you think you’re the problem and that it’s your fault why the relationship failed.
You begged for them to stay.
You sent long texts and called a hundred times — but they never answered.
You had to throw away your dignity because you’d rather lose yourself than lose someone you love.
You cried for weeks and months, but there’s nothing else you could do to change what happened.
You went through hell but they just don’t care at all.
I hear you. I see you. I know how it felt because I’ve been there.
I want to remind you that this pain will not last forever. You didn’t do anything wrong for demanding to be treated right. They’re just not meant for you.
I swear that someday, you will heal, my love.
Please don’t blame yourself for loving deeper than the pain they gave you.
You are worth it and that will never change even after everything you’ve been through.
Please remember these words all too well.
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The intentional deceits, continued indiscretions, many known by friends and family who remained silent and or just disappeared.
I’m at peace with not being connected to anyone who doesn’t authentically want to connect with me deeply . That’s a place for one , no thirds , no left overs , no more imbalanced relationships .
One day you will realize that the same person is not found twice in life. Not everyone is replaceable. Be careful who you hurt.
In this fast-paced, ever-evolving world, we often take relationships for granted. We live in a culture that promotes moving on quickly, finding something or someone new to fill the void. But there comes a moment, often when it’s too late, that you realize certain people are irreplaceable. The unique essence they bring to your life, the way they understand your soul, and the connection you share cannot be duplicated. No matter how many new faces you meet, the bond you had with that one special person—be it a friend, a partner, or even a mentor—was singular. And losing that connection leaves an imprint that no one else can fill. It’s only when they’re gone that the weight of their absence truly sinks in, and the harsh truth hits: the same person does not come twice in a lifetime.
We often hurt those closest to us without fully realizing the magnitude of the damage. In moments of frustration, anger, or pride, we say things, do things, or fail to do things that cut deeply into the hearts of those who care about us. And we assume that apologies, time, or distance will heal everything, that life will go on, and there will always be another chance to make things right. But what if there isn’t? What if the person you hurt is the one whose presence you’ll never be able to replace? The one whose laughter, whose love, whose companionship was meant to walk with you through life’s trials and joys? The truth is, not everyone is replaceable. Some souls touch ours in ways that forever change us, and to lose them is to lose a piece of ourselves.
Be careful who you hurt.
There’s a reason this warning feels so profound. Hurting someone isn’t just about breaking trust or causing momentary pain; it’s about altering the course of a relationship that may never recover. And while we often think we have time to mend what’s broken, the reality is that sometimes, we don’t. Time doesn’t always heal; sometimes, it only widens the gap between two hearts that once beat in sync. The wounds we inflict in moments of carelessness or neglect can run deeper than we imagine. Words said in haste or actions taken in selfishness have a way of echoing in the minds of those we hurt, long after the moment has passed.
Not everyone will give you another chance. Not everyone will be there waiting for you to come to your senses, to apologize, to grow. Some people, once they’ve been hurt, once they feel betrayed or unloved, will quietly walk away. And when you realize what you’ve lost, it will be too late. The space they occupied in your life will remain, but their presence, their light, their love, will be gone. You’ll search for them in others, but you’ll never find the same soul, the same connection, the same magic.
So, be mindful of your words. Be intentional with your actions. Recognize the people who truly matter in your life and treat them with the care they deserve. Love them fully while they’re still within your reach, because one day, you may realize just how rare they are—and by then, they might be gone. Life is fleeting, and relationships are fragile. Don’t let pride, ego, or carelessness ruin something beautiful.
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The greatest gift anyone could give anyone is for the other to feel worthy, adored and more than enough for all that they are.
This is a gentle reminder that the people you surround yourself with in every direction should feel both uplifting and safe to your mind and heart.
Not confusing, not draining, not controlling, not vague, not calculating, not unreliable, not cold, not dismissive, and not manipulative.
Don’t mess around with the energy you take into your body and being, work wise, friendship wise, and relationship wise.
Life is too short and delicate for these damaging things.
It’s really that simple ..
Victoria Erickson 💫
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You chose to let me go,
Ignoring my needs, disregarding my soul.
Your actions spoke louder than words,
Leaving me no choice but to distance and heal.
Don’t come crawling back,
With regretful tears and sorrowful sighs.
You can’t miss what you didn’t value,
What you carelessly discarded, like a fading light.
You’re not entitled to my presence,
After tearing our connection, leaving only silence.
You can’t long for what you broke,
What you shattered, leaving my heart to ache.
Your choices had consequences,
Leaving me no option but to move on.
I won’t be your convenience,
Your emotional crutch, your safety net gone.
Respect my boundaries,
Let me heal without your guilt.
You had your chance,
But chose to let me go, into the night.
I’m moving forward,
Leaving the past, where you’ll remain.
Memories fade,
And I won’t look back.
I’ve found my strength,
My voice, my way.
You’re just a memory,
Fading away.
Closure is mine,
This is goodbye.
A chapter closed,
A new life to apply.
By~ 𝓙𝓸𝓾𝓻𝓷𝓮𝔂 𝓸𝓯 𝓛𝓲𝓯𝓮
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“One of my philosophy professors lectured wildly about love once, yelling: ‘When you’re in love with someone, that person is the lighthouse of your universe.’ (I scrawled it inside Science and Poetry in pencil-lighthouse of your universe-as if I would ever forget that phrase.) He was a delightful caricature of his position. I could swear he literally tore his hair out while howling at us. He went on, ‘Nothing means as much without that person. One of the men in the class repeated, incredulous, half-laughing, ‘So you’re saying you can’t enjoy, like, a vacation, without someone if you’re really in love with them?’ ‘Of course not,’ the professor replied. ‘Not completely. You recognize beauty, but beauty means less if they don’t witness it with you. Beauty is less. You see something sublime and your first thought is that they should be there with you. It’s not as good without them. They illuminate. They make everything more.”
Deciding to leave a relationship or marriage is a deeply personal and often challenging choice. Here are key indicators that may suggest it’s time to consider ending the relationship:
**Immediate Deal-Breakers:**
– Any form of physical or emotional abuse.
– Infidelity without a willingness to address or resolve the issue.
– Substance abuse issues without an effort to seek help.
– Experiences of neglect or abandonment.
– Severe financial exploitation.
**Red Flags:**
– Ongoing dishonesty or manipulation.
– Emotional detachment or unavailability.
– Poor communication and conflict resolution skills.
– Disrespectful behavior or contempt.
– Refusal to address issues or seek assistance.
**Long-Term Signs:**
– Continual feelings of unhappiness or resentment.
– Absence of intimacy or emotional connection.
– A toxic or unfulfilling relationship dynamic.
– A sense of feeling trapped or suffocated.
– Lack of growth or progress in the relationship.
**Personal Indicators:**
– Emotional exhaustion or feeling drained.
– Loss of personal identity or autonomy.
– Persistent unhappiness or lack of fulfillment.
– Unsuccessful attempts to resolve issues.
– Feelings of unsafety or lack of support.
**Marriage-Specific Signs:**
– Irreconcilable differences.
– Diverging values or life goals.
– Absence of mutual respect or trust.
– Chronic conflict or frequent arguments.
– Living as roommates rather than partners.
**When to Leave:**
– If your well-being is at risk.
– After unsuccessful attempts at counseling.
– If boundaries have been set without any change.
– When you feel emotionally detached.
– Upon realizing you deserve a healthier relationship.
**Before Leaving:**
– Consider seeking professional counseling.
– Openly communicate your concerns with your partner.
– Establish and communicate clear boundaries.
– Assess your emotional readiness for such a decision.
– Think about a trial separation as an option.
**After Leaving:**
– Focus on self-care and healing.
– Seek support from friends, family, or a therapist.
– Prioritize personal growth and development.
– Rebuild your sense of identity.
– Reflect on the relationship and learn from the experience.
Making this decision requires careful consideration of your circumstances and well-being.
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