Tag: Children

* new age = metaphysical

YOUR SUFFERING ISN’T FROM YOUR “EGO”, IT’S PTSD FROM YOUR DYSFUNCTIONAL CHILDHOOD ❤️

DEAR FRIENDS- For thousands of years the concept of “the ego” has been used to explain the reason why we harbor chronic fear, inner suffering, self-defeating attitudes and a painful sense of separation and isolation.

In both ancient (for example, Buddhism or Hinduism) and “New Age” philosophies, this imprisoning “ego” is seen as an inevitable aspect of human existence we must struggle with.

A “design flaw” in human nature, so to speak.

All of our problems in life are referred back to its limiting and crippling action.

And liberation from our lifelong suffering is said to be gained from gradually taming or dissolving “the ego” and thereby ending our inner pain and sense of separation and aloneness.

The theory sounds vaguely plausible and seems to make sense of everything.

But how much of our suffering and dissatisfaction in life DOES IT REALLY EXPLAIN?

I propose that there’s a far more exact and complete explanation for the distress said to be caused by the so-called “ego”.

In the light of a 21st century understanding of childrens’ early life experience, what early thinkers called “the ego”…

Is revealed to be nothing more than the PTSD from painful experiences we were subjected to in infancy, childhood and adolescence.

IN LIGHT OF MODERN KNOWLEDGE, THE CONCEPT OF “THE EGO” IS NOW AND FOREVER OUTMODED.

It was an innovative, but highly limited, way of trying to come to grips with our PTSD from early life mistreatment, before the awareness about childhood broke through in the early 20th Century.

Spirituality is evolving beyond ancient mystical concepts to a more real and liberating understanding!

It is FAR more exact and grounded in reality to name and face the actual painful things that really happened to you…

With your Mother and Father as well as the wider world…

Than to say “it’s my ego”.

No, it’s not “the ego”.

It’s the fear and guilt and shame and self-doubt and rage and hate and sadness and hurt that a person naturally and inevitably feels…

From genuinely damaging experiences during infancy, childhood and adolescence.

This greater clarity and insight makes loving and understanding yourself far easier.

And it makes releasing all the pain far more possible!

CLINGING TO THE CONCEPT OF “THE EGO” AS A WAY OF EXPLAINING YOUR EXPERIENCE MAKES YOU THINK YOU UNDERSTAND SOMETHING WHEN YOU ACTUALLY DON’T!

For example a person says “I’m always afraid- that’s my ego”.

Or “I’m afraid because I don’t realize I’m always connected to God/Source due to my ego” etc. etc.

But the true insight would be that the person is afraid because of scary things done to them by Dad, for example.

His shouting and screaming, his frightening level of chronic anger are the actual reason for the fear that haunts them.

See what I mean?

Or again a person might say that they’re terribly and chronically lonely.

They might be advised by an Eastern or “New Age” teacher that their “ego” is preventing them from seeing and feeling the love inside them and all around them.

But the real explanation would be, for example…

That their Mom was depressed or otherwise wounded when they were growing up and was unable to instill them with the primal sense of being loved and connected that they needed.

Mother IS the universe to an infant and young child.

If she can’t envelop us with love, we’re conditioned to feel and believe that there isn’t enough love in the world!

By vividly seeing and compassionately understanding the real-life reasons why we carry a burden of fear and pain…

How we became conditioned to suffer and struggle rather than to enjoy our innate capacity for happiness…

We’re FAR better equipped to permanently and completely break free!

I’ve always said that the greatest problem with the old spiritual paths- and the “New Age” ones too- is that they completely ignore the real source of people’s pain.

And that they therefore promise a path to liberation that never quite gets you home.

But you CAN get home!

Go beyond the outmoded thinking of the past and turn inward to the childhood roots of your self-doubt and despair, your guilt and shame, your fear and sorrow.

Remember, you weren’t born with ANY of that!

Face the buried fear and despair, pain and sorrow and let it all out at last.

Meet every speck and atom of your undeserved suffering with infinite tenderness and unconditional love for YOU!

And the inner peace and freedom you’ve forever longed for will grow and grow…

Until it’s natural and habitual…

And you live happily ever after!

LOTS OF LOVE- BRIELLE