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Charlie Mc Cready
An alienated parent experiences profound emotional turmoil, feeling trapped between a rock and a hard place. They are often isolated from their child due to the alienating tactics of the other parent, which can lead to overwhelming loneliness and confusion. The deep sense of loss, akin to a ‘living bereavement’, encompasses not just the physical absence of their child but also the loss of the once-strong emotional bond. The alienated parent feels helpless, unable to protect their child from further harm, and may experience anguish and betrayal as their child parrots negative statements from the alienating parent.
To navigate this hugely difficult situation, alienated parents can seek support through counselling to express their emotions, develop coping strategies, and gain perspective. In the case of the coaching I do, we often work in small groups, which can be incredibly supportive and/or one-to-one work. Prioritising self-care, both physically and emotionally, is crucial. Learning about parental alienation, maintaining boundaries, and considering legal recourse when necessary can empower. Focusing on reconciliation rather than retaliation when interacting with alienated children is crucial. Recognising and addressing these complex emotions is the first step toward healing and potentially rebuilding the parent-child relationship.
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Parental Alienation is a “ Dark Art “ Charlie Mc Cready
A “dark art” typically refers to a skill, practice, or technique that is perceived as secretive, manipulative, or unethical, often used to achieve a hidden or harmful agenda. Parental alienation could be considered a “dark art” because it involves one parent deliberately manipulating and influencing a child to reject or distance themselves from the other parent. This process often involves psychological tactics, emotional manipulation, and even outright lies to create a negative perception of the targeted parent. It’s secretive in nature, aiming to erode the child’s relationship with the other parent through tactics that can be harmful to the child’s emotional well-being and the overall family dynamic. The term “dark art” reflects the covert and harmful nature of such behaviours in the context of parental alienation.
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Reactive Abuse
Learning to love yourself after Narcissistic Abuse
It was an awakening via ” mania ” , the 2nd time that revealed how I had to release all the abuses as a targeted wife , and wrote about my successes up to that point .
Parenting myself , was unconditional love as best I could , reading the inside out reality of forgiveness , love and acceptance.
Decades of projected responsibility and blame were eventually released and I realized that as my best parents, I would never allow myself to be degraded again.
While I knew something was extremely ” off” about ex’s code and character, it was years before I had a name for the distorted partner. Narcissist encompassing all his behaviors.
Narcissist are not immune to other Narcissists
Many years ago, I realized he had met his true twin .
Your body tells you that you’re with a Narcissist
False Self vs True Self in Narcissist
Watch out for the Narcissist Mother In Law
A very covert narcissist, it was years before she was openly hostile and witnessing the exchange , he did absolutely nothing .
It was so acute, so vulgar that I walked away, preferring to take a walk on the beach.. he followed. I recall saying , that I’d give him a divorce so he could be with his Mother.
He said ” I’ll divorce her , before I divorce you”. He had a lifetime of trauma bonding and confidential conversations with her , and in the end he targeted me for all the feminine energies that had not been kind to him, as I reflected his distortions back to him, the opportunity to have me disposed of arose and he ran with it.
No care for our sons, nor me, it was always about him and that hasn’t changed, it has gotten much worse.
Never saying I’m sorry – Toxic Family Members – Sherrie Campbell PhD
He did say I’m sorry, once … “ blame me for everything “ was his next part of his apology
It is very difficult to heal from apologies you never received. Apologies for the lies, the manipulation, the emotional abuse, the neglect, the physical, sexual, and financial abuse. The apologies for being able to hurt you in any way, especially because you are their family.
Toxic family members don’t apologize. They do not take ownership of the emotional wounding they cause to you. They would rather die and go to their grave than to apologize and actually take accountability for who they are and the damage they have caused. In their mind, the way they have treated you is your fault. Convenient.
You must move on without these apologies. Even if they apologized, it would be likely have a dig attached to it such as “sorry you’re so sensitive.” The mindset to hold is that it is possible to heal without the apologies you deserves to receive. Healing is an inside job and is directed more by your efforts and personal work than apologies from people who are not sorry. .
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