Tag: distorted energy

Nark lack trust

Isn’t it ironic?⁠
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Once you’ve caught the narcissist cheating, THEY won’t trust YOU again.⁠
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It’s like they consider it a betrayal that you discovered THEIR betrayal and will often successfully make YOU feel like the one in the wrong.⁠
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Thus begins the endurance test of blame-shifting and finger-pointing, with you as the accused. Once you discover the true character of the narcissist, you will be hard-pressed to make it through a single day where you aren’t accused of all kinds of wrongdoings… many of which are utterly absurd, but more importantly, entirely false.⁠
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Suffering from narcissistic abuse when everything you’ve tried just isn’t working can leave you feeling hopeless. ⁠
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The one thing we all face after suffering through narcissistic abuse: that endless feeling of being hopelessly alone…that no one understands our struggles or heartache.⁠
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I know how you feel — I’ve been there myself – and there is almost no worse feeling in the world. The feeling that you’re in a never-ending nightmare.⁠
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But life doesn’t have to be that way.⁠
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I dug my way out of the nightmare, and you can, too, with the nurturing and transformative Essential Break Free Bootcamp – the narcissistic abuse recovery program that’s so effective, therapists are referring their own clients to it! ⁠
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Love. Xo

Kim

Stop Rescuing in Love

This is where I’m at.

I’m learning where my caring, loving responsibility for another person ends.

I’m ride or die. Unwavering. Loyal like a MF’er.

But I’m not going down on your sinking ship. I’m not pulling you from your depths. If you want to heal, you will and I’m here for it. But YOU have to do your own work. I can’t do it for you.

I will hold space and witness, my light a beacon to show you the way out of the storm and darkness. It’s up to you and your free will what direction you move in, or not. Stay if you must. I’m not coming in after you though.

Narcissist Credo; Diminish & Isolate

A Narcissist’s design and scheme to diminish and isolate people from one another – Divide and Conquer! Narcissists USE triangulation on a regular basis to shore up their fake image through compartmentalizing people and information – this keeps their lies hidden from one person to the next.

https://afternarcissisticabuse.wordpress.com/2022/01/27/a-narcissists-design-and-scheme-to-diminish-and-isolate-people-from-one-another-divide-and-conquer-narcissists-use-triangulation-on-a-regular-basis-to-shore-up-their-fake-image-through-compartmen/

Countering by NPD

Countering when used frequently can be an abuse tactic. It is not just simply disagreeing with someone – it is chronically opposing someone’s thoughts, emotions, perceptions, excitement — whatever the subject is. Narcissists use countering to keep you walking on eggshells, exhausted, silenced, and constantly on the defense. You don’t have to defend yourself or ask for permission for the right to exist. ♥️💯

narcissisticabuse #toxicpeople #toxicrelationships #manipulation #boundaries #shahidaarabi

Love Does Not Conquer All ; NPD

Narcissists teach us many things, most of which are harmful and soul-crushing. ⁠
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These are things that are difficult to accept if you’ve always wanted to see the good in people and give them the benefit of the doubt.⁠
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But, to survive in the world today, we must accept and internalize these things if we want to maintain dominion over our lives.⁠
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1 – Love doesn’t always conquer all. ⁠
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Thanks to Hollywood and various novels, we may have grown up believing love can conquer anything. Narcissists teach us that this isn’t true. As painful as it feels, we must learn when to walk away from something or someone that is damaging to our well-being. We must know when to let go.⁠
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2 – Heartless people exist.⁠
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The thing I hear most often? “I can’t believe there are people like this!” ⁠
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There are a LOT of heartless, cruel, and evil people in the world. It’s essential to accept this in order to create effective boundaries for ourselves and our relationships.⁠
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3 – Never try to raise an adult.⁠
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We are not here to care for grown adults as if they were our minor children. When we try to fix another individual, their problems, or influence their path, we are allowing them to avoid facing the consequences of their decisions and actions. What’s more, we’re not even helping ourselves out; we’re just taking on extra baggage.⁠
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4 – Even God can’t change them.⁠
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It’s a common response for folks to chime in and say that God can change narcissists. I’ve been in this field for ten years now and haven’t once seen that happen. Further, millions of people have stopped by my blog, and none of those folks have seen it happen either, nor have my many colleagues in mental health. ⁠
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I’m not talking about the act that many narcissists put on where pretend to have had The Divine Epiphany and suddenly turn into congregation member of the year. If you’re dealing with a narcissist, this is always an act.⁠
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5 – You are strong.⁠
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If you’ve managed to survive a relationship with a narcissist, you are one of the strongest people alive. If you survived a relationship with a narcissist, you can do ANYTHING.⁠


⁠Kim S
Your friend on the journey. xo ❤️

Sex Addiction

My worth, my love is no longer ignoring the reality of sex addiction and my desire not to involve myself in that energy.

As a survivor of childhood oral rape, intimate partner abuse and failed attempts to engage me in relationships have fueled my celibate state .

Sex is far from a sleep aide , and intimacy, trusting in a partner has not jelled , yet

As a Mom of 3 sons , I was drugged into Hell on Earth, and education and truths denied , and much has been distorted about the normal flow .

It’s very sad to sense that energy, and it’s often not noticed because I’m not seeking a casual sexual experience . I did not marry in an open marriage mind set , but in the shelter that dispelled the Predators.

For years o thought it was something I did to encourage the secually addicted, but I learned long ago it was not I. Pornorgraphy and Sex Addiction as everything was a disorder, labeled to profit the industry of death that has been psychiatry.

It’s open season now , as the chemical soup offered up , further alters our natural self and reversion to very low energy, primal and often distorted in unhealed trauma tries to benefit from those they consider ” weaker” .

Tie a knot in the end of your rope , and hang on as light and love washes you clean and your creative juices aide you in evolving New Earth .

Let it Flow , Let it Flow

I’m keeping this little light of mine , safe …ending cycles and generations of abuses that deserved healing .

My living death , deserves an autopsy , a burial and grieving for losses beyond human endurance , ignored by laws , society , religion, medicine 💊which is the rabbit hole we are unprepared for ..

Know your boundaries in this new earth , know all is not seen .

Know your gifts . Know ego is a passenger, not the driver Your ego works with your higher self in synergy and balance .Rest and Rejuvenate.

Let your burdens go ..free fall or leap into the safety of Divine Love and begin again ❤.

Much Love Much Peace Many Blessings 🙌

Dona Luna ✌

https://www.healthline.com/health/addiction/sex#outlook

Without getting their hands dirty the Narcissistic wants you dead

** A fictional short story about Narcissism⁣⁣
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When I met Alyssa, she was a sweet, vibrant woman who had built up her business in only eighteen months. She lived three houses down from me and would often invite me in for coffee after my morning run. That was…until she met Ethan.⁣⁣
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I always felt there was something “off” about Ethan, but Alyssa thought he was a prince. He moved in with her shortly after they started dating and I began to see her less and less until the only time I would see her was when she left for work.⁣⁣
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The last time I saw her, she looked old and broken… an apparition of the woman she’d once been. She’d stopped me during my jog and gave me a worn leather journal and told me that if anything ever happened to her, to give it to the authorities. Then, she hurried back to her house, looking over her shoulder. It occurred to me that she was afraid of someone seeing her speaking to me. In hindsight, I know that person was Ethan.⁣⁣
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Then it happened. She disappeared. Per her instructions, I notified the authorities and submitted her diary as evidence. They arrested Ethan, who was later released because they couldn’t tie him to any concrete evidence that connected him to her disappearance.⁣⁣
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During the investigation of their shared residence, remnants of her self-esteem were found on the soles of Ethan’s shoes, her sense of hope was found hacked to pieces in the backyard, her happiness was found in the tire tread of Ethan’s SUV, and her will-to-live was extracted bit-by-bit from the garbage disposal. In the kitchen cupboard, they found her soul, which had been ground into powder to make tea.⁣⁣
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In spite of all of the circumstantial evidence, it wasn’t enough to convict Ethan. But, they don’t know what I know. A Narcissist can annihilate you without ever laying a hand on you.⁣⁣
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It was later discovered through expert analysis of her journal entries that it took two years, three months, and ten days for her to disappear.⁣⁣
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Copyright 2022 Kim Saeed⁣⁣
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