Tag: Parental Alienation

Narcissist Relationships

When you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, there will always be another secret life going on behind your back.

This is because these people are very empty, and they need stimulation from multiple sources just to face existence. They’ll be doing drugs or pornography. They’ll be stringing multiple partners through flirting and emotional affairs. They will be chasing financial intrigue that occasionally gets them into scams and trouble.

The reason they must flirt with other people is also because they’re seeking to move on to other people who don’t know the games they play.

They know they’ll get bored with you eventually, or you’ll learn to resist their shenanigans. And since being alone would kill them, they begin to groom possible replacements among anyone whom they can charm.

You’ll also notice this habit of making promises to you and then using those promises as a dangling carrot to get compliance from you. If you don’t do what they want, they’ll withdraw the promise.

Sometimes, they’ll deny having promised at all, or they postpone it until you give up. The truth is that they never intended to fulfill it in the first place.

Narcissists have lost all sense of right and wrong. Everything is about satisfying themselves.

When you finally leave, they’ll circle back to you, pretending to be checking on you when actually they’re checking if they still have access.

If you have a child with them, they would weaponise that child to torture you until you cut them off totally or you manage to enforce boundaries with the help of the law.

But the child will be scarred or wasted by the counter parenting and objectification from the narcissist.

Society knows very little about narcissists.

Sometimes, you stay because you fear the pain of letting go until you realize the pain you’re already taking for holding on.

Other times, you think you’re staying for the children until you realize that the narcissist is turning all of them into other small narcissists and broken empaths.

Your solution is to recognize that this person is incapable of peace. They’re only excellent at pretending and confusing you.

You will never have a life until you detach from them and direct your life towards wholeness and emotional stability.

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Craig Childress PsyD – Case Manager

Hey – hey – hey – have I got news for you.

The forensic psychologists – Drs. Deutsch & Pruett – are recommending a Case Manager to oversee family treatment – as a liaison role between the family therapist and the Court.

See – here’s their chart. They put the Case Manager in a connecting liaison role with the Parenting Coordinator, the Family Therapist, the Attorneys, and the Court.

See that? The only people the Case Manager doesn’t connect to is the litigant parents (who are being treated by the family therapist).

I could do that.

That’s the perfect role for me, don’t you think? If someone suggests a Case Manager – say okay and propose me.

I’ll make sure the child and family receive a high-quality assessment that accurately diagnoses the pathology in the family 100% of the time with effective treatment fully resolving the diagnosed problem in six months.

I can do that.

I’m a clinical psychologist – I know about treatment – I’m a clinical psychologist, and I know what diagnosis guides treatment. I know how to do that – diagnose and treat pathology – I can work with the involved professionals and make sure that happens.

Isn’t that interesting? I think so. I have another model actually, based on a standard healthcare model of second-opinion consultation.

I don’t think we need a Case Manager ($$$) or a Parenting Coordinator ($$$), and the Attorneys hardly at all hopefully ($$$).

We need to stop adding people to the parent’s payroll.

I think Dr. Deutsch and her friends want to be Case Managers who don’t actually do anything except tell other people how to not do anything too.

But hey, if somebody wants a Case Manager – I’ve lead treatment teams with CPS involvement. I can organize a treatment team and make sure the Court gets accurate information (and effective treatment) from the mental health services.

I can do that.

Hey… do you know what we should do? Debate the two structures. The AFCC can host an online Debate:

Debate: Forensic vs Clinical Intervention Structures

Clinical Intervention Structure: Dr. Childress

Forensic Intervention Structure: Dr. Deutsch

That’d be fun.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical Psychologist

WA 61538481

OR 4392 – CA 18857

Weaponized Children waken

As an alienated child grows older and gains more independence, they may begin to have a deeper understanding of the manipulation and coercion they experienced. They may start to realise that they were used as a weapon to reject a parent they once loved and who loved them unconditionally. This realisation can evoke a wide range of emotions, including betrayal, anger, confusion, and sadness.

The alienated child may feel betrayed because they were led to believe hurtful and false narratives about the targeted parent, causing them to say and do things that they now recognise were unjust and harmful. They may feel guilty and regret their actions, and have different ways of dealing with this.

As they mature and gain a broader perspective, some alienated children may try to see both sides of the story rather than solely aligning with the aggressive alienating parent. They may feel a longing to reconnect with the rejected parent and seek understanding and reconciliation. However, the process of navigating these complex emotions can be challenging, as they may still harbour feelings of anger and resentment towards the alienating parent. They may also have to work hard to ‘deprogramme’ as if detoxing from years of poisonous narratives.

Ultimately, each alienated child’s experience and feelings may vary based on their unique circumstances and individual resilience. Some may choose to distance themselves from the alienating parent, on realising the toxicity of the relationship, while others may strive to establish a healthier connection, aiming for personal growth and healing. The journey towards finding peace and restoring the parent-child relationship can be a difficult and multifaceted one, requiring support, therapy, and a commitment to self-reflection and understanding.

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Alienated Children & their awareness

Our 3 resist awareness or healing

As they grow older and gain more life experience, the alienated child may start to question the narrative that has been imposed upon them and realise the manipulation and control tactics employed by one of their parents (typically it’s a parent). They may become aware of the discrepancies between the image of the targeted parent presented by the alienating parent and the reality they observe themselves. This is why it’s so important we do all we can to remain non-reactive, calm, loving … as I cover in many of my posts.

This realisation can be a gradual process, sparked by various factors such as interactions with the targeted parent, exposure to different perspectives, or their own inner reflection. As the child starts to critically analyze the situation, they may begin to see the patterns of emotional manipulation, denigration, and falsehoods employed by the alienating parent. They may recognise the parent’s ulterior motives, such as jealousy, vengeance, or a desire for control.

Becoming aware of the disordered parenting of the alienating parent can be a transformative and emotionally challenging experience for the child. It may evoke a range of emotions, including anger, confusion, and a deep sense of betrayal. However, this awareness can also be a catalyst for personal growth and healing as the child begins to reclaim their own voice and establish their own identity independent of the alienating parent’s influence. It opens the door to the possibility of reconnecting with the targeted parent and developing healthier relationships based on truth, understanding, and mutual respect.

Hold on, my friends. Stay strong. Stay loving. Strive to be happy.

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Judicial Bias – Craig Childress PsyD

Enter Player 2.

I spend over an hour talking with Melanie this morning. We’re on different over-lines and exactly the same under-lines.

The over-lines are glacial. The under-lines are in ludicrous speed. Wheee, hold on.

Melanie is Public Police – and she’s going Political Science. That is an entirely different line from a clinical psychologist.., yet we are fully entangled. When one spins-up, magically so does the other. When one spins-down, magically so does the other.

Spooky action at a distance.

Melanie saw the patterns a long time ago – once you see the patterns, you see the “tells” on the pathology – the signs that the pathogen is in that person’s brain.

I watched as she played with the pathogen when it signaled its presence on my Facebook page. She’s gotten better. Now… she’s doing a Mental Status Exam of thought and perception on it.

She’s collapsing the delusion into its dissociative core. Oh my. It’s relatively easy once you see the patterns. You set it up. It doesn’t think – it lacks linear-logical reasoning… it’s a thought disorder.

If you remain immensely linear and logical… you’ll pop it out – *pop* – oh… high there delusion, nice to meet you.

We don’t diagnose delusions based on History… we pop the delusion right out in front of us during the session – and we cal turn it this way and that. We can even rate it on a 7-point scale called the Brief Psychiatric Rating Scale item 11 Unusual Thought Content.

Social Constructions… uh-oh pathogen-people… in clinical psychology Social Construction is an entire School of psychotherapy like psychoanalytic, CBT, or family systems.

The Social Construction therapies include Solution-Focused (Berg) and Narrative (White). They are immensely powerful. I use them all the time… without your knowledge that I’m using them. Hee-hee-hee, I do things you don’t see.

Melanie’s in the world of Social Construction. Uh-oh for you pathogen-people. Judicial Bias? That is an entirely different line than the one I’m on… on the over-line. It is spot-on the same under-line, and it’s the under-line that is moving.

Soon… the under-line will explode into the over-line and the world changes immediately as if from nowhere. It’s called a paradigm shift. I may be dead… but its coming.

I should “Interview” Melanie. I could be like Joe Rogan interviewing topical people of the day. I should learn how to do that on my video platform.

Hey Melanie… I want to Interview you on Judicial Bias in the Child Custody Decisions. We can present three to five slides and talk about them.

She’s a rock star. She’s tough. She’s been battling the pathogen a long time as it attacks in a variety of ways… and she’s turned it. She caught it and she’s turned it.

Excellently done. She’s going one way. I’m going another. it is exactly the same under-line. One spins up, the other spins up. One spins down, the other spins down. The lines are entirely entangled.

Craig Childress, Psy.D.

Clinical P;sychologist,

WA 61538481

OR 4392 – CA 18857

Mental Health in Parental Alienation- Charlie Mc Cready

Psychiatric evaluations can offer benefits by providing an objective and professional assessment of a person’s mental health, including any disorders or conditions that may affect their behaviour or functioning within a family setting. This information can inform court decisions regarding child custody, visitation, and other family arrangements.

However, there are potential drawbacks to consider. Evaluations may be subjective, leading to different conclusions from different evaluators. They can also be costly, time-consuming, and may not always yield clear or actionable recommendations.

One concern is the potential emotional stress and charged atmosphere that evaluations can create, particularly in custody disputes or contentious family matters. Mental health professionals must approach evaluations sensitively and ethically, prioritising the well-being of all parties involved.

It’s also important to note that evaluations rely on the information provided and the cooperation of all parties, which can be challenging if an alienating parent manipulates or deceives the assessment process. Additionally, evaluations are most effective when conducted by professionals experienced in parental alienation.

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Common Sequence that leads to Estrangement

For me , they were distant , marriage then children brought out the primal energy and the competition, drama , control were too unhealthy to continue .

One of the most intractable problems that can lead to estrangement: sons-in-law and daughters-in-law.

The sequence above is surprisingly common in my experience, which is why I tackle it in my book, Rules of Estrangement, by asking questions like…

👉 Why does the adult child sometimes cut everyone off?

👉 What’s in it for him or her to estrange?

👉 Is there any hope for the son-in-law or daughter-in-law—can they be changed?

👉 How should a parent understand them?

Pick up your copy to learn more about it: https://www.amazon.com/Rules-Estrangement-Adult-Children-Conflict/dp/0593136861

Contact Refusal / PA – Charlie McCready

It may start with what seems like innocent enough excuses: Uncle Bulgaria is over for the weekend and we’ve not seen him in years, so we’ll have to skip this weekend. And yet there’s no effort to make up your lost time. Maybe there’s a school rehearsal: they can’t miss it. And yet there’s not a reason given as to why they can’t do that from your house or a discussion about possible solutions. All the excuses mount up and it becomes obvious that everyone and everything else takes priority over your child spending time with you. If and when you get ‘given’ the time, it may well be, with all the excuses under the sun, sabotaged, shortened, or overshadowed.

Another issue that when ‘allowed’ time with your child, alienating tactics may include constant text messages or phone calls which make the child feel guilty, angry, upset. They might be told how much more fun they’d be having if they didn’t ‘have to’ be with you. The child will get the impression, loud and clear, that it’s a nuisance for them, and annoying for their ‘good’ parent whenever they spend time with the ‘bad’ parent, the one who is ruining everyone’s fun. Contact, even when indirect such as a phone call or a text message, can be even labelled ‘harassment’ in some cases.

Subliminal programming of a sort has been inflicted on the child, a form of emotional manipulation and psychological abuse. Subtly but most certainly, the child will realise that the alienating parent is delighted when the child ‘chooses’ not to spend time with the other parent. The child may even be rewarded for contact refusal. These patterns of contact refusal are the first signs that the child is being alienated.

Do any of these signs sound familiar to you?

If you face these challenges, know you’re not alone. I’ve been through all this myself, with over 20 years of experience, and I am now reunited with my children. I am here to offer support with daily posts on social media and also with the coaching I offer. Feel free to reach out to me anytime—I’m here to help.

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Charlie McCready -Coaching offer

My daily posts aim to spread awareness and empower you with a greater understanding of alienating behaviours. Alienation from our child creates traumatic grief in our lives. It is one of the hardest but most misdiagnosed, under-supported, and covert forms of abuse of us and our children.

I’m glad to say the amazing parents I have the honour and pleasure of working with talk of gaining emotional and mental resilience and peace of mind in just a few weeks (the 9-step program is 10 weeks). It has been described as ‘the best investment you can make’. It helps you understand and deal with your alienated child/ren, the alienating parent, plus how to overcome and survive the many challenges. Please send me a message if you are interested to know more, and I can send you testimonials and further details on what the program/coaching covers and the benefits you could gain.

I also do 1-2-1 coaching. Sometimes, people prefer to do these private sessions with their partner who is keen to support and get a better understanding. I have also helped many alienated children, and I am always happy to accommodate this when possible, and when it is most beneficial.

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