Tag: parents

Child Psychological Abuse – Trust

When the fog starts to lift for an alienated child, a whole new level of hell emerges.

The alienating parent who has put so much time and effort into brainwashing, bullying, guilting and coercing their child to their side will hyper focus their wrath on the very child they claim to covet.

Like someone flipped a switch, they will withdraw their conditional love for good.

Equivalent to their ex partner, once they lose the control they so desperately desire, they will cast their child aside.

The perceived betrayal of their child seeing through the vail of delusion will draw out their real face, fangs and all.

The utter disbelief that “their” child would actually question their motives and methods is too much to take. After all, nobody can call out a narcissist. Nobody.

The flood of emotions for this child is immense. The grief and anger for all of the time lost with a parent they were convinced didn’t love them.

The disbelief that someone they love and trusted with their whole heart would take so much advantage of their naïve nature and blind loyalty to punish their other parent and use them as a vessel of vengeance.

Crushed by all the instances they were callously told their other parent “doesn’t love you”, or that their other parent “abandoned” them.

All of the efforts put into convincing them their other parent was dangerous.

All of the silent treatment when they didn’t comply and withdrawn “love” that washed them with severe anxiety when they thought they might lose the love of “the only parent who TRULY loves them”.

So begins phase two- when they nervously seek out their alienated parent they do so knowing they’ll lose the alienator.

After all, they’ve spent their childhood thinking one parent didn’t love them, and didn’t want them based solely on the word and actions of their alienating parent.

They were encouraged to reject that parent with impunity and they participated wholeheartedly all based on falsehoods.

In accepting their lost parent they will potentially spend the remainder of their life, again, without a parent.

It’s literally heartbreaking. I will never be able to wrap my head around being so cruel to your very heart and soul.

Navigating Estrangement

The flow of natural love is destroyed by the parent who creates the Child Psychological Abuse , targeting the other parent , just for the win . The parent who is not interested in truths , only the shadow of deception, and destruction , ignoring the healthiest , the healing that is liberating .

I do feel I have taken responsibility, and I have been challenged many ways , for this closure to become a reality . Of course the most difficult challenge has been the continuing blame that affects our children from their Dad , who dodges truth and responsibility his whole life .

youtube.com/watch

How to handle disrespect from an adult alienated child

So many ways , and yes I was rude . Knowing what it was early on, might have helped . However being drugged by psychiatry had side effects that interfered with my grasping the nuance of our children’s needs to a great extent .

I wasn’t aware of their day to day , they began to avoid me, which grew into shunning me , blaming me for everything .

I cannot and will not accept that from anyone . They don’t want to heal via truths or contact , which they let me know constantly .

Lots of my experience is discussed here:

youtube.com/watch

Charlie Mc Cready- 22 Million Parents are targeted by Parental Alienation

According to social psychologist Jennifer Harman and her co-authors, about 22 million American parents have been the victims of behaviours that lead to parental alienation, and she urges psychological, legal and child custodial disciplines to recognise it as a form of both child abuse and intimate partner violence. ⁠

⁠

Parental alienation disrupts family dynamics and has severe psychological implications for both parents and children. The alienating behaviours perpetrated by one parental figure against the other lead to a psychological condition known as parental alienation (PA). In PA, the child aligns strongly with the alienating parent and rejects the relationship with the alienated parent without any legitimate justification. Researchers have identified thousands of alienating behaviours, which have been classified as a serious form of family violence, causing harm to both children and the targeted parent.⁠

⁠

Recent polls have revealed that parents who feel alienated from their children are more prevalent than previously estimated. Notably, 6.7% of the alienated parents identified in the aforementioned poll had children who were moderately to severely alienated, affecting at least 1.3% of the entire U.S. population. The prevalence of parental alienation, though challenging to estimate due to the need for comprehensive family history assessments, clearly indicates that the issue is widespread and warrants attention from researchers and practitioners. These statistics underscore the urgency of addressing this issue, developing effective interventions, and supporting families to prevent and mitigate the devastating effects of parental alienation.⁠

⁠

I agree with this quote from Harman: She says: “We have to stop denying this exists … You have to treat an alienated parent like an abused person. You have to treat the child like an abused child. You take the child out of that abusive environment. You get treatment for the abusive parent, and you put the child in a safe environment — the healthier parent.”⁠

#charliemccready #9stepprogram #alienatedchild #alienatedmother #alienatedparent #alienatedfather #rejectedparent #rejectedfather #rejectedmother #highconflictcoparenting #coparenting #coparentingwithanarcissist #coparenting #highconflictdivorce #divorce #childabuse #narcissisticabuseawareness #narcissisticabuserecovery #narcissism #narcissisticabusesurvivor #narcissisticparent #narcissisticpersonalitydisorder #narcissisticchildabuse #narcissist

Parents Let Your Daughters ..

“Parents, let your daughters grow up to be horse girls, because they will learn quickly and repeatedly that life isn’t fair, that hard work is often trumped by Lady Luck, and that every defeat, no matter how terrible, is temporary. Let them dream big and kick on. Let them learn confidence, grace and grit. Let them build big muscles and strong backs.

Let your daughters grow up in the barn. Let them learn that buckets need filling and stalls need cleaning, even when it’s raining, even when it’s frozen, even when they have a different idea for how the day should go.

Let them set goals and reach them. Let them set goals and fail miserably. Let them learn that, if they work incredibly hard, practice like hell, ride the best quality horse they can and take impeccable care of him, they’re sometimes going to get beat by someone with 10 times the money and one tenth the drive.

Teach them to drive trucks and trailers and ATVs. Teach them to change tires and wrap legs and give shots. And let them leave a spur mark, or a bit rub, or a bandage bow, and let them deal with the shame of causing pain to an animal they love.

Let them grow up with horses and with good horse people, because it will teach them to be humble, and to be resilient, and to be brave.”

Article credit Lauren Sprieser @laurensprieserdressage http://www.chronofhorse.com/article/let-your-daughters-grow-up-to-be-horse-girls

Wild Oats Photography