Tag: wisdoms

Slowing Down

“How brave you are for slowing down. For not finishing that to-do list.

How courageous you are for not crossing that finish line, because your body said “enough.”

How fearless you are for choosing the quiet of your soul over those voices driving you always towards more.

How bold, how rebellious –

you, out there,

honoring your own natural rhythm,

going against the culture’s breakneck speed.

We tend to make heroes of those hungry with ambition, relentlessly doing, producing always more.

We applaud those who refuse to stop or rest. Who push themselves so hard in the name of achievement, that they sacrifice their body and soul and heart in the process. We celebrate those who are ill or aging but never show it, never slow down, never reveal a moment of vulnerability.

This drivenness can be heroic, at times. It can be necessary for our survival or the greater good.

But,

I want to make heroes of those who slow down.

I want to make heroes of those who listen to their bodies, who do not strive for more than what the soul truly needs.

I want to make heroes of those who do not force or push, but surrender to each moment as it opens.

I want to applaud those who may not be driven towards success as we know it, but instead are nurturing something deep and subtle and needed.

I want to celebrate those brave enough to cease all doing, even for a second, and sit with the ache in their hearts. A task many find harder than summiting the highest peak.

I want to make heroes of those who honor their limitations.

Who are unable to keep up with the busy-ness of our times, yet show up to each profound, necessary moment.

It is truly an act of courage and rebellion to do any such thing, in a world demanding you resist your own self, your own rhythm, your own soul.

And the paradox is, that often when we cease our incessant doing, even for a minute, and listen to that quiet voice within, we discover what it is we absolutely must do, and what instead can fall away.

We finally hear the call towards what serves our soul, and what then will serve the world. Nothing more, nothing less.

A hero is simply someone brave.

So come, be softly brave.

Be a new, quieter kind of hero.

Few may applaud, it’s true, but your soul certainly will.”

~Leyla Aylin

art: Arantza Sestayo

The awakening

“It’s dark because you are trying too hard. Lightly child, lightly.

Learn to do everything lightly.

Yes, feel lightly even though you’re feeling deeply. Just lightly let things happen and lightly cope with them.

I was so preposterously serious in those days…

Lightly, lightly – it’s the best advice ever given me…

So throw away your baggage and go forward. There are quicksands all about you, sucking at your feet, trying to suck you down into fear and self-pity and despair.

That’s why you must walk so lightly. Lightly my darling…”

( ✍️ Aldous Huxley )

Art : Autumn Skye – “The Awakening”

Granny Advice

Advice from the Grandmother

“Cure yourself, with the light of the Sun and the rays of the Moon.

With the Sound of the river and the waterfall.

With the swaying of the Sea and the fluttering of birds.

Heal yourself, with the mint and mint leaves,

with neem and eucalyptus.

Sweeten yourself with lavender, rosemary, and chamomile.

Hug yourself with the cocoa bean and a touch of cinnamon.

Put Love in tea instead of sugar

And take it looking at the Stars

Heal yourself, with the kisses that the wind gives you and the hugs of the rain.

Get strong with bare feet on the ground and with everything that is born from it.

Get smarter every day by listening to your intuition, looking at the world with the Eye of your forehead.

Jump, Dance, Sing, so that you live happier.

Heal yourself, with beautiful Love,

and always remember..

You are the Medicine. ”

María Sabina – Advice from the Grandmother

Artist: Marika Campeti

Pairing by Whispers from the Heart

Intensity

“They will call you “”crazy”” because you are, because you were born with the gift of seeing things differently and that scares them.”

They’re going to call you “intense” because you are, because you were born with the value well placed to allow yourself to feel it all fully and that intimidates them.

They’re going to call you “selfish” because that’s right, because you found out that you’re the most important thing in your life and that doesn’t suit them.

You’re going to be called in many ways, with many judgments, for a long time, but stay firm on yourself and what you want, and I promise you one day they’re going to call you to say, “thank you for existing.”

-Frida Kahlo

Julia Roberts – Moved on

Julia Robert’s once said: One day, they’ll realize what they had in you. They’ll see the depth of your heart, the strength in your spirit, and the value they once overlooked. But by then, you’ll be someone far beyond what they could have ever imagined. You will have grown—into someone who no longer seeks their approval, no longer waits to be chosen, no longer needs their recognition to feel whole.

The space they left, the moments they dismissed you, the times they made you feel invisible—they were all silent gifts in disguise. Because in their absence, you found yourself. You learned to appreciate your own worth, to stand tall without needing anyone else to confirm your value. You built a life that is full, rich, and complete—not because of them, but because of you.

And when they finally wake up to what they lost, it won’t matter anymore. Their regret will be theirs to carry, not yours to fix. You’ll have moved on—not out of spite, but because life called you forward, and you answered. You won’t need closure or apologies. You’ll just know, deep in your soul, that your worth was never dependent on their ability to see it.

By the time they recognize who you were, you’ll be long gone—thriving, at peace, and completely unshaken by the realization they took too long to have.

–

Good Woman

Every man hopes to have a good woman by his side, but many don’t realize that women with genuine hearts come with real, powerful emotions.

They feel everything deeply, love with intensity, and give their whole heart to the people they care about.

A good woman is loyal to the core, but her tender heart means she can also become frustrated, hurt,

or emotional when something doesn’t feel right.

This isn’t a sign of weakness

it’s simply because she cares so deeply.

Sure, she might have her moody days, but one thing is certain: when a good woman loves you, it’s a rare, precious kind of love.

It’s a love you won’t find anywhere else.

Value it.

Just you & Yourself

i grew up getting my feelings always invalidated and judge, i learned to be independent. i learned to suffer alone without having to rest on a shoulder. i learned how to wipes my own tears without helping of other. i grew up being listener; but never the listened one. the comforter never the comforted, the healer but never been healed. People aren’t always going to be there for you just as they promised to, so learn to stand up alone. at the end of the day, it’s just you & yourself.

Spring

Very slowly Spring sidles in.

She steps cautiously, as Winter

isn’t quite done yet.

Maybe there will be one last finale.

She bides her time, not wanting

to steal the show.

She has lifted the sun slightly,

not that you would notice immediately,

but the extra light is almost tangible.

The blossom remains tight in

the bud, almost ready to pop.

The daffodils have followed the

arrival of the hardy snowdrops,

who had little fear of Winter.

They are getting ready for their

grand show in March.

To my delight the birds are returning

their cheerful chortling in unison.

And my heart is feeling lifted,

Almost, as if, I am ready to be born again.

I’m nearing the end of the tunnel ..

I’m bursting with anticipation

for the glorious entrance of Spring ..

C.E. Coombes 🌼 Serendipity Corner

Artist Credit: Jo Grundy

Grief

Grief has a way of isolating us. The sort of sadness that overwhelms us with a heavy, aching heart from morning til night-time is hard to move through, and we have to do it slowly, one day at a time.

As Khalil Gibran said in The Prophet: “Love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation” We feel detached from the rest of the world, contained in our body vessels and moving through the day as if we’re not really here at all. Who are we now? For alienated parents with their children gone from their lives, they hardly feel like a parent anymore, though they are still parents, most definitely, and always will be. The loss leaves a void. We don’t want to fill it because we want to feel the ‘missing’ and the sadness keeps them in mind. It’s scary to have to rethink who we are and repurpose our lives.

Will we ever feel happy again? Yes. But it doesn’t happen overnight. We find moments. We figure out how to live our lives without the one/s we love. We become unafraid again. We treat ourselves as someone we love. Each day, we take one step in front of the other, and we move forward doing the best we can. And when we need to rest, we rest. Along the way, we do find peace, love and happiness again.

If you are going through parental alienation, know you’re not alone. I’ve been through it myself. Personally and professionally, I have over 20 years of experience. I am reunited with my children and here to offer support with daily posts on social media and also with the coaching I offer. Feel free to reach out to me anytime.

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