Wait for the right one

There’s no perfect person out there waiting to be found by you. But there’s certainly those who are much better for you than others. My hope is that you choose the one who lights up when they see you and hugs you tightly when you need it most. And most of all, I hope you choose the person who gives you the support and freedom you need to fully express yourself so that you never have to suppress who you are and pretend to be anyone you re not.

~ Jillian Turecki

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Parental Alienation – Getting out Alive / Charlie McCready

I lived through and overcame what we commonly call “parental alienation.” Mine was (on the scale through mild and moderate) in the severe range. I endured lies, constant criticism, emotional and financial abuse, damaged property, and work suffering under the weight of the stress. For over 10 years of a so-called marriage, I faced a living nightmare. Many of us feel we can tolerate it for the sake of our children. Even if we anticipate that the madness will escalate if we leave, most of us have no idea just how far an alienating parent is prepared to go until it’s actually happening. Nor do many of us realise the weaponising and parentifying of our children may have been going on for some time already, and worse, our children are enmeshed, and don’t know they’re being psychologically manipulated and abused, and that what’s going on is disordered pathogenic parenting from the parent coercively controlling them, turning them against us. It’s heartbreaking to witness the extent of their psychological ‘splitting’ and cognitive dissonance – where they cope by viewing one parent as all good, the victim/hero, an the other as all bad, bearing the full weight of the projection and blame. It’s hard to cope with the lies, false narratives and terrible loss to ourselves, and our children (who do not even realise their loss). ⁠

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Alienating a child from a parent is psychological abuse. Alienators—whether mothers, fathers, or other family members—are abusive, destroying the natural attachment bond between a loving parent and their child. To those of you reading this because you or someone you love is enduring this tremendously challenging and needless ordeal: it can be overcome – you can survive. I did, and you can too. Focus on the present, not the past; on love, not loss. Nurturing your own well-being is essential, not only for you but also for your children. Alienated children sometimes carry a terrible burden of doubt, guilt or shame, even grief when they find out what’s actually happened. Seeing you happy, healthy, and thriving, with healthy boundaries, offers them relief and shows them the way back to a loving parent.

Whether you’re in contact with your children or not, you can get through this—and doing so is a gift both to yourself and to them. I’m here to help. My coaching is dedicated to supporting alienated mothers, fathers (sometimes with supportive partners joining us, too). Please do reach out if you’d like to learn more about the coaching I offer.

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Tell me where it hurts

I know you don’t feel safe right now.

I know it feels like the world is shifting beneath you, faster than the time it takes to find your feet.

I know how uncertain everything feels to you and how much pain you are carrying.

I could tell you that it will get better soon, that you can close your eyes and magically return to that place where everything felt okay, that from here on out it’s going to be an easy ride.

But I won’t tell you any of that because it would be a lie, and I would never lie to you.

The truth is I don’t know if it gets better soon and returning isn’t much of an option now you’ve seen what you’ve seen, now you’ve lived what you’ve lived, now you’ve lost what you’ve lost.

What I can tell you is that you are not alone. That I am right here with you and I will hold your hand for as long as it takes for you to steady yourself and as you learn how to move those feet forwards again.

It’s not easy, this life.

Some days come along and knock you down harder than you’ve ever been knocked down before. And then another comes by and does the same, and you wonder how you ever managed to get up the first time.

And it hurts. It really, really hurts.

Tell me where it hurts.

Tell me, everything. I’m listening.

Give me your language for each of your pains, your unending griefs, your tired aches. Show me your wounds and let them breathe. Allow your heart to crack wide open as you sift through its broken walls to see what still fits and if new pieces have been made.

Does any of it still fit? Has your heart changed shape and size? Does it sound the same as it beats and bleeds and bleeds?

Do you know your heart?

I don’t have easy answers for you, answers never did come easy for me, but I’ll sit with you in the questions for as long as you need; those deep unanswerable questions that live in my bones and carry me home.

So take all the time you need, love. I’m here. I’m right here with you.

( ✍️ Sarah Mariann Martland )

Art : Divmon – ‘The Power of Friendship’

The Reckoning of Sovery

The Reckoning of Sovereignty

March 8 Mayan astrology

Cib holds the past. Edznab ensures the past does not hold you.

Imagine standing before an elder who knows everything about you—not just who you are now, but who you’ve been before, the choices you’ve made across lifetimes, the patterns you’ve inherited from your ancestors. This elder is not here to comfort you. They are here to test you. To see if you’re ready to own your truth, to stand fully in your power, to cut away anything that keeps you from clarity.

This is Edznab.

It is not a soft energy. It does not wait for you to feel ready. It moves like a blade through illusion, a flash of lightning that reveals exactly what you need to see. It does not ask if you want to know the truth. It simply shows you. And once you see it, there is no going back.

Today is about decisions. Edznab does not dwell in emotion or overthinking. It values precision. It values discipline. It asks you to act—not out of fear or impulse, but from a place of certainty.

Something in your life is ready to shift. You already know what it is.

🫣How This Energy Moves Through the World

• People will be more blunt. Expect directness, even from those who usually soften their words.

• Quick endings. If something has been on the edge of ending—a job, a relationship, a habit—today may be the breaking point.

• No patience for inefficiency. Conversations, projects, and decisions will move fast. Anything that drags or feels unclear may be cut short.

• Challenges that force clarity. If you’ve been avoiding a decision, today may push you into making it.

The world is sharpening itself today. You may feel it in others, in conversations, even in small, everyday interactions.

🫣What Makes This Day Hard

• The truth is non-negotiable. If you’re not ready to face something, today will still bring it forward.

• Letting go can feel uncomfortable. Even when you know it’s right, finality is not always easy.

• Decisions feel permanent. What is cut today does not easily return.

🤔The Gift of This Energy

• Clarity replaces confusion. There’s no more guessing—you know what needs to happen.

• Freedom from unnecessary weight. Whether it’s emotional baggage or something external, letting go brings relief.

• A sharper, stronger path forward. What remains after today is what truly belongs in your life.

The Power of This Day

Edznab does not linger. It comes, it reveals, and it moves on.

If you stand in this energy today, it is because you are ready.

The choice is yours. The blade is steady.

What will you do with the truth that has been revealed?

The Drama of the Gifted Child

Opening The Drama of the Gifted Child by Alice Miller felt like someone handed me a map to a place I’d been lost in forever—my own childhood. The insights hit hard, peeling back layers I didn’t even know were there, and suddenly, so much about myself made sense. It’s been a lifeline for understanding the quiet wounds I carried and how they shaped me. Here are nine lessons that unpacked that puzzle for me.

1. The Gifted Child Adapts to Survive – Miller defines the “gifted” child not as a prodigy, but as one who learns early to read and meet their parents’ emotional needs, often at the cost of their own. This sensitivity becomes a survival tool, muting their true feelings to secure love or avoid rejection.

2. Repression Hides Pain – To cope with neglect or unmet needs, the child buries emotions—anger, sadness, longing—in a subconscious vault. Miller explains this repression keeps them functional as kids but leaves a hollow ache that surfaces later as depression or emptiness.

3. Parental Needs Trump the Child’s – When parents, often unconsciously, lean on the child for validation or stability (narcissistic or otherwise), the child becomes their mirror. Miller shows how this role reversal stunts the child’s ability to grow into their authentic self.

4. The False Self Takes Over – To please caregivers, the child crafts a “false self”—a polished façade of obedience or achievement. Miller warns this masks the “true self,” leaving them disconnected from their real desires and identity into adulthood.

5. Grandiosity Masks Vulnerability – Some gifted children swing to grandiosity—overachievement or perfectionism—as a shield against feeling worthless. Miller ties this to early praise that tied their worth to performance, not their inherent being.

6. Depression Signals Denied Needs – That lingering sadness or numbness? Miller sees it as the true self crying out, a sign of suppressed childhood needs—like being seen or heard—that were never met. It’s not weakness; it’s a call to heal.

7. Healing Requires Mourning – You can’t just think your way out of this, Miller insists. Recovery means facing the grief of what you didn’t get—love, safety, freedom to feel—and letting it wash through you, a painful but freeing step to reclaiming yourself.

8. Parents Pass Down Their Wounds – Miller highlights a cycle: parents who were unseen or unloved as kids often repeat it, unaware their own unresolved pain shapes their parenting. Breaking this means seeing it clearly, not just blaming them.

9. Truth Sets You Free – The path to wholeness, Miller argues, is uncovering your story—acknowledging the hurt, the adaptations, the lost pieces—and honoring them. It’s not about fixing the past but living truer to yourself now.

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The Truman Show-Fake /Controlled Reality – Charlie McCready

In The Truman Show, Jim Carey plays Truman Burbank, an insurance salesman living a seemingly idyllic life. As an audience, we know the truth, but Truman is unaware that he’s living in a constructed 24/7 TV reality show. As props and scenery fall, supporting actors get their lines wrong, Truman becomes increasingly suspicious that something is amiss. The truth unfolds about his existence, prompting him to seek freedom from the fabricated world that he discovers has been overseen by ‘Big Brother-type’ TV producers. Not only is this 1998 film prescient of the rather Orwellian, omnipresent surveillance and the corrupt, controlling, profit-over-people systems fully in operation today, but it’s also quite easy to relate this story to the experience of the enmeshed, coercively controlled, alienated child.

As with Truman, alienated children may ‘remember’ events that never occurred, influenced by insinuating, repetitive and conditioning information provided by a parent meticulously crafting an artificial construct in a controlled reality, shaping the understanding of the world. Shared persecutory delusions between the ‘aligned’ parent and the child, false memories, along with fixed false beliefs, are not uncommon in cases of parental alienation.

Trauma bonding is similar to what Truman experiences as he fears leaving everything he’s ever known and believed to be real. As with Stockholm syndrome, something that happens between a hostage and a kidnapper, a cult leader and their followers, and an alienating parent and their child, the captive/follower/alienated child stays entrapped and gets comfortable with their predicament either because they don’t see they’re entrapped or they think there’s no other choice – even if they sense something is amiss, as Truman does. Control and a severe imbalance of power hold the whole edifice up. Breaking free is daunting. Worse still, the child/captive believes they’re not safe outside; they might believe they need that person/the captor/controller to survive. For Truman and alienated children alike, the horrible realisation of being deceived, the shattering of a long-held illusion, requires their perception of reality to undergo profound change, which can be enormously challenging.

However, just as Truman breaks free, finds love, and starts to live his authentic life, our alienated children need to recognise their entrapment, see through the false narratives, and embark on a journey toward sovereignty and freedom, independent thinking and behaving. In the climactic scene, Truman overcomes obstacles as the show’s producers try to prevent him from leaving. He reaches the edge of the set and finds a hidden exit door. He steps outside and sees the massive studio set and vast artificial sky. Even then, when the shock of the subterfuge and confinement is revealed to Truman, the show’s creator and director tries to persuade him to stay. The alienating parent doesn’t want to lose control. It makes Truman’s decision to leave a powerful moment of liberation as he chooses freedom over everything that has defined his entire life. And so it can be with our alienated children.

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Send in the clowns -Glee Violette

This is going to be my most important post to date.

It is something I have been working on all week, to explain what is REALLY going on, and why, and who the real perps are, and what their end game is.

I am not the only one who has finally connected all the dots and got it – All of a sudden, very similar explanations are coming from all directions at once. Everyone is starting to get it!

This is going to be the Cliff Notes version. Very simply put, and using broad strokes to paint the picture. I am going to include links in the comments section so you can do deep dives yourself about any of the details.
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HERE IS THE OVERVIEW

America’s government is to be demolished, and replaced with structure run as a corporation. “The Free Market” will replace democracy. And the most successful capitalists will run it.
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This is not something new. It has been in the works since Ayn Rand wrote her novels that started the Libertarian movement in the 1950s.

Step by step, Libertarians have built an organization that usually masqueraded as something else, or used a different title.

Their most successful method has been to whip up anger against the government, through all forms of media, and manipulate voters into distrusting it. This is best done through causing fear and hatred against “undeserving” people, who seem to be getting rewards that are being denied to THEM.

People swept up in the anti-government movement have committed civil disobedience and even domestic terrorism in the name of “freedom.” Perpetrators of the Oklahoma federal building bombing, or the Bundy National Park standoff, have been a part of the same cause, even if they didn’t realize it, and thought they were acting independently as “patriots”.

MAGA is a totally Libertarian movement – and most members do not even know or care that it is. MAGA thinks of itself as followers ONLY of Trump. They are, for the most part, blissfully unaware of the principles of Libertarianism, and embrace just his own entertaining agenda of revenge against everyone he hates, and that is enough for them.

Same goes for the Religious Right. They are not openly embracing Libertarianism. But the leaders who have risen to the top have rewritten Christianity into a religion where money and power are the primary goals – Faith is mandated, obedience is rewarded with earthly goods, violent retribution is righteous, and judgment is THEIRS, not the Lord’s.

Such cynicism aligns perfectly with the principles of Ayn Rand’s philosophy of “Objectivism” – basically that people should be free to follow their self-interests and take whatever they can get. Her books praised the “independent spirit” of “rugged individualism”, and mocked altruism, charity and self-sacrifice for others.
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Libertarians have rebranded their political movement simply as “Captialism”, and go by the name “Republican” now. But whatever name they go by, whether it is “Christian Nationalist,” or “Tea Party,” or “Proud Boys” or a thousand and one other names, the agenda is the same.

The goal is what THEY now call “freedom” and “liberty”. Namely, no limits by government.

They want to remove all limits on business in particular. No taxes or regulations. No rules or penalties regarding working conditions or compensation. No rules or penalties regarding consumer safety.

But they also want to remove all societal limits as well – no rules or restrictions on speech or on actions that oppresses, separates out, culls, or banishes others.

Their goal is to create a country governed strictly by “merit” – namely, them.
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They envision a new type of government, run like a corporation.

The top echelon of the new government will be made up of the most successful capitalists. They will act like a Corporate Board, and will make all the major decisions concerning military and trade treaties, and approve funding for domestic necessities like power grids, and infrastructure to support commerce, and financial institutions.

Things that serve the population, like healthcare, education, social security, mail, and welfare support will be either privatized or turned over to religious charitable organizations. There will be profits to be made by both.

No more federal funding will be needed.

And, there will be a return to the class structure of the 1950s. Women and minorities will once again be financially forced back to “their place”, because nobody will be forced to hire them or give them equal pay.
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The Board will appoint their CEO. And as in business corporations, the CEO, although he will run the day-to-day operations, he will answer to THEM. (No, Trump has not yet figured this out, of course.)

Oh, there will still be elections. Just like stock-holders, the American voters will get to decide whether to approve or disapprove of the Board’s referendums and appointments. But the days of open elections will be over. The Board will put up THEIR slate of acceptable candidates.

We will have to take their word, though, on who won.

Trump made that very clear during his campaign, when he said over and over that we’d only have to vote this once, and never again. And when he thanked Elon for knowing so much about “those voting computers”.
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HOW DID WE GET HERE?

Just follow some of the most prominent Libertarians.

Ron Paul and Fred Koch were founders of the Libertarian movement. After his run for president failed in 1988, Ron Paul realized that Libertarian movement was being seen as a party of conspiracy theorists and cranks. So he and his son Rand (named for Ayn Rand) switched over to the Republican Party.

Fred Koch’s sons, Charles and David (The Koch Brothers), founded the Tea Party after the economic crash of 2008, and funded Libertarian candidates as Republicans throughout the country, winning many elections. The Tea Party is now known as the Freedom Caucus.

The Koch candidate for president in 2016 was Ted Cruz, but once Trump took the lead, they switched their support to him. Trump is not at all driven by patriotic, politcal, religious or philosophical values. He was in it strictly for himself. But that actually made it easier for them to work with him – all they had to do was play to his ego.

Meanwhile, the Mercer family, top Republican/Libertarian donors, financed Brietbart news and Cambridge Analytica, with Steve Bannon in charge. They had realized that spreading propaganda through the media was THE key to their agenda.

Conspiracies and supremacist propaganda flooded social media, radio, television, print – WHATEVER way possible – to inflame white working class people with jealousy, hate and fear, and motivate them to vote. Activists were sent into carefully chosen swing districts in both Great Britain and America to register people and get them to the polls.

To the entire world’s shock, Trump won the election here, and BREXIT won in Great Britain. Credit for both upsets were directly linked to Cambridge Analytica’s efforts.
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Trump’s presidency might have failed, but the movement went on. Rewriting, rebranding, and relitigating the past, brainwashing the population through the media to accept their new version of reality, and recharging them to fight for Trump all over again.

For four years they prepared to his return, writing reams of Executive Orders for him to sign on Day One. And the billionaire donors worked behind the scenes to entice, extort, and unify the Republican Party behind him.

The conservative billionaires funding the Heritage Foundation (creators of Project 2025) had found a new GURU in Curtis Yarvin, who preached that democratic governments need to be done away with completely, and become corporations instead, run by dictators.

Vice president JD Vance and his mentor, billionaire Peter Thiel, an advisor in Turmp’s first administration, are personal allies of his.
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WHAT IS NEXT?

To create a Corporate “government”, the OLD democratic government needs to be totally discredited and dismantled. People have to be manipulated to hate and distrust it, so they will not only allow it to be destroyed, they will cheer the destruction on.

In Europe, BREXIT, the withdrawal of Great Britain, caused great damage to the European Union. The same kind of “deep state” suspicions were circulated about the EU organization in Brussels, the economic growth in most countries slowed or halted completely, and the whole organization started to fall apart. Far right parties began to rise in power.

In America, “deep state” conspiracy theories became accepted as gospel. Trump’s Big Lie cause many people to lose faith in elections, and in just about every other institution of our goverment as well. The insurrectionists of January 6th were rebranded as patriots and when Trump was re-elected, we got Elon Musk.

Make no mistake. The destruction of our government departments and agencies is intentional. The cutting off of all humanitarian funding overseas and the demonization of immigrants and the deportation of “undesirables” is intentional. The antagonistic alienation of our allies is intentional, in order to blow up every military and trade treaty – and OBLIGATION – we have.

The chaos is intention – to distract us from putting all the dots together and see what is really going on.
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SO WHAT IS THE END GAME?

World-wide corporate governments, run by the elite captialists, who will carve up the world.

All the great Empires throughout history were no different. Same game, different name. The rich and powerful rule a rich and powerful elite class, and they in turn rule a vast underclass of obedient and well ordered workers, who live and die at their pleasure.

It does not matter if you call the ruling class a monarchy and aristocracy, or a premier and oligarchy, or a CEO with a board of directors, and top executives. The structure works the same.

Putin is a CEO. Xi is a CEO. Saudi prince MBS is a CEO.

Trump wants to be Putin’s equal and ally. He does not understand much. He does not even realize he is not the boss, that his Board of Libertarian Directors is totally in charge now, and that he is only their very useful figurehead, put front and center because of his cult status, to distract all of US.

But Trump DOES know at least that in order to stay at the top, he needs the most powerful allies he can get.

And our NATO allies just don’t cut it.

Putin and Xi together are much stronger. Trump wants Putin to be HIS ally instead.

And there you have it.
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Now that you know the basics, start paying attention to things that are coming out from credible, verified, documented, and corroborated sources. When you look at what is happening from this angle, suddenly everything starts to make sense.

LET ME MAKE ONE FINAL COMMENT

Libertarianism is not evil. Communism is not evil. Capitalism is not evil. But in the hands of evil people or organizations, ANY philosophy, religion, government, or economic system can become very evil indeed.
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This is the third and final part to my series of posts, “SEND IN THE CLOWNS”

I will repost parts 1 & 2 of in the comments section below.

We may not have much longer to share information like this. They need smoke and mirrors to distract us, so they can get their agenda done. The last thing they want is for all the confusion to clear.

There will be links to articles and sources in the comments section below. More will be added. You are most welcome to add what you discover as well.