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Narcissist & Parental Alienators : facts

Narcissistic alienating parents are characterised by a self-centred, manipulative, and exploitative nature. They prioritise their own needs, desires, and self-image above the well-being of others, including their children. Here are some key points:

Lack of empathy: Narcissistic individuals often struggle with empathy, which is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. They have difficulty recognising and validating the emotional experiences of their children or anyone else in their lives. Their focus is primarily on themselves and their own needs.

Manipulative and controlling behaviour: Narcissistic parents tend to manipulate and control those around them to maintain a sense of power and superiority. They may use tactics such as gaslighting, guilt-tripping, emotional manipulation, and coercive control to assert dominance and maintain control over their children.

Exploitation of relationships: They view relationships as opportunities for personal gain rather than genuine connections based on mutual care and support. They may exploit their partner’s and their children’s love and loyalty to serve their own agenda, using them as extensions of themselves rather than recognising their autonomy and individual needs. This also goes for other family members and work associates, in fact, anyone in their lives.

Lack of genuine love and care: Narcissistic individuals struggle to experience and express genuine love and care for others. Their primary focus is obtaining admiration, attention, and validation. As a result, their relationships, including those with their children, lack the depth, emotional connection, and authentic care that healthy relationships require.

Superficial charm and manipulation: They often appear charming, charismatic, and even loving in the early stages of a relationship. However, their behaviour tends to be manipulative, self-serving, and inconsistent over time. Their actions are primarily driven by a need for control, admiration, and validation rather than genuine care and concern.

They lose interest when someone no longer ‘serves’ them. When someone calls out their behaviour, they’ll go on the attack to protect their interests/lies. It’s important to recognise that not all alienating parents are narcissistic, and not all narcissistic parents engage in parental alienation. But when these two dynamics intersect, the results can harm and damage the child’s well-being and the parent-child relationship.

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Hands & Nails energy

Human hands glow, but fingernails release the most light, according to a recent study that found all parts of the hand emit detectable levels of light.

Not only does nail polish and plastic nails block the flow of energy, the toxins in the products have been found in the bloodstream within 10 minutes of application.

Self Sabotage

Stop making yourself poor, stop saying you don’t have, that you don’t get enough, that you earn little.

Because if you live declaring poverty, poverty is what you’re going to get.

Also, break that bad habit of playing the victim.

You’re never gonna get better like this.

The first thing you need to change is your SELF-CONCEPT.

You are not poor, you are just broke.

The money will come, you will get it.

But first you must get a new state of mind.

Remember that your Financial status is only a reflection of your mental state.. so if in your mind you see money, you see wealth, you see opportunities, you see progress, soon, that will be reflected in your pockets.

The second thing to improve, is your evaluation.

Don’t settle for small things, go for big.

Learn to manage when you have, do not spend for spending define your priorities well

The third thing to improve is your language.

Change your words.

There are people who talk all day about illnesses or that they don’t get enough.

You ask them how you’re doing, and they answer almost reluctantly: “Here, sort of.” “Having a good time” “here with nothing, on the edge of indigence.” Others say: “you don’t earn, but you enjoy.” ”

If you realize, those are expressions that become seeds of more need..

Change your words, move to the wealth lane.

When they ask you how you are, reply with attitude: “One million. “Advancing the whole machine””. Nice. ” ” Positive. “Your words create a new vibration.đź’Ż

Self Regulation

“If you cant self-regulate your emotions, your relationships will be chaos.

If you cant co-regulate with your partner, your inner world will be chaos.

Healthy relationships require learning both skills, not just relying on one.

Co-regulation requires a certain degree of Self-regulation. If you are not able to work through the more intense feelings around frustration, anger and resentment before turning to your partner, you may not experience co-regulation, and instead you will simply trigger each other – the opposite of co-regulation.

Also, co-regulation is not about using “I feel” statements to cover over the resentment or anger underneath the words. It starts with working with what you’re feeling in a way that leads to constructive, collaborative and emotionally safe dialogue.

Talking about what’s happening inside you – in a way that feels emotionally safe to the other person. This is the importance and power of effective self-regulation.

Co-regulation then becomes easeful, which also contributes to deeper self-regulation, and a positive ripple effect is formed in the relationship with the foundation of emotional safety for everyone involved. This is the beginning of deeper, more soulful and nourishing forms of intimacy.

When it comes to relationships between Men & Women, I’ve seen people telling women that a “real” man will be able to “hold space” for a woman regardless of how she speaks to him. This is just leading women into a fantasy version of relationships. Men respond to Women, just as Women respond to Men. If he brings his unprocessed anger to you, that impacts you. If you bring criticism and blame to him, that impacts him. It’s not because he’s not a ‘real man’, it’s because he’s not a robot.

It’s time to let go of those wounded teachings around relationships, and discover the art of true intimacy.

Everyone, no matter gender, benefits from learning more effective forms of self-regulation, co-regulation and a more collaborative style of communication that supports both.”

— Serdar Hararovich

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Mars message for men

MARS, now moving through its retrograde shadow, is heading straight into some heavy clashes. The first real hit builds up this Sunday/Monday as our masculine energy takes a shameful blow from both the SUN and CHIRON. At the same time, VENUS is preparing for some equally diabolical work before she makes her shift into righteously ordained Sagittarius late next week.

One thing I must say, when men avoid facing their own wounds, they carry a hidden weapon. Unexamined pain is volatile; it spills out into the world, often hitting the people closest to them. Avoidance turns inward suffering into outward damage. By refusing to look within, they become haunted by shadows that demand expression—whether through anger, control, or callous detachment. Real strength isn’t in pretending the pain doesn’t exist—it does—it’s in summoning up the courage to sit with it, to understand it, and to prevent it from wreaking havoc on others. And those “others” are done with that chit.

No one’s exempt from this energy. In the wake of the eclipses, these coming days lead us into Thursday’s Full Moon—the most intense Supermoon of the year.

~ Ang Stoic

For more about this, join Sunday’s live Cosmic Bus with Ang Stoic: https://angstoic.com/2020/04/catching-the-cosmic-bus-with-ang/

[Art: Andrea Kowch]